No, of course it's not bad. You are already keeping the special things that you associate with her. The other things do not have those same associations -- she might have owned them, but they are just things that she had, not things that defined who she was or that have got sentimental value.
Do you think it's bad?
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Well, we had a mini-fight just before she went to hospital and I feel really bad about it, then I threw out a note she'd left me with my lunch money (because I thought that I'd have the opportunity to get more notes). I feel totally crappy about that ^ :cry:
Thanks for your kind words and suggestions. I think that I'll sell some of my Lancel collection and some of my own stuff. Perhaps a few vintage clothes that I'd never want to wear.
Thanks for your kind words and suggestions. I think that I'll sell some of my Lancel collection and some of my own stuff. Perhaps a few vintage clothes that I'd never want to wear.
I'm so sorry about that perja 
Like the others said, keep the items you remember her by, like her favorite purse or pullover, scarf, etc... give or sell what takes too much place and represents an emotional burden as well.
It might help you also come to terms with her passing.
My condolences again.
Like the others said, keep the items you remember her by, like her favorite purse or pullover, scarf, etc... give or sell what takes too much place and represents an emotional burden as well.
It might help you also come to terms with her passing.
My condolences again.
Perja - I don't think it's wrong at all either. I don't think your mother would have wanted you to keep all her stuff forever either. Can you imagine if your child kept everything you ever touched? Is that something you would want them to do? I know that I wouldn't.
I would keep some stuff for sentimentality reasons, but the rest I would probably donate or sell. Do something with it that you think your mother would have wanted you to do.
I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I know that I would be utterly devastated also. *hugs*
I would keep some stuff for sentimentality reasons, but the rest I would probably donate or sell. Do something with it that you think your mother would have wanted you to do.
I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I know that I would be utterly devastated also. *hugs*
I'm sorry to hear about your mom. I agree also, just sell them and save the money for your children.
I'm sorry about your mom. Mine died less than two months ago, and right now the thought of getting rid of anything is impossible. I put most of her jewelry in the bank and wore a cameo my dad had bought her last year to the service.
I really would suggest, as someone else did, that you keep her bags if they're like yours, and sell the ones you've been carrying. It'll be like having a little piece of her with you.
I really would suggest, as someone else did, that you keep her bags if they're like yours, and sell the ones you've been carrying. It'll be like having a little piece of her with you.
Sorry about your Mom, years ago I lost my Dad. There is not right or wrong to your question. I have a few things of my Dad's that were sentimental to me. The rest we donated to Vet's. Go thru her things again and anything you question getting rid of save until you are sure you are ready to part with it.
Perja- I am so sorry for your loss!!! My mom died last April (can't believe that its going to be a year soon) and am going through the exact same thing. My sister and I went through her clothes and intend to sell some of the clothing which she only wore once but we don't have the heart to keep (too painful). Of course, we still have not been able to do it- and they are all still hanging in her closet (her condo is up for sale right now). I know we will have to deal with it inevitably, but it is so hard to part with anything of hers. In fact, when my dad passed away (Wow, I sound pretty pathetic ) we each kept a few items that held special significance to us and then donated the rest of his belongings. Sell what you can, and keep whatever makes you still feel connected to her (memories, etc.)
Thank you all for your suggestions and a *big* hug to those of you who have lost someone they love. Your kind words really mean a lot to me and as shallow it may seem, you're the first people I can talk to about the "shallow" stuff, like Mom's clothes and bags, etc. It means a lot to me, so thank you for being a great group of people.
I've decided to keep the Hermes, Chanel, Dior bags and sell off the (my) duplicate Lancels, for now.
I've decided to keep the Hermes, Chanel, Dior bags and sell off the (my) duplicate Lancels, for now.
