Can a 14 year old girl have a Chanel if she respects it and knows how much it costs? She’s mature and might be going to boarding school. We are a low-middle income family. She really wants one and is willing to pay half of it herself. Will she be judged having it?
Is 14 too young for a Chanel Bag?
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I think it’s too young, but then all I wanted at 14 (some time ago I’ll be honest) was a pony 
Where would she have occasion to wear it? How would you feel if she inadvertently spoiled it? Would it mark her out as different from her contemporaries - especially if she’s starting at a new school? That could be tricky IMO.
How about making it a special present for her 18th instead?
Where would she have occasion to wear it? How would you feel if she inadvertently spoiled it? Would it mark her out as different from her contemporaries - especially if she’s starting at a new school? That could be tricky IMO. How about making it a special present for her 18th instead?
I think it’s too young, but then all I wanted at 14 (some time ago I’ll be honest) was a pony
How about making it a special present for her 18th instead?
She has the curse of liking expensive things but little money. I would be a little angry and sad but I understand accidents happen if the purse got ruined. I feel like she would be more angry at herself, since that’s what usually happens if something like that happened, we were putting up tree ornaments and she dropped one of (in my opinion) prettiest ornaments. She felt miserable the rest of time and was VERY careful with the other ornaments. It would be a good 18th birthday present, but I feel like since she’s looking to work for it the purse would be worth it. Her new school has many people with money going to it since the tuition is so much, so I don’t think it would be that big of a problem. She has fairly amounts to wear it. I could get her a used one for less if I can. Wait until graduation to get a brand new one!
I think it is too young.
There are many reasons. Beyond the obvious, one thing I don't like about them (teenagers) getting or doing things too early is that it spoils the fun. You are a child only once and it goes so quickly. The memories you treasure later on of your childhood and early adolescence are unlikely to be related to owning Chanel bags. There is a whole life ahead for that. So much more memorable to get your first Chanel with your first salary, or as a present for a momentous occasion.... Spend the money on a family trip instead, it will create enduring memories.
There are many reasons. Beyond the obvious, one thing I don't like about them (teenagers) getting or doing things too early is that it spoils the fun. You are a child only once and it goes so quickly. The memories you treasure later on of your childhood and early adolescence are unlikely to be related to owning Chanel bags. There is a whole life ahead for that. So much more memorable to get your first Chanel with your first salary, or as a present for a momentous occasion.... Spend the money on a family trip instead, it will create enduring memories.
At my teenage daughter's boarding school, the other girls seem to carry around smaller backpacks (like Fjallraven or Herschel), wristlets, or phone cases with pockets. Still waiting to see a luxury handbag. I am honestly surprised that there isn't more obvious conspicuous consumption on display, but I'm also pleasantly surprised by that fact. Maybe it's worthwhile for your daughter to settle in a school for a few months before deciding what to purchase.
I second this. Her cohort might surprise and challenge her desire for a Chanel bag. She has many years left to satisfy the desire. Give it a bit of time and see what happens after she gets into school.
way too Young for me. especially when you are not that rich, if you know what I mean. too much Money for a purse for a Girl. if your parents are rich and you friends are too, it's maybe normal but for normal income People it's a waste of Money imo.
if she is grown up or getting 18th or 21 maybe.. I see some Young Girls with designer bags around here too but the most of them carrying the bags of their moms I think ( or bought vintage for a much cheaper Price)
I personally thinks it's not the right Thing for a Girl that age. it also has a lot of attitude to carry those bags at the Young age, very difficult for the character imo.
if she is grown up or getting 18th or 21 maybe.. I see some Young Girls with designer bags around here too but the most of them carrying the bags of their moms I think ( or bought vintage for a much cheaper Price)
I personally thinks it's not the right Thing for a Girl that age. it also has a lot of attitude to carry those bags at the Young age, very difficult for the character imo.
