How can you cope with losing your engagement ring just before the wedding? :(

[California53]

Good Morning,
This is a long shot, but this happened to me with a credit card. I put the credit card in my jean pocket and when undressing for the night, I hung my jeans over a hanger. I searched EVERYWHERE, but could not find it. I cancelled the credit card and found it the following week when it snowed. It had fallen out of my jean pocket and straight down into my Ugg boot, which I did not look at until it snowed.
So, if you hung your pants up, please look into any pair of shoes that might be under your pants. I hope, hope, hope that your find your engagement ring. I have a traumatic engagement ring story, but will wait until AFTER your nuptials.
Warm regards,
California53

 

[JenW]

Look in odd places. I've found more than one lost item in the laundry.

 

[lazyfoxie]

***hugs*** I'm so sorry this happened to you.

I'd tell your fiancé ASAP. As painful as it is, you need to share this with him, so you can then focus on your upcoming nuptials. If he doesn't notice the missing ring, he will notice you acting weird. You two can come up with a solution that works for the two of you, such as getting an inexpensive ring for the wedding. I can definitely understand your panic, but spending that much money on another ring without at least discussing with him is much, much worse than losing the ring. It'll help to not have to feel like you're hiding something.

Here's to hoping it turns up. Talk to him regardless. You two are partners.

Thank you so much for your warm message. Just an update. I told my FI today although he's still away on business trip and as I thought he's been supportive. We plan to find it together when he's back although it's unlikely to find the ring lost for 3 weeks. But you'll never know. I felt much better after telling him.
I'm still sad the ring I love so much is gone, but at least the person is still with me, and the sweet memories the ring brought are still with us.

 

[Shelovesbling]

Good luck.

 

[DrDior]

Well, you may not have been lucky with the ring, but you lucked out in the fiancee department.

I told your story to my husband and he was having palpitations just over the thought.

 

[pursecrzy]

OMG, I did this! Lost my engagement ring about a month before the wedding - the day of my bridal shower.

I went over my running path (I ran that morning) and tore my place apart. I was completely distraught and immediately told my fiance. He was incredibly supportive and said he would just buy another one and never once got upset at me. We hired a plumber to go through our pipes and he couldn't find it either and said it would probably show up eventually. My fiance ended up buying me another engagement ring (although slightly smaller), but 2 weeks before the wedding I was looking through my jewelry box and found my original engagement ring! It was so odd, because I only put costume jewelry in there and both my fiance and mom looked through the jewelry box twice without finding the ring.

My husband ended up losing his wedding ring during our honeymoon. I had chastised him several times for taking it off and playing with it like it was a quarter (spinning it on tables etc) and after one dinner, we realized he no longer had it! I knew I couldn't get upset since I had lost my engagement ring before the wedding and he was so kind. Anyways, we were waiting for a boat to take us back to our hotel and I glanced down at the floor and saw his ring buried in the sand where I was sitting!

Sometimes these things just turn up where you least expect it!

Let me just add that I think I may have subconsciously misplaced my ring because I had significant pre-wedding jitters since I've never wanted to get married ever. I had severe cold feet and even called my mom crying that I had made a mistake. But his reaction was so kind and supportive, that I knew I made the right choice. And now it's been 10 years!

My DH did the same thing! He would spin his wedding ring like a quarter and I told him over and over he was going to lose it. Lo and behold, he lost it. Still haven't found it.

 

[rubysoma]

My DH did the same thing! He would spin his wedding ring like a quarter and I told him over and over he was going to lose it. Lo and behold, he lost it. Still haven't found it.

Ugh, men! We were lucky to find it. But he lost it at Disneyland last year when he took it off to put sunblock on our son and forgot to put it back on.