Does your purse SPENDING upset your husband?

[mapletea]

My hubby is sweet. He didn't understand it at first, but now not only he supports me, but he is into LV himself! artyhat: I cried when he surprised me with a white multicolore Murakami agenda to match with my white Theda.

LV Bags Lover, is that your collection? Wow! Love all your bags! It must be wonderful to have a display unit like that for all your darlings. We are moving soon and the hubby has mentioned about buying a display unit for my bags. I can't wait!

 

[jieminyu]

My hubby is very supportive. He went to Taiwan. He thinks the purse in Taiwan is cheaper than US. Cause he can get the Tax back. He bought me a mahina L for surprise.

 

[MissJo]

My hubby-to-be is pretty good... don't really realize it until I read this post. He surprised me with a couple of items, while persuading me to buy other bags. Tho I still tell him that I feel that he gets upset when I talk about getting a new bag.

 

[wild child]

I blame DH for my purse addiction! He's the one that bought me my first 3 designer bags. But nowadays, it's getting to the point where he thinks I don't need so many whenever I say I want to buy a new bag.

 

[voner11]

My husband gets mad period if I buy anything online even Coach bags. He has anxiety bad so I often try to get to my package before he sees it or he’ll quiz me on how much did it cost and he’ll say send it back and how if it was him he’d never would’ve bought it. He yelled at me while I was sleeping and asking me why I keep lying to him when I don’t lie to him a lot. His sister even stalked me on social media over having and buying Coach bags and she threw a fit and got his other sister to do the same to me right after my husband’s mom passed away in September 2023. His siblings even told him that they wanted nothing to do with me for telling his two sisters to stop stalking me online to the point where I had to block two of them on all social media and all of them on TikTok. His one sister made his dad worry which is not good for his bad heart and I said that is not caring for your dad to make him worry and telling him that I buy Coach bags. After he yelled at me this morning I do feel like crying. I do YouTube videos and my husband says that if I wanted to review a bag that I should just do a screen recording and say what I think of it and why I can’t buy it. He says that I need to stop buying from Coach and any websites. He tells me that if I need to blog I should film myself walking around and I’m like I won’t get views on those kind of videos and I tell him that. Or he says that I can film myself cleaning around the house and again I’m like I won’t get views if I did those for YouTube. His two sisters still even stalk my YouTube channel and make me look bad. His one sister that started trouble goes on cruises and travels for vacations and she accused me of slandering her for telling her to stop.

 

[Work_For_Purse]

My DH being French, his reaction is always funny to me. When i carry something non-designer bag (that is super rate BTW), he is not happy that i don't look sophisticated enough. i was into Gucci before and he was the one suggested to upgrade to French designer bags. So now i buy telling him i am supporting French economy!

 

[Moxisox]

My husband is supportive of my bag, shoe, and jewelry collection. He knows it makes me happy, so it makes him happy. Usually if I talk about selling a bag to buy another one (I have a pretty big collection), he’s the one that talks me into keeping it and buying the other one anyway. Of course if we couldn’t afford it, or were going into debt from it, it would be a different story. But I wouldn’t be irresponsible and do that to begin with which he knows. He has expensive hobbies he spends money on as well, which I also support. We’ve been married 18 years, and have mutual respect and trust. So it’s never been an issue.

 

[TC1]

My husband gets mad period if I buy anything online even Coach bags. He has anxiety bad so I often try to get to my package before he sees it or he’ll quiz me on how much did it cost and he’ll say send it back and how if it was him he’d never would’ve bought it. He yelled at me while I was sleeping and asking me why I keep lying to him when I don’t lie to him a lot. His sister even stalked me on social media over having and buying Coach bags and she threw a fit and got his other sister to do the same to me right after my husband’s mom passed away in September 2023. His siblings even told him that they wanted nothing to do with me for telling his two sisters to stop stalking me online to the point where I had to block two of them on all social media and all of them on TikTok. His one sister made his dad worry which is not good for his bad heart and I said that is not caring for your dad to make him worry and telling him that I buy Coach bags. After he yelled at me this morning I do feel like crying. I do YouTube videos and my husband says that if I wanted to review a bag that I should just do a screen recording and say what I think of it and why I can’t buy it. He says that I need to stop buying from Coach and any websites. He tells me that if I need to blog I should film myself walking around and I’m like I won’t get views on those kind of videos and I tell him that. Or he says that I can film myself cleaning around the house and again I’m like I won’t get views if I did those for YouTube. His two sisters still even stalk my YouTube channel and make me look bad. His one sister that started trouble goes on cruises and travels for vacations and she accused me of slandering her for telling her to stop.

I’m sorry for all of this and that you had to find a thread from 2009 to relate to. I’m pretty sure the treatment you are receiving is about more than handbags. I hope you can find some help.

 

[AmeeLVSBags]

My husband gets mad period if I buy anything online even Coach bags. He has anxiety bad so I often try to get to my package before he sees it or he’ll quiz me on how much did it cost and he’ll say send it back and how if it was him he’d never would’ve bought it. He yelled at me while I was sleeping and asking me why I keep lying to him when I don’t lie to him a lot. His sister even stalked me on social media over having and buying Coach bags and she threw a fit and got his other sister to do the same to me right after my husband’s mom passed away in September 2023. His siblings even told him that they wanted nothing to do with me for telling his two sisters to stop stalking me online to the point where I had to block two of them on all social media and all of them on TikTok. His one sister made his dad worry which is not good for his bad heart and I said that is not caring for your dad to make him worry and telling him that I buy Coach bags. After he yelled at me this morning I do feel like crying. I do YouTube videos and my husband says that if I wanted to review a bag that I should just do a screen recording and say what I think of it and why I can’t buy it. He says that I need to stop buying from Coach and any websites. He tells me that if I need to blog I should film myself walking around and I’m like I won’t get views on those kind of videos and I tell him that. Or he says that I can film myself cleaning around the house and again I’m like I won’t get views if I did those for YouTube. His two sisters still even stalk my YouTube channel and make me look bad. His one sister that started trouble goes on cruises and travels for vacations and she accused me of slandering her for telling her to stop.

