If not an Engagement Ring,what...?

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Hm, I think you should´t get a "present" just because one gets a present for engagement in the most common form of a ring. To me this is not a gift as you get for christmas or birthday, but it is a symbol. A symbol as a promise to marry you. In former times it was just a plain ring, but now everyones just outdoes everyone by even bigger diamonds...the meaning of this gesture is totally misunderstood I feel...but certainly there is nothing wrong with it though :graucho: so if this is not for you I would consider something that has a similar meaning. I think someone mentioned a ring on a necklace, that is a very nice idea, maybe an eternity band? Or I also love the idea of a Love bracelet. I´m not into common presents like a watch, art, car or whatever was already mentioned. Because as I said, this is not an occasion to get a nice big present, but to get something that has a meaning and can be seen as a symbol of love and promise. Although this is just my opinion, for someone else or you, a "gift" would be more appreciated, I don´t know...
Just as an example, my boyfriend and I were together for ten years this July and he said I could pick a present. Whatever I wanted, clothes, shoes, bag, jewelry...you name it. Although I had an immense wish list I said I wanted an eternity ring with 10 diamonds, even if I don´t wear rings so much. He wash´t into this until I explained why I wanted it. For me this is such a special anniversary and I just didm´t want to have a random present that I could get on every birthday or whatever other occasion. I wanted something with a meaning, something to remember. Even if I could have gotten many things on my list for the price of this tiny but perfect ring, I didn´t want to be selfish with this one...and engagement is something so special, so I really think you could mike your man really happy if you opt for something with the meaning of a ring. Even if it´s not a ring, just explain it to him. I´m sure you will find something that you both love! Sorry for the long text...
 
My BF and I discussed this once. We thought exchanging his/her Rolexes would be fun.
The thing is I already have a 1ct diamond ring from my grandma and I also have her upgraded 2.5ct wedding ring so I don't really need another diamond.

I would be happy to have a fancy yellow diamond ring but I am not one to want to wear an e-ring everywhere/everyday.

I think for us at this point in our relationship we'd rather spend the money on a vacation, buy another home, etc.
 
I'd take a car

lol

When we started talking about getting engaged - DH asked me if I wanted a fancy engagement ring. He was thinking of spending about $20k or so.

I lose stuff on a super regular baisis- I'm the type who loses wallets every 6 months - so I said no. I couldn't stand the idea of losing that much money!!

In the end I chose a lovely 0.5 ct with smaller surrounding diamonds. I love it because I think it symbolises the stage we were at in that point of our life together. It was only 1/10th of what he wanted to spend.

What came as a surprise was the brand new car he turned up in a month later which he bought for me with "left over ring money"!!!
 
I think a watch with a personal engraving on the back, or a Love bracelet would be nice. Engagement rings aren't for everyone, and I think you should get what makes YOU happy.



:laugh: I like the way you think!
Lol.... The reason why I said car was because my friend didn't want the ring and she wanted this car that was already discontinued so they both think it was special. When it got closer to their wedding day ppl kept on asking about her ring so he got her a teeny diamond ring just so she can wear one. Kinda cute!!
 
Lol.... The reason why I said car was because my friend didn't want the ring and she wanted this car that was already discontinued so they both think it was special. When it got closer to their wedding day ppl kept on asking about her ring so he got her a teeny diamond ring just so she can wear one. Kinda cute!!

That's a neat story! I'm as sentimental about cars as I am about jewelry, so something like that would be right up my alley.
 
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