How much you have spent last year in Hermes?
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I think whether or not it's tacky could in part be cultural. When I was working in parts of Asia, I had people (some whom I barely even know) ask me point blank how much did my engagement ring/watch cost. While personally I am uncomfortable with such questions, the poster's culture could be all right with openly discussing these questions.
Being aware that English is not the native language of many posters and cultural norms are different, I would like to elaborate on the sentiment expressed by some prior posters.
Tacky as used above does not mean sticky to touch....it means in poor taste or lacking good manners. The idea underlying good manners is to behave in a way that does not make others uncomfortable.
People are often uncomfortable discussing money because others make negative judgments if, in their opinion, too much is spent. On the other hand, people are embarrassed if they consider themselves not to have as much money as their peers.
OP's question is one that can make people very uncomfortable if they feel like they have spent more than their peers or less than their peers.
OP --I am sure you meant no harm in asking the question. I expect that you are surprised at the reaction. Learning the norms of an international forum takes time and usually involves some missteps. While the information you suggest sharing would be VERY interesting to know, you could not get anyone to answer unless it was in an anonymous poll. Thank you for sharing.
Tacky as used above does not mean sticky to touch....it means in poor taste or lacking good manners. The idea underlying good manners is to behave in a way that does not make others uncomfortable.
People are often uncomfortable discussing money because others make negative judgments if, in their opinion, too much is spent. On the other hand, people are embarrassed if they consider themselves not to have as much money as their peers.
OP's question is one that can make people very uncomfortable if they feel like they have spent more than their peers or less than their peers.
OP --I am sure you meant no harm in asking the question. I expect that you are surprised at the reaction. Learning the norms of an international forum takes time and usually involves some missteps. While the information you suggest sharing would be VERY interesting to know, you could not get anyone to answer unless it was in an anonymous poll. Thank you for sharing.
This is absolutely correct. I am sure the OP had no intention of distressing anyone.
I'm a malaysian, have lived/worked in Singapore, HK and now Aust/HK for the past 10 years. Most of us do not ask such questions. Tacky is the right word.
It could also be age related, a lot of young people (that makes me sound ancient) would see no offence or problem with the topic and wonder what the big issue is !
I'll just add my twopenneth and say that in polite society a person simply doesn't talk about how much money they spend, it's seen a vulgar.
I'll just add my twopenneth and say that in polite society a person simply doesn't talk about how much money they spend, it's seen a vulgar.
Although I dont have a habit of asking around about other's people $$ related issues but Millicat, I learnt something valuable from you today and NOTED
TQVM.
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