I wear the original ring when traveling and leave the flashy one at home.
How do you guys feel about upgrading your engagement ring?
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If you're talking about getting the tiffany 6 prong setting.. i prefer Tiffany. I know it gets replicated a ton, but I've yet to see one that really looks exactly the same as the tiffany one. But I'd be open to getting a different setting, larger diamond. I just don't have any ideas in mind because he suggested suddenly and I was caught off guard!! I also feel that maybe by getting a second ring, I'll have no use for my original engagement ring anymore. A few of my friends who got a second ring told me that they just leave the original ring un-touched, in their safe.
AHHH... yeah. I think maybe I'll have to go to the store to see the larger diamonds on my finger.. maybe then I'll feel differently (ie. not miss my old ring since the new one is bigger and shinier LOL). I did ask my husband if he minds.. because at the end of the day the original engagement ring is what he picked out for me. He said he doesn't mind or feel attached at all, but instead, he feels like getting a larger one to replace the old one will remind us of the "growth" over the last couple of years and that I'll finally be able to have my dream ring.From your post, it sounds like you’re gonna miss having your old ring. Hmm.. but just think for a moment, if you acquired a new 2ct ring, Will you still be missing your old one? Imagine with me that you’re now looking down at the new ring that’s bigger, shinier and brand new to commemorate how far you guys have come since you got married, do you think you will still miss the old ring? I’m sure, once you answer this question, you’ll know what to do.
I believe it will be close to the price he paid for it minus a small fee. It seems like it's not a bad deal, especially because diamond rings tend not to resell for much.
That is pretty good!
I would say take your time and don’t rush into making the trade in.
Hi! I'll share my thoughts...
I upgraded. No regrets. I love my ring!
My story to share...
My husband is like yours, and he loved the idea of me upgrading my ring. Like your husband, he felt it was a reflection of our "growth", using your words. When I mentioned to my husband I wanted to upgrade, my husband actually said "yes, you need a bigger ring!"
Unlike your husband though, my husband was sentimental about my first engagement ring, so he wanted to keep it, which I did.
I am like you on Tiffany... I love Tiffany! I purchased my new Tiffany ring and love it as does my husband.
For my upgrade, I still wanted it in a simple setting as I wanted the stone to be the star. I wanted a big stone, but not a big ring with side stones, thick shank, etc. To be sure, I also look at other other brands and loose non-branded diamonds (took me over a year).
In the end, the Tiffany diamond sparkled like mad, and I love the simple beauty of the Tiffany setting. As you stated, the Tiffany setting is often copied, but it is never duplicated. Yes, Tiffany is ridiculously overpriced, but it's worth it to me. The diamond sparkles like crazy. By the way, I wear the super thin 2mm knife-edge wedding band (you can tell I want my left hand to be all about my diamond). I actually wanted to skip wearing a wedding band, but I would look like I'm forever engaged.
What happened to my original e-ring?
It sat in my jewelry box for the longest time. I wanted to sell it, but my husband said it's sunk cost. Okay, peace.
One day, I was getting a custom piece made, and my husband had this light-bulb idea and said "hey, let's use the diamond from your first engagement ring as a side stone!" Done! My husband is also super happy he came up with the idea.
I know you want to sell your engagement ring. I think it's perfectly fine especially since your husband is okay with it. He was the one who bought it for you, and if he is okay with it, that's what matters.
I think it's wonderful to get an upgrade. I am not a believer one should wear the same jewelry that you wore in your youth. We all grow, and in the context of jewelry, I like my jewelry to reflect my growth and who I am now.
Both of you can stare are your new ring, have huge ear-to-ear grins, and say "We've grown together and come far."
I say go for it! You will love your new ring and your husband will too!
By the way, Tiffany will give you the price you paid for your ring towards an upgrade of a ring twice the price (e.g. if you paid $50K for your original ring, you will need to buy a ring $100K or greater). You may want to check though if the rules have changed.
Hope this helps in your decision. Good luck!
I upgraded. No regrets. I love my ring!
My story to share...
My husband is like yours, and he loved the idea of me upgrading my ring. Like your husband, he felt it was a reflection of our "growth", using your words. When I mentioned to my husband I wanted to upgrade, my husband actually said "yes, you need a bigger ring!"
Unlike your husband though, my husband was sentimental about my first engagement ring, so he wanted to keep it, which I did.I am like you on Tiffany... I love Tiffany! I purchased my new Tiffany ring and love it as does my husband.
