idk I think I would still feel bad knowing that they spent so much on me for a birthday or anniversary and I would spend next to nothing on them...all the guys I have ever dated would never wear jewellery and were never into designers so once you buy them a nice watch there really is nothing else pricey to get them...I would just feel like I was taking advantage of them maybe I will get over it LOL
It seems as if the ladies are buying the bling bling with their own money?
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idk I think I would still feel bad knowing that they spent so much on me for a birthday or anniversary and I would spend next to nothing on them...all the guys I have ever dated would never wear jewellery and were never into designers so once you buy them a nice watch there really is nothing else pricey to get them...I would just feel like I was taking advantage of them maybe I will get over it LOL
I have bought my expensive jewelry myself but I think that it is because I got into fine jewelry at a pretty young age and was making larger fine jewelry purchases myself when I was in my early 20's prior to being in any serious relationships. My parents made contributions as gifts when I was younger but they were still mainly paid for myself. I'm turning 29 now and although bf and I aren't at the point yet where I would be comfortable accepting an expensive gift, at a later time I would love to receive nice jewelry gifts that he picked out or that we picked out together! However, I don't need him to purchase jewelery for me and I take pride in being able to buy it myself.
Me too! I have the rose gold bug...I've been trying to decide on a rg bracelet.
We must have the same DH, lolDH did buy me few items in the past but his choices lean towards tiny pendants and earrings that you can't see without a microscrope, totally not my style. So I usually buy my own and since I have so much jewelry already, I don't think he even realizes that that's new and what isn't
Antares6 - the first jewelry purchase DH (then BF) got me were like these cute but tiny heart earrings with small diamonds. Totally cute but something I would wear in my second ear hole
But DHs can be trained believe it or not!!! 
I buy so much jewelry and I always tell him why I bought them and he's learned from me! So now he knows more about quality jewelry and he knows my tastes more (I tell him what I will and won't wear) and when before he doesn't know any of the high-end names, now he knows my favorite names in jewelry 
So don't lose hope...they are trainable!!!
OMG!!! I LOOOVE THIS!!!
I'm kind of the same. I would LOVE for my DH to buy me all the jewelries I own, because honestly, to me the ones he did buy are more special to me. But the whole process of picking what I want, telling him about it and reminding him and all that feels demeaning to both of us.
Plus I'm REALLY picky and he knows that...and his tastes aren't the greatest either.
My husband is SUCH a giving man, but he does different special things for me, not jewelry related. Like buying me new DSLR's and lenses, or making me a rolling case for my camera equiptment, or having my truck painted after he knew I was sad about hail damage to it. Or how he brings me a soda and a chocolate bar every night when he comes home from work
That is very sweet of him! You have a loving DH!
I buy most of mine, but I get money for my birthday, Christmas and our anniversary--and guess what I usually buy with it?
Before I was married, I often shocked women I knew by buying my own fine jewelry--seriously. Apparently, women aren't supposed to do that--and eating in restaurants alone. I always contended that, since most of us work, live alone or with a female roomate, why can't we buy our own jewelry and go to a restaurant alone?!? I also used to say, "If I wait for a man to buy me jewelry, I'll never get any!"
Before I was married, I often shocked women I knew by buying my own fine jewelry--seriously. Apparently, women aren't supposed to do that--and eating in restaurants alone. I always contended that, since most of us work, live alone or with a female roomate, why can't we buy our own jewelry and go to a restaurant alone?!? I also used to say, "If I wait for a man to buy me jewelry, I'll never get any!"
It depends. I buy the pricier stuff for myself, except for my Love bracelet, which my SO bought me.
I much rather get stuff like that for myself... Besides, I am nearing the completion of my designer jewelry collection, so I expect other things other than jewelry now from him!
I much rather get stuff like that for myself... Besides, I am nearing the completion of my designer jewelry collection, so I expect other things other than jewelry now from him!
Antares6 - the first jewelry purchase DH (then BF) got me were like these cute but tiny heart earrings with small diamonds. Totally cute but something I would wear in my second ear hole
I will continue to hope and pray, lol!
It's the 21st century! I have bought most of my pricey pieces myself, although my SO bought the really important ones (the all diamond Love rings, regular and mini).
OMG!!! I LOOOVE THIS!!!
I'm kind of the same. I would LOVE for my DH to buy me all the jewelries I own, because honestly, to me the ones he did buy are more special to me. But the whole process of picking what I want, telling him about it and reminding him and all that feels demeaning to both of us.
Plus I'm REALLY picky and he knows that...and his tastes aren't the greatest either.
My husband is SUCH a giving man, but he does different special things for me, not jewelry related. Like buying me new DSLR's and lenses, or making me a rolling case for my camera equiptment, or having my truck painted after he knew I was sad about hail damage to it. Or how he brings me a soda and a chocolate bar every night when he comes home from work
I love THIS! He sounds like such a sweetie!!!!!
Great topic!! I'll chime in!
I buy almost all my own jewelry but since it's sort of "our money" too I always buy it for something special: our anniversary or a birthday or milestone like our babies being born and say it's from him.
