Ex-friend has sentimental Tiffany piece and won't return it...
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she is a horrible person! I'd never lend anything out either...especially if it is a sentimental piece, I'd be too afarid to loose it for any reason. I'm so sorry this happened to you, just a valuable lesson of who you should be friends with and never lend out your stuff, anything! you being nice sometimes don't get the same thing back, it's sad but true.
This is what I hate the most! Over the years I've had money, clothes, cds, photo albums which were loaned to friends and never returned. Now, I'm super cautious because half the time even the people who seem least likely are prone to not returning. Hope you get it back..
"never a borrower nor lender be" - words of wisdom from my grandma.
you could ask at your local police department or even simply let her know that if she does not find it and bring it to you that you will ask. sometimes the threat of legal action might stir someone into being more motivated to find it.
you could ask at your local police department or even simply let her know that if she does not find it and bring it to you that you will ask. sometimes the threat of legal action might stir someone into being more motivated to find it.
Studying for the boards consumes you... She might not be lying but that's literally number priority even over breathing and sleeping lol...
Let her get through them try one more time and then if not let it go as a lesson learned
Let her get through them try one more time and then if not let it go as a lesson learned
I honestly don't think this girl is trying to steal or keep your necklace or whatever, after all she is the one who brought it up, who reminded you she had it.
Sounds to me like she's inconsiderate and flighty, but not a thief. Hopefully eventually you will get it back.
Sounds to me like she's inconsiderate and flighty, but not a thief. Hopefully eventually you will get it back.
I totally understand that but her excuse was school a year ago too. And in the summer, her excuse was wanting to relax, etc.
I think at first she was using as collateral to get me to hang out with her again but when she realized we can't be friends the way we used to ever again, she didn't wanna bother.
That is still no excuse, she isn't studying 24 hours a day. I have studied for intense tests and everyone needs and does indeed take a break at some point. She sounds inconsiderate.
My thoughts for what they're worth.
This is something that has some influence on you and she realises that. When she wants to manipulate you in some way it seems to me that she believes she can do it through the jewellery. Acting on a hope that she'll give you what you want has a very slim chance of success. To be honest, it is probably best if you let it go. That way it loses its power over you, she loses her power over you through it and whether or not you get it back becomes unimportant. And THAT is when you will most likely get it back because she won't want it then.
Don't beat yourself up for lending it to her. The act was in the past and was out of kindness. Your blessings from that one act will supersede her meanness.
This is something that has some influence on you and she realises that. When she wants to manipulate you in some way it seems to me that she believes she can do it through the jewellery. Acting on a hope that she'll give you what you want has a very slim chance of success. To be honest, it is probably best if you let it go. That way it loses its power over you, she loses her power over you through it and whether or not you get it back becomes unimportant. And THAT is when you will most likely get it back because she won't want it then.
Don't beat yourself up for lending it to her. The act was in the past and was out of kindness. Your blessings from that one act will supersede her meanness.
Thank you, all the comments are making me feel a little better... prior to yesterday, I hadn't asked in over 8 months, so if she was going to give it back on her own then I think at that point she would've. I feel like before it was to manipulate me but now she's got her "med school"/masters and doctorate friends and I'm just a grocery clerk going to community college for an associates in nursing, she has no interest in being my friend anymore
The sad thing is, she was really close to my son too and not only has she blown me off but my son still asks about her and it makes me super sad 