Ex-friend has sentimental Tiffany piece and won't return it...

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vannarene

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Years ago I lent my best friend at the time a Tiffany necklace to wear for an interview into med school. It was the Elsa Peretti medium loving heart in silver which had been given to me by my first boyfriend when I was 18. We had a falling out and I forgot she had it, thinking I had lost it on my own. She called me months later super friendly telling me she came across it and wanted to meet up. I agreed then I never heard from her. I contacted her about the necklace a few weeks later and she said she didn't know where she put it and she's too busy with school and life to look for it. I've asked her several times over the last year about it and now she just ignores me. I'm really afraid she's thrown it away or given it away out of spite at this point. It wasn't worth more than $200 at the time it was given to me so I don't think court is an option. What should I do? </3
 
#3
It's a crummy thing for her to do, but basically you can never lend something out expecting to get it back. I'd let it go, she either doesn't have it or won't produce it and I doubt the police will give it much thought.
 
#5
Can you go to her house and ask it back in person? (Preferably with a friend/your boyfriend if she starts to act crazy, you never know) I feel so bad for you, really hope you can get it back.
 
#6
Oh wow-this sounds so infuriating!

I can see why you're no longer friends with a person like this- I agree with TechPrincess-call the police but I also agree with mrsinsyder-police are probably going to be not giving it much thought.

Maybe just chalk to up to a life lesson and move on, even though it's frustrating.
 
#7
It wasn't worth more than $200 at the time it was given to me so I don't
think court is an option. What should I do?
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Look into small claims court for the dollar amount to replace it today. Just like money, don't loan it. Either give it outright, don't offer to begin with or say no even to friends.
 
#8
It isn't worth any time trying to get it back. It would only make things uglier between you, and bring you down rather than lift you up in any way. What would the victory be, anyway? The sentiment of a first boyfriend's necklace wasn't enough to keep you from lending it in the first place, a risk.

I agree about not lending anything you don't need to see again. People get forgetful and busy, even if not malicious.

Let it go.
 
#9
TrinketTattle said:
Can you go to her house and ask it back in person? (Preferably with a friend/your boyfriend if she starts to act crazy, you never know) I feel so bad for you, really hope you can get it back.
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This. If she then says she no longer has it/can't find it, she should offer to reimburse you for the value as it stood when you lent the necklace to her. I can't believe some people behave like this - what a horrible friend and person she is :mad: I'm so sorry OP.
 
#10
Probably best to just let it go and move on.

Lending things out is like loaning money - only do it if you can afford to part with it, because you will most likely not get it back!
 
#12
It sounds like you are always very nice when you ask her about it so hopefully it will be a case of the squeaky wheel gets the grease and she will get tired of you asking for it and return it. I hope so for you anyways.
 
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