For my upgrade, I still wanted it in a simple setting as I wanted the stone to be the star. I wanted a big stone, but not a big ring with side stones, thick shank, etc. To be sure, I also look at other other brands and loose non-branded diamonds (took me over a year).
In the end, the Tiffany diamond sparkled like mad, and I love the simple beauty of the Tiffany setting. As you stated, the Tiffany setting is often copied, but it is never duplicated. Yes, Tiffany is ridiculously overpriced, but it's worth it to me. The diamond sparkles like crazy. By the way, I wear the super thin 2mm knife-edge wedding band (you can tell I want my left hand to be all about my diamond). I actually wanted to skip wearing a wedding band, but I would look like I'm forever engaged.
What happened to my original e-ring?
It sat in my jewelry box for the longest time. I wanted to sell it, but my husband said it's sunk cost. Okay, peace.
One day, I was getting a custom piece made, and my husband had this light-bulb idea and said "hey, let's use the diamond from your first engagement ring as a side stone!" Done! My husband is also super happy he came up with the idea.
I know you want to sell your engagement ring. I think it's perfectly fine especially since your husband is okay with it. He was the one who bought it for you, and if he is okay with it, that's what matters.
I think it's wonderful to get an upgrade. I am not a believer one should wear the same jewelry that you wore in your youth. We all grow, and in the context of jewelry, I like my jewelry to reflect my growth and who I am now.
Both of you can stare are your new ring, have huge ear-to-ear grins, and say "We've grown together and come far."
I say go for it! You will love your new ring and your husband will too!
By the way, Tiffany will give you the price you paid for your ring towards an upgrade of a ring twice the price (e.g. if you paid $50K for your original ring, you will need to buy a ring $100K or greater). You may want to check though if the rules have changed.
Hope this helps in your decision. Good luck!
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I got curious to look at the current upgrade policy...
It seems the two times spend is no longer required. Here it is as FYI:
www.tiffany.com
You do not need to bring in your receipt. The SA can look up your ring in the system and find all the purchase info.. price, date, etc.
It seems the two times spend is no longer required. Here it is as FYI:
Can I upgrade my Tiffany engagement ring? | Tiffany & Co. US
Have a question about a Love & Engagement purchase? We value your time. Discover our frequently asked questions for quick and accurate answers.
You do not need to bring in your receipt. The SA can look up your ring in the system and find all the purchase info.. price, date, etc.
Thank you for sharing your story. Just out of curiosity, what are the specs of your upgraded diamond? Would you mind sharing?Hi! I'll share my thoughts...
I upgraded. No regrets. I love my ring!
My story to share...
My husband is like yours, and he loved the idea of me upgrading my ring. Like your husband, he felt it was a reflection of our "growth", using your words. When I mentioned to my husband I wanted to upgrade, my husband actually said "yes, you need a bigger ring!"
I am like you on Tiffany... I love Tiffany! I purchased my new Tiffany ring and love it as does my husband.
For my upgrade, I still wanted it in a simple setting as I wanted the stone to be the star. I wanted a big stone, but not a big ring with side stones, thick shank, etc. To be sure, I also look at other other brands and loose non-branded diamonds (took me over a year).
In the end, the Tiffany diamond sparkled like mad, and I love the simple beauty of the Tiffany setting. As you stated, the Tiffany setting is often copied, but it is never duplicated. Yes, Tiffany is ridiculously overpriced, but it's worth it to me. The diamond sparkles like crazy. By the way, I wear the super thin 2mm knife-edge wedding band (you can tell I want my left hand to be all about my diamond). I actually wanted to skip wearing a wedding band, but I would look like I'm forever engaged.
What happened to my original e-ring?
It sat in my jewelry box for the longest time. I wanted to sell it, but my husband said it's sunk cost. Okay, peace.
One day, I was getting a custom piece made, and my husband had this light-bulb idea and said "hey, let's use the diamond from your first engagement ring as a side stone!" Done! My husband is also super happy he came up with the idea.
I know you want to sell your engagement ring. I think it's perfectly fine especially since your husband is okay with it. He was the one who bought it for you, and if he is okay with it, that's what matters.
I think it's wonderful to get an upgrade. I am not a believer one should wear the same jewelry that you wore in your youth. We all grow, and in the context of jewelry, I like my jewelry to reflect my growth and who I am now.