And thank him! He's happy that I've gotten what I love and honestly he's not the most talented gift buyer! haha. And he hates *HATES* shopping. He would fall over dead if he knew some of the prices of the items I've bought! And yeah... reminding him and hinting and justifying the price would be such a nightmare. Ugh. He's much too frugal (in a good way) to buy some of the things I have my eye on! I saw my mom go through that, asking my dad, hinting for 3 YEARS... discussing a purchase over and over... and just found it kind of sad... My parents are lovely, still together, very happy! She was a stay at home mom and awesome and he brought home the bacon so to speak. BUT I think that part of the reason I keep working even though DH could support our family (in a smaller home and no VCA that's for sure! But still...) quite easily is because it scares me to have no financial freedom from my partner and have to account to anyone for every dime/ask if I can buy this dress or that bracelet. *shudder.* (plus I love my job and work from home a lot anyway!) If I didn't have my own account and some freedom to make choices on my own like this I'd feel really frustrated I think!
So... there is one facet of my job that I get separate cheques for (smallish amounts but enough to have fun!) and our little "agreement" is that that is my "fun money". Kind of here's what I bought for my birthday! Price? don't ask don't tell.
It amounts to enough to keep me very happy! And to keep HIM happy that our mortgage etc. is being paid off!
I love THIS! He sounds like such a sweetie!!!!!
Great topic!! I'll chime in!
I buy almost all my own jewelry but since it's sort of "our money" too I always buy it for something special: our anniversary or a birthday or milestone like our babies being born and say it's from him.
My parents are lovely, still together, very happy! She was a stay at home mom and awesome and he brought home the bacon so to speak. BUT I think that part of the reason I keep working even though DH could support our family (in a smaller home and no VCA that's for sure! But still...) quite easily is because it scares me to have no financial freedom from my partner and have to account to anyone for every dime/ask if I can buy this dress or that bracelet. *shudder.* (plus I love my job and work from home a lot anyway!) If I didn't have my own account and some freedom to make choices on my own like this I'd feel really frustrated I think!
So... there is one facet of my job that I get separate cheques for (smallish amounts but enough to have fun!) and our little "agreement" is that that is my "fun money". Kind of here's what I bought for my birthday! Price? don't ask don't tell.
I agree. I became a stay at home mom and stopped working after having our first baby. I've started to go back to photography over the last year and a half or so, and it feels SOOO good to contribute to some of the bills. My DH sees it as a treat. And I had enough left over to buy myself lots of new camera equipment and all my new jewelry from the last 6 months (except my Tiffany's key..that came from him).
I buy almost every thing myself-- handbags, jewelry, even my engagement ring (2nd marriage, I chose/ordered/paid for the ring). I actually see nothing wrong with it and I haven't had to return anything because I purchase what I really want. My husband will ask me "what do you want for mother's day/b'day/anniversary?" and I say "i'll take care of it"
I work as a nurse, make about twice what my DH makes, I'm 5 years older and have no problems with making my own purchases. Perhaps it's age and experience but I see nothing wrong with it. Next up... a nice watch!
I work as a nurse, make about twice what my DH makes, I'm 5 years older and have no problems with making my own purchases. Perhaps it's age and experience but I see nothing wrong with it. Next up... a nice watch!
If I didn't buy my own, I wouldn't have any! I have had gifts of jewellery from my mum, but never from a partner. I have been in a serious relationship for just over 2 years now, and haven't had one gift of jewellery from him.
Before I was married I bought jewellery for myself and would not think twice about it, if you have the money I believe you should buy what you want and not wait for someone to buy it for you.
My DH hates shopping and he is not the best at selecting gifts in general. We have very different taste and it was apparent when we were dating and he said he wouldn't buy me gifts without me going along.
He doesn't really buy me gifts. However, if I am planning on purchasing an expensive piece of jewellery I let him know because we keep our money together and I think it is fair to let him know that there will be a large purchase on the next credit card bill. However, after I get the item I thank him and tell him this is for our anniversary, my birthday and xmas and he just laughs at me and says did I pick out something great. If he happens to be in Tiffanys with me or somewhere like that and if I'm looking at something, he'll say to me weeks later, so have you bought that yet.
He will on occasion come shopping with me to purchase an item for me for a special occasion like my love bracelet or my Chanel bag but typically I buy my own jewellery.
My DH hates shopping and he is not the best at selecting gifts in general. We have very different taste and it was apparent when we were dating and he said he wouldn't buy me gifts without me going along.
He doesn't really buy me gifts. However, if I am planning on purchasing an expensive piece of jewellery I let him know because we keep our money together and I think it is fair to let him know that there will be a large purchase on the next credit card bill. However, after I get the item I thank him and tell him this is for our anniversary, my birthday and xmas and he just laughs at me and says did I pick out something great. If he happens to be in Tiffanys with me or somewhere like that and if I'm looking at something, he'll say to me weeks later, so have you bought that yet.
He will on occasion come shopping with me to purchase an item for me for a special occasion like my love bracelet or my Chanel bag but typically I buy my own jewellery.