I’m sorry about your situation. This sound like a lot of other issues are going on , not just shopping related. Have you guys thought about doing couples counseling?

 

[Pop Art Suzy]

I was lucky because at the time, it was before my daughter was born and I was working at Neiman Marcus and Saks Fifth Ave, so I got an incredible discount. I had lots of Chanel bags, LV's, Ferragamo, and even Gucci at the time. He never questioned me because he hadn't seen the bill yet. But believe me, once he saw it, he was livid! Years later, I ended up selling most of them anyway. And boy do I regret it til this day. Especially my Chanel bags.

 

[lemondln]

I started buy bag from 2018 due to the YT videos, and bought a lot those years. My husband did not complain, he even suggested me to make videos, but i was too busy with kids and also was working. During recent years, I buy less frequently as I have too many bags. I wont add a bag without a lot of consideration. My husband still don't complain my hobby.

 

[songofthesea]

My concern is for you. I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. You sound pretty distraught. Do you have someone you can to? The most important thing is that you feel safe in your marriage.

My husband gets mad period if I buy anything online even Coach bags. He has anxiety bad so I often try to get to my package before he sees it or he’ll quiz me on how much did it cost and he’ll say send it back and how if it was him he’d never would’ve bought it. He yelled at me while I was sleeping and asking me why I keep lying to him when I don’t lie to him a lot. His sister even stalked me on social media over having and buying Coach bags and she threw a fit and got his other sister to do the same to me right after my husband’s mom passed away in September 2023. His siblings even told him that they wanted nothing to do with me for telling his two sisters to stop stalking me online to the point where I had to block two of them on all social media and all of them on TikTok. His one sister made his dad worry which is not good for his bad heart and I said that is not caring for your dad to make him worry and telling him that I buy Coach bags. After he yelled at me this morning I do feel like crying. I do YouTube videos and my husband says that if I wanted to review a bag that I should just do a screen recording and say what I think of it and why I can’t buy it. He says that I need to stop buying from Coach and any websites. He tells me that if I need to blog I should film myself walking around and I’m like I won’t get views on those kind of videos and I tell him that. Or he says that I can film myself cleaning around the house and again I’m like I won’t get views if I did those for YouTube. His two sisters still even stalk my YouTube channel and make me look bad. His one sister that started trouble goes on cruises and travels for vacations and she accused me of slandering her for telling her to stop.

 

[LeahLVoes]

My Ex-Husband used to feel indifferent about my spending as I used to pay for it with my own money. My boyfriend now is much more of an enabler and since he's quite the shoe guy and loves his high end footwear we are kinda enabling each other and most of the time he buys it for me; which I'm super greatful for.

 

[Annawakes]

My husband used to disapprove,
But now he says he just doesn’t want to know anymore.

 

[voner11]

My concern is for you. I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. You sound pretty distraught. Do you have someone you can to? The most important thing is that you feel safe in your marriage.

I talk to two purse groups on Discord about this and how my husband’s sisters are even screen shooting my TikTok and underlining how much the Coach bag was and making it look like I’m stealing my husband’s money which I’m not. Then they are going to my YouTube channel and sharing my unboxing videos but in a negative way by twisting my words and making me look bad and then telling my husband and making me look bad. My sister in laws do not own one designer bag but one of them goes on cruises and travels to Disney World and goes down south and his middle sister and her husband bought like a couple of boats. I had to block all his siblings on TikTok and his nieces when his bday sister started this trouble in October 2023 after their mom passed away in September. I have told her back then to stop it and to stay away from my social media and she then went to my husband and her siblings accusing me of slandering her. And his sisters are looking up the exinlaws on facebook and looking over their profiles to see what they’re up to yet even though they are not friends on facebook. Then in December his oldest sister twisted my words from a YouTube live I done and again upset them with me and this time they admitted that they want nothing to do with me and again I asked them to stop it and to stay away from my YouTube channel. Then last week two days after my unboxing video and comparing the two versions of the cargo tabby his middle sister had to this time point out my video and had my husband watch it and again twisted my words and made me look bad. So I went in to discord for the second time different group and told them about this. Then I did a community post on YouTube saying that you know who you are (my husbands sisters) and asking them to stay away from my YouTube channel and do not watch any of my videos since they are doing it in a negative way and not supporting my channel. I do go through my bag collection I have here and there and I’m not afraid of buying a double of a vintage Coach bag that I already own and have in that color cause if it’s cheap enough I can resell it for money. I did have to block two of my husband’s sister’s on all social media but I don’t know their YouTube username which I wish I knew cause I’d find them and hide my channel from them. They even made my husband create a TikTok to keep an eye on me and saying to him that if it was them they’d fallow me on all just to keep an eye on me. I even had start changes with my YouTube channel and do videos only on Monday, Wednesday, and Fridays and for Facebook I’m not allowing any of his side of the family to see any of my finds and set it to certain people can only see it. I’m hoping that this makes them stop it. Cause this is not what their mother would’ve wanted them to try to break us up, no this all would’ve upsetted her and she would’ve yelled at her own daughters for treating me like this.