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americanroyal89

americanroyal89

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Hey everyone. I wanted to get your opinion on this topic.
I’m recently single and I think I’m ready to dip my toe into the dating world again. I realized that I purchased most of my collection in the last few years while still dating the same guy so I have not had to really think about it before.
But now that I’m potentially going to meet new people, I’m wondering what impressions my jewelry will make and if it’s the right first impression. I don’t want to come across as a gold digger because I buy my own. But also don’t want to come across as a provider/sugar daddy lol because I’m definitely an aspirational customer with one or two purchases a year lol.
Am I over thinking it?

Currently my daily jewelry consists of:
  • Love bracelet
  • Small love bracelet
  • Small juc
  • Xs d’amour bracelet
  • Trinity chain necklace
  • Tiffany T ring
  • Tiffany T link bracelet
I could take things off and only wear the loves (I’d prefer not to take those off) but that still may give the impression lol

I’m unsure and would love to hear everyone’s thoughts.
 
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I don't think you're overthinking it, I think it's a valid question!

After I got a divorce I decided whomever I date, I'll remain staunchly authentic and who I am so they can love me for ME.
However (lol) I did edit a few choices so as not to lead with a materialistic appearing foot forward.
I don't think it compromises who you are if you don't wear it all on the first date or 2. I'd still happily wear Loves and stuff but choosing not to wear every piece wouldn't compromise your authenticity imo.
 
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I'd think it's more HOW you wear your jewelry not WHAT you wear. Obviously it may be not the best idea to mention your stuff in every other sentence rather leave it uncommented.

Btw. I just got a comment on how casual I wear my jewelry :smile: .... whatever that means exactly.

On the other hand don't hide it, okay? It's still part of *you*. :wave:
 
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My thinking is go on a few dates wearing what you usually do and see how it goes, if you feel like you are getting certain comments or (unwanted) attention put on your jewelry then make a decision to take off of not. Dating isn't always easy so you should do what you most feel comfortable and confident with.
Good luck and have fun :heart:
 
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scheurin said:
I'd think it's more HOW you wear your jewelry not WHAT you wear. Obviously it may be not the best idea to mention your stuff in every other sentence rather leave it uncommented.

Btw. I just got a comment on how casual I wear my jewelry :smile: .... whatever that means exactly.

On the other hand don't hide it, okay? It's still part of *you*. :wave:
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Agree very much on how you wear it and pretty much agree with many others on wearing what you usually wear and what makes you happy.

For example, if I saw a girl wear here stack of Cartier and/or VCA on a date, in a way that she was very showy and flashy about her stack. Maybe making gestures to it, talking about it, taking photos of it or selfies with it, etc. Whether or not I knew her, it probably give me the impression of a very materialist individual.

But as you know, for many of us, these items are our daily pieces and we wear them "casually" so to speak because we are comfortable wearing them like we wear our clothes. We don't really show off our pieces in public (unless it's like a gala or something) or directly bring attention to them. Since they're daily, we probably don't pay that much attention to them. Once a while, I'm sure, we'll glance down and feel the joy of wearing what we love but that's pretty much it.

Hope that helps in your thought process!
 
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Thanks for the input :) yea it’s not that I want to not be myself, I just know first impressions matter lol. I’m also not very showy, but I do know that I’m fidgety and will often play with my ring or hair lol. So for me it’s just being anxious, but I can see how it would come across as trying to draw attention.
And if y’all think I’m over thinking jewelry that I wear every day….y’all should see my trying to plan an outfit. My room ends up looking like a battlefield of fallen clothes :lol:

I don’t know. Dating is a weird game for sure.
 
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americanroyal89 said:
Thanks for the input :smile: yea it’s not that I want to not be myself, I just know first impressions matter lol. I’m also not very showy, but I do know that I’m fidgety and will often play with my ring or hair lol. So for me it’s just being anxious, but I can see how it would come across as trying to draw attention.
And if y’all think I’m over thinking jewelry that I wear every day….y’all should see my trying to plan an outfit. My room ends up looking like a battlefield of fallen clothes :lol:

I don’t know. Dating is a weird game for sure.
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Dating IS weird. I figure if you’re meeting people in real life, they already know what jewelry you wear regularly. That was one perk of meeting people at the gym when I was single. They already knew what I looked like without makeup, without ”cute” clothing etc. They got to see the real girl...messy morning hair and all. I do agree with a previous poster, that most people don’t know Cartier or any luxury type jewelry anyway. Presenting yourself the way you’re most comfortable, adorned the way you feel best is probably the way to go. Your jewelry is part of you (I know from reading your previous posts) so I vote to just let it ride, be confident and see what happens. If it does seem to be a stumbling block as you navigate your newly single status, then you can always revisit the issue in the future.
 
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snowdog said:
Dating IS weird. I figure if you’re meeting people in real life, they already know what jewelry you wear regularly. That was one perk of meeting people at the gym when I was single. They already knew what I looked like without makeup, without ”cute” clothing etc. They got to see the real girl...messy morning hair and all. I do agree with a previous poster, that most people don’t know Cartier or any luxury type jewelry anyway. Presenting yourself the way you’re most comfortable, adorned the way you feel best is probably the way to go. Your jewelry is part of you (I know from reading your previous posts) so I vote to just let it ride, be confident and see what happens. If it does seem to be a stumbling block as you navigate your newly single status, then you can always revisit the issue in the future.
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Haha, sorry a bit OT, that’s actually how I met my future husband; at the gym :lol:
So he pretty much saw me with makeup, without makeup, all sweaty, etc. I didn’t wear jewelry to the gym (but buying and wearing luxury wasn’t that much of a thing for me back then; and also I wasn’t making as much money). But later down the line, when we started hanging out, outside of the gym, and as he went shopping with me; seemed pretty okay with my love of designer goods lol
 
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I can't speak for all gay men but from my experience there is definitely something to be said for "phasing pieces in" as you get to know someone. Maybe stick with just the Loves to start.

I think for dating new people it can come off as either materialistic or intimidating to wear all of that branded stuff at once. I believe on my first date with my fiancé I left the diamond rings at home and wore only the love bracelet - I can't remember if I wore a watch (would have been a fancy one at the time).

He never commented on them and when I wore the panthere ring in front of him one day he said "a wild jewelry appeared!" Not until long into our relationship did I let him find out what these cost. He didn't seem bothered because by that time he knew who I was and that it is secondary to the love I have for family and friends.

I don't think it's about hiding yourself - I think it's about within reason making others comfortable with you as a whole person rather than what you're wearing. Let them get to know whether you're funny or dry or creative or whatever you are without the distractions. Be authentic in your personality and everything you say but maybe avoid drawing excessive attention to your stuff at first. And also, feel free to tell me where to stick it if you don't agree, this is just my opinion and I respect that there are differences on this topic.
Also, good luck out there. Treat yourself and others with respect and demand it from those you meet as well. I hope you meet someone really, really great!
 
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Nope - don’t remove your jewelry. If the person you’re dating is the one, you won’t have to change a single thing about you. That person will understand and won’t mistake your love for jewelry for something else.

This song sums it all up! Lol.

 
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