Too young. I got a little Burberry handbag for 18th and have no idea where the bag is. Didn't look after it as I should have. now wish I had taken better care of it. I was at university so on paper shd have known better but I didn't. I have a daughter and she won't be having access to my bags till she is at least 21.
My mother gave me her cast-off' Chanels at that age so I can't say no. Since then though Chanel bag prices have gone the roof and are far more widely recognised. It wasn't my idea though and my mother was going to get rid of them anyway. I suppose this is different than buying new and from the store.
The hope is that she will value it because she want's one so much, has chosen it herself and will be paying half. You know your own daughter and I don't think you'd be considering it unless you thought she was mature enough. Even if something happens to the bag like scratches or scuffs she will learn to look after it or that she'll need a knock around hughstreet bag too. My only concern is for her safety when carrying it out in public, she can also be hated as much as admired for something as trivial as carrying a designer bag. At the end of the day whatever it cost it's just a bag, hers to abuse or care for, but she should also recognise the ridiculousness (in terms of want and budget) of her request.
Personally I would worry that you're giving her a gift because of guilt or being made to feel guilty. If this doesn't apply then disregard. but I'd be much more likely to tempt/bribe her into good study by using a Chanel Bag at the end of her excellent grades/milestone achievement than giving it at the beginning of term. `my parents bought me a very expensive coat when I passed my exams and the thought did provide good focus.
The hope is that she will value it because she want's one so much, has chosen it herself and will be paying half. You know your own daughter and I don't think you'd be considering it unless you thought she was mature enough. Even if something happens to the bag like scratches or scuffs she will learn to look after it or that she'll need a knock around hughstreet bag too. My only concern is for her safety when carrying it out in public, she can also be hated as much as admired for something as trivial as carrying a designer bag. At the end of the day whatever it cost it's just a bag, hers to abuse or care for, but she should also recognise the ridiculousness (in terms of want and budget) of her request.
Personally I would worry that you're giving her a gift because of guilt or being made to feel guilty. If this doesn't apply then disregard. but I'd be much more likely to tempt/bribe her into good study by using a Chanel Bag at the end of her excellent grades/milestone achievement than giving it at the beginning of term. `my parents bought me a very expensive coat when I passed my exams and the thought did provide good focus.
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I’ve looked at all the replies and thought about it. I think that I will hold off on the purse until her 18th birthday or graduation, and it’s not from guilt, I just want to give her a gift before she leaves! I haven’t bought her a new purse in 2 years, and she’s been using her older sisters. Do you have any recommendations of purses under $1000 price range? I want to splurge a little since this is a big step, and I think she’s mature enough for a nice bag that will hopefully last her years to come!
marc Jacobs, strathberry, Mansur gavriel are some that come to mind. When I was in my 20's I was super thrilled with marc Jacobs, as even a 200 dollar bag seemed like a lot!
I prefer it that way as now in my 30's a splurge on a chanel feels incredibly special, plus I only got it once I started working and could afford to buy it.
Depends what you want the purse for too, what size, what function. Daily crossbody, or backpack, wallet on chain.....
Good luck!
My initial thought is yes, it is too young. Even though she wants something, doesn’t mean she should get it. Also, you say you are low income- will she be expected to pay for her own education in the future? If so, she should probably be saving for that now so she won’t have to be working two jobs when she is in college. Even though tuition goes up in price every year, 3-5k can really help a semesters worth of schooling, which, if she is driven, can give her more of a benefit to her future vs a Chanel bag.
I agree 14 is too young. I don’t think my parents ever bought me any purses my entire life even $20 ones. 2 years ago isn’t too bad for a 14 year old. My parents were on the thrifty side and we were also low-middle class like you at the time. At 19-21 years old I had a couple of Coach items, which I purchased with my own money after paying for my own tuition (loan free using money I earned from my part-time job). Now, over a decade later, I own maybe a dozen luxury purses and quite a few SLG’s, mainly from Chanel and LV.
Lots of fashionable, suitable and good quality bags here https://forum.purseblog.com/threads...ut-little-known-recommendation-thread.981642/