Both of you can stare are your new ring, have huge ear-to-ear grins, and say "We've grown together and come far."
I say go for it! You will love your new ring and your husband will too!
By the way, Tiffany will give you the price you paid for your ring towards an upgrade of a ring twice the price (e.g. if you paid $50K for your original ring, you will need to buy a ring $100K or greater). You may want to check though if the rules have changed.
Hope this helps in your decision. Good luck!
Was the two times spend previously noted on the policy? I never looked in to it, but just heard of people talk about the two times spend, I assumed it was still the case.I got curious to look at the current upgrade policy...
It seems the two times spend is no longer required. Here it is as FYI:
Can I upgrade my Tiffany engagement ring? | Tiffany & Co. US
Have a question about a Love & Engagement purchase? We value your time. Discover our frequently asked questions for quick and accurate answers.
You do not need to bring in your receipt. The SA can look up your ring in the system and find all the purchase info.. price, date, etc.
It could still be the case, and I don't recall seeing it written anywhere. I am sure that won't be an issue.
My ring is 3.15ct, VS2, H, and it's in platinum. Since you asked about ring details, I will share my thoughts on this topic...
When I upgraded, I had the SA bring in three rings. All three were gorgeous and super sparkly, but this one sparkled the most. We took it outside and looked at it outside as well (yes.. the bodyguards will walk out with you too and follow you).
Super super sparkly, excellent cut, blah blah blah. I am sure you already know all this. Like you, I am a huge Tiffany diamond fan!
One of the rings was slightly smaller, 3.03 or something as I recall, and it was a G.
Flash forward a few years... I am now really into gemstones, especially color, so my eye is now trained to look at fine details of stones.
Sometimes, I wish I had gotten the G for just a tiny tiny bit more whiteness. I have other diamonds that are E, and after seeing Es, I cannot unsee the H compared to the E. My husband says nope, no regrets, and even if I had gotten the G, it would still not compare to the Es. He also reminded me the H had more sparkle. He is right as G/H is pretty close and considered a subgroup. F is where I see more difference. I am sure you know, but the groupings are DEF (Colorless) and GH/IJ (Near Colorless). Nevertheless, when I stare at my diamonds and put them side by side, I do see the E vs. H difference.
My point in sharing this is think about what wedding band you intend to wear. If you are going to wear other diamonds next to your engagement ring, get the right color. It matters if your eyes are color sensitive. For example, if you get E stones on the wedding band, a G/H will have a bit of yellow next to Es. I would suggest if you are considering a new wedding band, get it at the same time to be sure the diamonds match. Also look at every aspect of the ring/diamond and dissect it separately... the sparkle, the color, and how it is set. Some rings are lower while some are a bit higher (you can ask them to reset to your liking agt time of purchase, free of charge).
Sorry for the long post... I'm on a engagement ring upgrade kick again, and this stuff is fresh on my mind.
Good luck to you! I am sure you will have fun shopping!
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HOLY MOLY 3.15?? lol I can't even imagine how that might look on my finger. even a 2.5ct is really, really huge in my mind. What size was your original engagement ring?It could still be the case, and I don't recall seeing it written anywhere. I am sure that won't be an issue.
My ring is 3.15ct, VS2, H, and it's in platinum. Since you asked about ring details, I will share my thoughts on this topic...
When I upgraded, I had the SA bring in three rings. All three were gorgeous and super sparkly, but this one sparkled the most. We took it outside and looked at it outside as well (yes.. the bodyguards will walk out with you too and follow you).
Super super sparkly, excellent cut, blah blah blah. I am sure you already know all this. Like you, I am a huge Tiffany diamond fan!
One of the rings was slightly smaller, 3.03 or something as I recall, and it was a G.
Flash forward a few years... I am now really into gemstones, especially color, so my eye is now trained to look at fine details of stones.
Sometimes, I wish I had gotten the G for just a tiny tiny bit more whiteness. I have other diamonds that are E, and after seeing Es, I cannot unsee the H compared to the E. My husband says nope, no regrets, and even if I had gotten the G, it would still not compare to the Es. He also reminded me the H had more sparkle. He is right as G/H is pretty close and considered a subgroup. F is where I see more difference. I am sure you know, but the groupings are DEF (Colorless) and GH/IJ (Near Colorless). Nevertheless, when I stare at my diamonds and put them side by side, I do see the E vs. H difference.
