Do you ever feel ignored while shopping for pricier jewellery???

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ladyash

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Jun 5, 2010
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I'm not sure if it's my age, but lately I have been feeling ignored when I go shopping by myself, especially for jewellery. Granted I'm not spending a ton of money, but what if I was? Being ignored isn't going to boost your sales especially with me. I will more than likely leave before you get around to asking me if I need help. It's frustrating! Especially since I know I look younger than I am but it's really starting to drive me crazy.
Anyway, I have noticed I get better service when I am with my parents than alone. Maybe they think my parents will be paying for what I pick out? I get such good service when I have my mom with me. It's just making me grumpy to see how crappy I am treated when I shop the same stores alone.

This weekend I was shopping at the mall here where I live and I rarely get good service from anyone at the jewellery stores when I am alone. I was watch shopping. I wasn't looking for anything high end because I don't have the money right now with school, but none of the sales reps know that ahead of time! I was browsing watches and was completely ignored for a good half an hour at one store that had two watches I really wanted to see. I was so frustrated that by the time the lady actually got around to me I knew I was NOT buying either watch there. She helped at least three other people that weren't there a couple minutes before she pounced on them before she finally had to help me because she had no one left to pounce on. That was the attitude I felt that I got from her too, was that she ran out of people so she had no choice left but to finally ask what I wanted.

I'm just feeling grumpy because I really liked the one watch. I tried to find it somewhere else and no one had it. I do know that I don't want to give my business to a store that completely ignores someone who is clearly waiting, because they think I might not actually be a buying customer. It's not a large amount of money, but I would rather spend my $130 at a store that treats customers equally no matter what the age or how you look, than a store that snuffs you because you don't look like a customer who will actually buy something.

Ok rant over.

On a positive note: When I was in Toronto last week buying my pandora bracelet alone from European Jewellers at the Eaton Centre, I received excellent service from the sales lady. I'm not sure if this was because I still had my hair and makeup on from fashion week (it was pretty wild and very hard to ignore. I got a lot of weird stares at the Eaton Centre LOL), or it could have been because I told her I wanted the charm to commemorate fashion week. Either way she was very helpful and spent a lot of time with me while I decided which style of bracelet clasp I wanted, even though there was another lady waiting to look at beads too. This was at a store that also sells a lot of high end brands of jewellery as well, so I mean she wasn't making a ton of money off of me compared to if she was helping someone buy an engagement ring, but she was very helpful and patient. I wish I could get that kind of service here!
 
No, I'm really never ignored, but I'm also very confident when I shop. I don't avert my eyes or look away. I can remember being ignored - or in a store that was just busy enough not to even smile my way - and I left.
I don't dress up and I don't bling myself out either because often it's shopping after a gym visit or something.
 
yes, I get ignored when shopping for jewelry..I assume its because im 21 but I look 16 (So I am told). I really am not a jewelry person but I wanted some gold hoop earings (nice ones) and went into the jewelry store my mom and sister buy from. There was about 6 people working and only one other customer. I found what I wanted to see and smiled at the sales lady who was across the room talking with the other 4 or 5 sales people. Not one person said hi or anything. I finaly asked if someone could help me, the lady came over and acted like i was wasteing her time. So I said no thanks and left. A few months later i went in with my mom, we got great service from the same lady who ignored me. Even if i was 16, maybe i am still looking to spend $200 for some hoop earings!
 
Yes...Once that snobbish ladIES at SWAROVSKI ignored me. I actually went to buy!! I had done my little research online...

Then next tym I went wearing one of my Swarovski pendant and earring set...They welcomed me...mean annoying ladies:D

Tiffany people are rude too...esp if u go to buy their silver products....They are just sooo annoying!
 
I have been ignored most times at mall jewellery stores. I don't even dare step into the designer stores. I like to dress casually and I carry a Crumpler sling bag most times, although I wear fine jewellery. I guess everyone assumes I'm wearing rhodium plated silver! I even get ignored when I go with my bf... maybe because he dresses casually too? Anyway, this is why I prefer to shop online. No one can judge me by how I look.
 
