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#676
Man, I hear ya. I'm in law school and I have bills up my arse. I don't like thinking about being in indentured servitude for the rest of my life. . .so I'll think about something else! Like jewelry!

Both my grandparents are gone and my fiance has only his grandmother. . .so our wedding is going to be VERY non traditional. I think his mom wants us to do the tea ceremony (they're canto) but my parents (taiwanese) were like "why???" LOL. His mom also wants me to wear a red qipau (again. . .why???).

I am like you - I am no fuss. But I don't even want the ceremony PERIOD. I was planning on doing city hall, but since his mom wants it at a church, I of course have to play nice with the future in-laws and will acquiesce to that demand. I'm not sure about the qipau thing. I may do the tea ceremony for fun. . .(since you get hong bao) but I'm not going to dress like a little Chinese doll! LOL.

I can see your dad is a fashionable man! The yg is GORGEOUS. I absolutely love it and glad you do too!. I also love the rg, but my gf who is a Cartier girl has ALL rg items (rg Santos with diamonds, rg orchides de caresse ring, chopard items in rg, etc.) so I'm going to stick with yg. I don't want to be that girl that is the copycat!

I'm going up to SF next weekend so I'm going to stop by Cartier again hehee. By then the increase will be in place and will make the bracelet ever more unattainable. .haha. But I was thinking. . instead of having a wedding band, could I get the Love bracelet instead??? I don't think he'd go for it. . .but I can humor the idea and ask anyway.. .

Yay. . . that's pretty soon! It's already the end of February! The weeks will go by fast, trust me! :p
 
#677
kohl_mascara said:
Man, I hear ya. I'm in law school and I have bills up my arse. I don't like thinking about being in indentured servitude for the rest of my life. . .so I'll think about something else! Like jewelry!

Both my grandparents are gone and my fiance has only his grandmother. . .so our wedding is going to be VERY non traditional. I think his mom wants us to do the tea ceremony (they're canto) but my parents (taiwanese) were like "why???" LOL. His mom also wants me to wear a red qipau (again. . .why???).

I am like you - I am no fuss. But I don't even want the ceremony PERIOD. I was planning on doing city hall, but since his mom wants it at a church, I of course have to play nice with the future in-laws and will acquiesce to that demand. I'm not sure about the qipau thing. I may do the tea ceremony for fun. . .(since you get hong bao) but I'm not going to dress like a little Chinese doll! LOL.

I can see your dad is a fashionable man! The yg is GORGEOUS. I absolutely love it and glad you do too!. I also love the rg, but my gf who is a Cartier girl has ALL rg items (rg Santos with diamonds, rg orchides de caresse ring, chopard items in rg, etc.) so I'm going to stick with yg. I don't want to be that girl that is the copycat!

I'm going up to SF next weekend so I'm going to stop by Cartier again hehee. By then the increase will be in place and will make the bracelet ever more unattainable. .haha. But I was thinking. . instead of having a wedding band, could I get the Love bracelet instead??? I don't think he'd go for it. . .but I can humor the idea and ask anyway.. .

Yay. . . that's pretty soon! It's already the end of February! The weeks will go by fast, trust me! :p
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My dad is SUPER fashionable and so is my mom! It's where I get my expensive taste from. Bf's family almost went to shock when I bought a purse from Taipei 101 last year on vacation.... so I told bf we are dividing the ring cost by half and that's the ammount we tell them we spent. My dad was giving me advice throughout the process from the halo shape, to the metal to the clean shank and even gave his opinions on how to match the wedding band to it. He told me that he wont let anyone take me away without a Tacori or a Cartier. hehe.

YG is beautiful. I'm in a RG or YG debate. My dad likes the RG cause I have a custom YG one from my family already. But I think YG ages better in my eyes than RG.... But initially RG is nicer. Your friend should diversify the colors! Sticking to just one is boring. I like to mix and match all over the place.

And how funny! I'm also from bay area and my bf's taiwanese and I'm canto! I've picked up so much mandarin from him but he hasn't picked up enough canto so i can talk smack about it and he won't know. haha But no tea ceremony or stuff like that for us. One dress, one wedding, everyone go home before it's dark! haha
 
#678
Wow your fam is HIGH CLASS! Haha, my mom hates jewelry and yells at me when I "waste" my money. She's really practical and so are my fiance's family. Funny how you gave a lesser amount on the money actually spent on the ring - that's what we did as well! We gave them a low ball price for the e-ring that way they won't freak out as much!

Hehe I think I remember reading that you and Lec are both from the bay area. I love it there! I used to live there and still visit often, especially since two of my closest friends are still up there!

What custom YG from your family do you have? A love bracelet? My friend likes yg and rg. . .but rg is "her thing" if you kwim. But she mixes metals too. . .but since I respect her so much, I feel like rg is "off limits" because it's . . . well, her. It's weird but when I think of rg, I think of her, and it feels like I'm stealing if I get rg items LOL. I'm a strange one, I know (or I'm loyal? haha).