My point in sharing this is think about what wedding band you intend to wear. If you are going to wear other diamonds next to your engagement ring, get the right color. It matters if your eyes are color sensitive. For example, if you get E stones on the wedding band, a G/H will have a bit of yellow next to Es. I would suggest if you are considering a new wedding band, get it at the same time to be sure the diamonds match. Also look at every aspect of the ring/diamond and dissect it separately... the sparkle, the color, and how it is set. Some rings are lower while some are a bit higher (you can ask them to reset to your liking).
Sorry for the long post... I'm on a engagement ring upgrade kick again, and this stuff is fresh on my mind.
Good luck to you! I am sure you will have fun shopping!
Thank you so much for the lovely advice. To be honest, as much as I absolutely LOVE my engagement ring, it's an I, and yes, they say Tiffany's I stones face up very white as well and the brilliance does somewhat distract you from the warmth, but if I could choose, G/H is probably more ideal for me. Just that years ago, I don't feel we could justify paying more for higher specs and he was so sweet to already get the setting that I've been dreaming of. He was merely going by the largest that he could afford at the time. Good thing 1.30 isn't too large of a stone, so the warmth isn't as prominent. I know larger stones will show color more. Overtime, I stopped thinking about the color as I was just happy with what I had. I wasn't even itching for an upgrade until he casually mentioned it, and now, I can't stop thinking about it lol.
Funny that you mentioned about the wedding band. We have actually been discussing to get another band made for me, simply because after pregnancy, my finger size went up by one full size, and i mean permanently. So yes, we will be looking into that too and thanks for the advice on the stones. I'll definitely keep that in mind.
I also do this. My ER is 2 ct and if I could go back it would be larger. I think about replacing but never do. I have bought a bunch of wedding bands at least five and tbh thinking of #6 I change between and wear with or without ER
I'm not sentimental about things like this at all so I say do what will make you happy when you look down at your hand. Funny enough I'm actually thinking of "downgrading" my ring to a lab diamond one lol. My current diamond is only about 1.25 ct but I just always had a feeling of "this is more expensive than it should be" for how much I value an e-ring. Now that my finger has outgrown it and I'd need to kick in some money for a new setting, it's made me think of just selling the thing and getting a bigger but much cheaper lab diamond ring for probably close to what it would cost to get a new setting.
My original engagement ring was .83 carat.
On the wedding band, when I upgraded my engagement ring, I also go a new wedding band, the 2mm knife-edge.
My husband got a simple Tiffany platinum band. We engraved exactly the same words and the date of our wedding on the new wedding bands.
We also added a second date, the date I purchased my upgrade ring! It was my husband's idea... he said this is like Version 2!
I look at it and think it's super cool... the wedding date and the date of new ring!
You two will have a blast picking out your new ring as well as new wedding bands!
My aunt actually wears her engagement ring and her mom's on the same finger. It's a lot of bling, but looks super chic on her.
I have some time before I get to upgrade. I really wanted at least 2ct (ideally 2.5ct), but I'm super sensitive to color. My diamond is a little over 1.5, but D and sparkles like crazy. Diamond is gorgeous. I don't think I could ever get rid of it. I would either do what my aunt does, wear it on another finger, or reset it as a solitaire necklace.
One thing that we've tossed around is getting a lab diamond. I haven't done nearly enough research, but since it's not as "important" it's something to at least consider.
I have some time before I get to upgrade. I really wanted at least 2ct (ideally 2.5ct), but I'm super sensitive to color. My diamond is a little over 1.5, but D and sparkles like crazy. Diamond is gorgeous. I don't think I could ever get rid of it. I would either do what my aunt does, wear it on another finger, or reset it as a solitaire necklace.
One thing that we've tossed around is getting a lab diamond. I haven't done nearly enough research, but since it's not as "important" it's something to at least consider.
Totally. I think it would be nice to keep the original but if I wanted a Tiffany Setting that's just slightly over 2cts in maybe a G color, I browsed on the website the other day and I believe it's at least $80,000 CAD before tax. If I traded in the ring, it'll probably be more like $50,000-$60,000 which feels much easier to swallow. Or, now, I'm beginning to entertain the idea of maybe getting a Soleste with yellow diamond and keeping the original engagement ring. So many ideas!! I need to check out the options to know what I truly want.