I can't ever recall being ignored at an expensive Jewellery store but I DO remember my good friend telling me she once walked into Tiffany's or Cartier.....I can't remember which, & she waited and waited for someone to assist her. NO ONE did.

After waiting for a good 20 minutes (I'd personally would have left within 5 minutes), she finally pulled out her cell phone & called the store she was waiting in & asked for the Manager/Supervisor. Ironically, there happened to be one working there that day. When she explained her situation, immediately a SA "appeared" :rolleyes:

I'll admit to using her technique at Home Depot once. Sometimes, it's the only way of getting any service!!!
 
I get ignored pretty much everywhere. I'm 24 but I look 15, so I understand, but it is still frustrating.

You know.....forget age.....that's even worse to ignore someone because of the fact that they're younger.

I remember going on a short boat cruise to see the Thousand Islands near Kingston Ontario. I went with my family and cousins. We were approx 10 or 11 years old.

Anyways....we were heading back to shore and my Uncle wanted something to drink (soda pop), so my cousins & I gladly obliged ONLY to be refused service by the woman in the restaurant behind the counter. She told us she was closed & no more drinks would be served. When we came back & empty-handed & told him what happened, my uncle walked over only to be served immediately!!!!!

Well......you don't know my uncle, but let's just say that when he finished with her, she was in tears. He was FURIOUS that she did not want to sell us the soda because we were "kids"

I always perceive people who ignore others due to age, status, or any other reason as discriminatory & highly ignorant. I know several people who are very well-established who don't necessarily dress the part. I have a great "Rolls Royce" story I might share sometime :p

Bottom line, people should reserve judgement as they just never know who you might be.
 
Bottom line, people should reserve judgement as they just never know who you might be.

^^So very true!! I live in the midwest where there are a lot of farmers, etc. I learned, very quickly, that you never judge a person especially by what they are wearing. We have people coming into the jewelry store where I work in their oil-stained overall's, dirt under the nails, etc. that can EASILY write a check for $50K or more if they wanted.
 
^^So very true!! I live in the midwest where there are a lot of farmers, etc. I learned, very quickly, that you never judge a person especially by what they are wearing. We have people coming into the jewelry store where I work in their oil-stained overall's, dirt under the nails, etc. that can EASILY write a check for $50K or more if they wanted.

I believe it :yes:

My friend's father owned 2 Rolls Royces & was about to purchase a 3rd one....CASH.

As he was looking at the car, one of the SA's came over & asked him to STOP what he was doing, NOT to touch it, and step away from the car. He then proceeded to ask him if he knew what type of car it was.

So.....my friend's father did indeed step away from the car, reached into his wallet, pulled out his ownership and asked the SA, "Do you know what type of car this is?" Of course, it stated that he owned an RR. Jaw dropping, the SA began to apologize, but there was no going back........he lost the sale.
 
I get ignored at the cosmetics and skin care counters all the time.
I 'm never ignored at the jewelers perhaps because I know what I want and I'm confident, I'm never intimidated in a jewelry store. My first job was a jeweler's and I'm very familiar with this line of work, it is my playground lol. Personally as an SA I never looked down on customers, granted 80% were only looking/window shopping but I was trying to keep a balance between not ignoring them, but not breathing down their neck either, most of all I was trying to be helpful. Some SAs can't keep that balance because they try to judge the customers by their appearance and age groups.
 
she finally pulled out her cell phone & called the store she was waiting in & asked for the Manager/Supervisor.

I've done this before, but not in a high end store. It is always impossible to find help in our Home Depot or Lowes Home Improvement. I will call the store and tell them I am in aisle 10 and ask them to send a sales associate over! It works! (I learned this from a contractor I was working with)
 
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No, I'm really never ignored, but I'm also very confident when I shop. I don't avert my eyes or look away.

Same for me. When I want to be waited on it I make sure it is obvious that I am done just looking and I want help. If someone doesn't come to me within a reasonable amount of time I will approach whoever is there and ask in a nice but firm way if there is someone who can help me.
 
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