Anyway, that's cool how you and your bf can communicate in Mandarin (and hopefully canto one day if he learns enough!) since DF is totally americanized. Only his mom speaks canto. He can understand but can barely speak. It's actually easier for Cantonese speakers to understand and lean mandarin than it is for mandarin speakers to learn canto. I don't get why but that's what I've learned! My dad kids that I'm practically engaged to a white person because he can't communicate with them in Mandarin. So sad :(
 
#679
Hahaha I wouldn't say high class maybe just particular! haha My dad just LOVES nice furniture and modern art so he really fell in love with the tacori setting and for some reason he has always felt that cartier called to him for watches and jewelry. I told the bf.. if my mom asks gives her the higher amount, if your family ask divide by half... maybe more if needed haha. What's funny is that both my extended families are very practical, it's just my parents were the impractical ones from both sides and somehow got married so it was just a bad combo.

My YG bracelet is one that my grandma had custom made for me in hong kong when I was born, just a simple family bracelet but it's got that sentimental value. I know what you mean. My friend got a YG love ring for graduation and so that's when my adoration for the love ring turned into a bracelet. haha always upgrade, never down is what my dad said. (he also is convinced that i'll get the bracelet in less than 5 years)

In the beginning when we first started dating I would pretend I didn't know mandarin cause his grandma would tell me in mandarin to marry him (jia ge ta) and he would get embarrassed so I pretended to not understand.... then grandma got smart and someone taught her how to say "when marry" in english. haha
 
#680
Hi kohl! Just saw your pics of the wedding bands you tried on. Personally I think those wedding bands are trying to compete with your wonderful, beautiful, fabulous, amazing Sola! I think the Sola really is such a fab ring, that it should be the first thing you see when looking at your ring finger. I think that a diamond wedding band would be perfect with it because it would complement the ring band on the Sola since that is a diamond band too.
 
#681
whoops - his grandma is so cute!!! I'm glad see loves you - having the in-laws love and accept you makes life A LOT easier!!! And I do hope you get the Love bracelet soon! :cloud9:

avril thank you!! :hugs: You always have a good eye for these things. I guess I just got carried away with the uniqueness of the rings! I think you are right - a diamond band would look the best. But what do you think of a plain band? I tried on a plain gold band at Tiffany and even though it didn't match, it didn't compete with the Sola.
 
#682
You ladies are SMART to put the money towards the ring over a wedding. I had a big wedding, and honestly while in way it was worth it, I don't think it was any more special than weddings I've been to on a budget. As long as ther is ~something~ special, thats what people remember. That would be a decoration, or a special wedding favor, whatever. And what you will remember is marrying your solemate.
And KOHL. I about fainted when you said you wouldn't even get a dress...you must get a dress...lol. Dresses don't have to cost an arm and a leg, but you're children will someday oogle over your wedding photos of their mom in her beautiful dress. And if you have girls they will want to dress up in it..or play dress up with you. Thats just my opinion though.
I worked for a wedding coordinator for a few years before I started my own wedding photography business..there are lots of ways to bring costs down.
And Kohl, I LOVE the idea of a chinese buffet for a wedding. I don't think that is "not cool" at all. I've been to a million weddings and I swear, the best ones were the potluck ones, the backyard ones, the ones in the Elks lodge, because those people had the most fun and were so much more about the celebration than trying to achieve some "perfect" day..whatever that is. You are so right..the day is "fleeting and momentary", but your marriage and your ring are not. The other thing that sticks around are the photos, and I'm serious about you and your children cherishing those down the line.
Whoops, do you think your american family/friends won't appreciate a chinese style buffet? I think it would be wonderful and unique if I was a guest at a wedding that did that. But then I love ethnic foods...lol.
I shot a Korean/American wedding a few years ago, the reception was a sitdown and I noticed there were two different entrees being served. But I don't think that particular family was "budget concious" nor were they paying for the wedding themselves.
KOhl..here is picture for my case about the dress...this is a memory I will never forget. Hmm..my computer is giving me trouble. I'm gonna reboot then post for you.
 
#684
Omg those pictures just melted my heart! They are sooo cute! It's not that we are so much opposed to a Chinese banquet because the bay area has a lot of great options but we want te ceremony and banquet in same place so that makes it difficult to find q Chinese restaurant to fit that within budget. Also, my mom is very Americanized (funny cause she was born in hong kong) and she is all about Italian/French food. It's still a long ways but it's not fully out of the picture for us. We have very vocal families so someone will for sure be unhappy. My dad loves photography and sticks to film so I really want some nice photographs of the dress and event too.

Kohl - have you thought about te used route? I was thinking about buying a used dress to cut costs and still have a great dress. Also, have you considered a custom non brand wedding ring? Or buying from whiteflash or Brian Gavin?
 
