Jewelry and dating

[wenlet]

Whenever I get questions that feel judgey about my love of jewelry I know that person isn’t getting a subsequent date

 

[twinzluvagrl]

Cheers to wearing what you want! I think your personality would shine through regardless! Don't hide your hobbies and interests! That's my own opinion though GL!

 

[Phoenixmed]

My opinion is wearing all of your collection would probably be too much, for first meeting. Could be overwhelming for many people and wrongly give impression about financial status or expectations, think you showing off etc. Probably Love bracelets, and a necklace if you wear one, is enough. Add more as you know and trust the person. Your collection sounds fabulous!!

 

[lolakitten]

Maybe its my age talking, but I say be your favourite version of you. Would you really want to be with someone who judged you after all? Life is too short and precious to pussyfoot around other people’s insecurities.

Be safe however, I think thats a valid concern 100%

 

[TC1]

I'm sure a lot of people would have no clue as to the value of your pieces. Wear what you like, when you like.

 

[deedeedor]

A lot guys dont know or dont care or pay attention to fashion haha

many of them have no clue

for safety, maybe wear according to where u go

otherwise i will wear what I normally wear so I meet some one who appreciate me and the things i appreciate haha

otherwise, wont it be a life time struggle?

 

[Cartier<3]

I completely understand how you feel as I am in the same boat. You will find someone who will love you for who you are. Stay firm in who you are and the right person will come to you. That being said, I did date someone who always jokingly called me bougie because of my jewelry and over time, it made me feel terrible. Subconsciously, I questioned whether I was actually bougie, what that meant about my character, what others thought about me, if I was buying too frequently, if it looked flashy, etc. I even tried to tone it down just to try to be more “down to earth” and casual. Well, we broke up years ago (for other reasons) and good riddance!!! Since then, I feel stronger about my identity and have unleashed my bouginess to a whole new level LOL! I’ve learned that I buy these pieces because they’re beautiful and make me happy. Jewelry pieces are works of art and therefore a form of self expression. Sometimes I wear a piece around the house just because I like it. I couldn’t care less about what others think. No one says anything about people who love to spend thousands on other hobbies like updating to the newest electronic product several times per year, golfing, buying a $10k bicycle, etc. so they shouldn’t judge you for buying jewelry. It says nothing about your character and how you’d be like as a partner. And I hate when people think you’re a gold digger- I think the opposite. There’s more of a chance the other person is the gold digger because I can obviously support myself financially lol. Let’s not get it twisted.

 

[Grande Latte]

I don't think you're overthinking it, I think it's a valid question!

After I got a divorce I decided whomever I date, I'll remain staunchly authentic and who I am so they can love me for ME.
However (lol) I did edit a few choices so as not to lead with a materialistic appearing foot forward.
I don't think it compromises who you are if you don't wear it all on the first date or 2. I'd still happily wear Loves and stuff but choosing not to wear every piece wouldn't compromise your authenticity imo.

I completely agree with this answer. I wouldn't overpack on first few dates. Perhaps just wear a regular Love or a JUC on its own. And see how things go. Perhaps the first few dates will be outdoors and more active, so wearing LOTS of jewelry will not be as convenient.

You have a vast collection. And if you stack everything on your wrist (think about it) the total price tag is a bit overwhelming for a simple, regular guy. But happy for a male gold digger. You're not overthinking. There are LOTS of guys looking for a women to support them especially these days. And they will charm your pants off.

 

[missie1]

I would be a bit reserved for the first few dates and slowly mix in more pieces as I got to know the individual. Have to be realistic as I only own nice jewelry and bags etc so one has to wear what they have. The loves are definitely fine for a first date. It establishes hey she likes nice things and a person has to like all of you. Your not defined by material items they are just nice to haves.