Is it wrong to ask for a designer bag as a gift when someone asks?

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#16
I used to spend more than that on gifts for girlfriends in my teens, I wouldn't worry about it OP. But I would recommend checking to see what price range they are usually comfortable gifting (from past birthdays, etc...). Moreover, for some that 230$ might be a significant amount and asking for a gift in that range might not be ideal.
 
#17
I'd only tell my bf and close family members. Everyone else (in laws included) could take it the wrong way, unless they are into these things themselves and the costs wouldn't mean much to them.
 
#18
My ex DH always gets me something, but I don't think in my case I would tell him, even though he usually ends up getting me something more expensive than a mid-range bag. I just think I'm lucky hr gets me anything!
 
#20
For Boyfriend, I would say $230-$240 is reasonable.

For boyfriend's mom, I would say stick to saying you would like things that are around $20.. you don't want to seem gift grabby. Books, candles, movie tickets, scarves... things that are little luxuries.
 
#21
DBF and I set a limit for our gifts and usually we give each other the same value of gifts, which right now is $1000.

So if I want a bag, I have to find a gift on his list that is equivalent. We do share our designer wish lists, as we both have a love for designer things.

When family asks what I want, I never ask for designer things because it's not something they would get for themselves. So I ask for more practical things or gift cards, as that would be in their comfort zone to purchase.
 
#22
My S/o and I both have expensive tastes at times so we have an understanding where when it comes to gift giving he's not bothered by my High end shoes and bags wish lists and I'm not bothered by his high tech wish lists. The other two loved ones who Tell me I don't have a budget for gifts are my grandfather and godfather/uncle so they expect it as well. My more moderate wishes like limited edition makeup , clothes etc are purchased by my mother, mother in law etc. who are working with a budget. So it's evenly distributed and I don't feel guilty because I know where everyone stands.
 
#24
lenarmc said:
I've been married for 19 years, and I don't think that I've ever told my in-laws what to buy me when they ask. I tell them to focus on the kids. Usually, they just give me a card with $100.
I tell my husband to get me something that he would like me to have. Since he's into electronics, that's what I usually get.
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You are very sweet. I am not so nice. I have always told my DH if it plugs in I do not want it.
 
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