#685
A few other ways to save on weddings... And I'm not saying a person should do all of these! LOL. I'm just saying they are ways if you choose. Like I probably never would have skimped on a photographer, but thats because thats my thing. But you can use facebook or craigslist to find a photographer. Sometimes on craigslist there are photoraphy students or people just starting out who are trying to build their portfolio and will do it for next to free. I've also seen very well known photographers on craigslist listing specials. Ask a graphic design college student (or look on craigslist) who will help you to design invitations and programs (or if you have the skill set, do them yourself) and then take them to a printers who will work with you on paperstock and what not and have them printed. Like whoops said, prebought dresses are an option. Ask at local fabric stores (or on craigslist, or on the knot) about someone to do the alterations. These people often care more than someone working in a shop and are often half the price. Make your own centerpieces. Sometimes a reception venue can be made 100 times better with chair covers. So you have the look of a place twice as expensive or more with only $6 more per person. And I don't know if either of you have overseas connections, but my friends dad was a buyer for some company and made several trips to china every year. He found a place that made her chaircovers for $4 per piece, and then after her wedding they opend up a chair covering business for a year or two (made $20k doing it), and then she sold them to a local chair covering business for $4 a piece! There are probably lots of other things, but those are just a few that come to mind.
 
#686
Thanks for the suggestions, we are definitey trying to cut where we can. One of my dads good friends is a wedding photographer so we are set in that aspect. Then my best friend is a florist so check! And then my friend is the head pastry chef at a nice sf restaurant so maybe she will do the cake (but maybe not because I don't want her to spend so much time on it). And the restaurant we are looking at is very quaint with wooden chairs so no covers to keep that feel. So we are hopefully trying to keep this in the 5-7k range for roughly 50 people.
 
#687
^Wow whoops! You are very lucky to have so much of it figured out already, and what wonderful connections you have! And good for you for being realistic about a wedding budget! I think its awesome you put so much more towards your ring. There are a lot of people I see who have a $3000 ring and a $30k wedding that goes by in a day. I love the way you've chosen :-)
 
#688
Yea I was really searching and using every angle we could! Ive never been a fan of big weddings. My uncles wedding had over 600 people and half we didnt know so it felt really non-intimate. I never understood the small ring and huge wedding thing either but to each their own. I was completely up for a BBQ or catered event at a private backyard but then families wanted something more formal.

Also kohl we were looking at prices for Chinese banquets even that was going to be $500-800 a table of ten since its not a wedding without shark fin soup and abalone! so actually our American style might be comparable. But we are shopping around a lot for right now too.
 
#689
skphotoimages - Aw man, see, I'm not skinny and beautiful like you! I may look average or skinny but I am NOT. I HATE the fat that squishes out from underneath the arms on a sweetheart/top of a wedding dress. I'll need to diet like crazy or find a dress that hides all the unseemly portions of my body.

My fiance's brother is a photographer and we were thinking about shooting engagement pictures and borrowing/renting a dress for a photo shoot. ..and then maybe have a few during the reception and that would be it. I guess I haven't really given a lot of thought about it. . .but I agree photos are the most important thing of the wedding. The memories that looking at a photo album evokes is priceless!!! And those photos of you with your daughters are so amazingly adorable. Maybe one day I will play dress up if I have a daughter *crosses fingers*.

For centerpieces, I was thinking about doing them myself as well (or again, my fiance has a family friend that is a florist) but my gf who got married said that having centerpieces at a chinese banquet is not very useful because they end up placed on the ground (the banquets are like 10+ dishes and they utilize every part of the table!). I found a really nice place that have different set menus that start at $24 per person to $100+ per person. Since we are having close to 150 at our wedding, I was thinking of keeping it around $40 or less per person LOL. That would include the wedding favor as well!

whoops - I'm not serving shark fin at my wedding. It's so sad how the kill the sharks for the fins =( They just cut the fins off and leave the sharks to die in the ocean. It's so tragic. Isn't there a statute that is proposing a ban of selling or buying sharks fin in SF being proposed? I know it's considered an "attack" against our heritage, but I am all for it!!

Thank you both for all the wonderful suggestions! I am dying over the DIY weddings featured on wedding blogs I frequently visit, but I'm just not very crafty! I still have 1.5 years until the wedding. . .so I can spend a good six months to think about what I want and what I'm capable of given our budget before I start planning. I'll keep you guys updated :D
 
#690
Yea. Ive seen shark water and it's horrible! Unfortunately if we do a Chinese banquet it would be faux pa for us to not have it and my grandpa would most likely never forgive me! He is that traditional and used to be a Chinese chef so even immitation is unacceptable! So that's another advantage of an American style. Don't have to risk him saying food was bad either haha

Definitely keep us updated. Start a wedding planning thread!
 
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