do friends let friends unknowingly carry fakes?

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#76
Luccibag said:
Once again I'd have to say something (if its a good friend of mine) What if she wanted to sell it? She could get herself into a lot of trouble. What if she did manage to sell it to a good friend for a Birkin's market value? That could quickly turn into a "you knew and you didnt tell me??" situation.

I'd find a way to gently let her know.
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good point!!! I didn't even think of that!

At the end of the day, IMHO clearly the issue of the BF is more important than that of the bag. If my BF had knowingly given me a fake bag and tried to pass it off as the real thing, I think that says a whole bunch about his character and I would definitely want to know, especially if the person telling me is someone I trust implicitly as having my best interests at heart.

With a more casual acquaintance, I doubt if I would take the risk of being shot for bearing the bad news......sigh....I'm too much of a coward to face the confrontation.....
 
#77
wow - so much insightful advice here - i really appreciate everyone's comments!!

i'm happy to report that the situation has resolved itself far more neatly than i had hoped! it turns out the mutual friend (the one who sent me the email questioning the authenticity of the bag) brought up the subject to my girlfriend, who then came to me and asked for my thoughts.

i shared my views, and while i did get a little bit of the "why didn't you tell me??" routine, i explained that i had been trying to decide what to do since last week, but hadn't yet figured out the "right thing" yet. she was pretty understanding after i explained my position . . . so now it's out of my hands as she tries to ascertain whether her BF was swindled as well . . .

*phew* bullet dodged

just wanted to let people know how the situation turned out, and to say a big :ty: to all who offered their support & advice!! (^(oo)^)
 
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#79
lvpiggy said:
wow - so much insightful advice here - i really appreciate everyone's comments!!

i'm happy to report that the situation has resolved itself far more neatly than i had hoped! it turns out the mutual friend (the one who sent me the email questioning the authenticity of the bag) brought up the subject to my girlfriend, who then came to me and asked for my thoughts.

i shared my views, and while i did get a little bit of the "why didn't you tell me??" routine, i explained that i had been trying to decide what to do since last week, but hadn't yet figured out the "right thing" yet. she was pretty understanding after i explained my position . . . so now it's out of my hands as she tries to ascertain whether her BF was swindled as well . . .

*phew* bullet dodged

just wanted to let people know how the situation turned out, and to say a big :ty: to all who offered their support & advice!! (^(oo)^)
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PHEW!
Breathing a huge sigh of relief for you, Piggy.
I guess now it's up to your friend to check in with her BF, but I'm glad she came to you for advice instead of being upset with the messenger. :smile1:
 
#80
lvpiggy said:
wow - so much insightful advice here - i really appreciate everyone's comments!!

i'm happy to report that the situation has resolved itself far more neatly than i had hoped! it turns out the mutual friend (the one who sent me the email questioning the authenticity of the bag) brought up the subject to my girlfriend, who then came to me and asked for my thoughts.

i shared my views, and while i did get a little bit of the "why didn't you tell me??" routine, i explained that i had been trying to decide what to do since last week, but hadn't yet figured out the "right thing" yet. she was pretty understanding after i explained my position . . . so now it's out of my hands as she tries to ascertain whether her BF was swindled as well . . .

*phew* bullet dodged

just wanted to let people know how the situation turned out, and to say a big :ty: to all who offered their support & advice!! (^(oo)^)
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:sweatdrop: minefield - well done piggy.

Maybe one thing to add to your CV if you ever enter the diplomatic service ;)
 
#81
What a relief! Glad you didn't have to broach this delicate issue with your friend (and she came to you instead).

I hope your friend gets a good resolution on her end. If her relationship with her bf is strong enough, hopefully she can just ask him directly.
 
#82
good for you piggy! this was certainly a tricky one.

I hope things work out well for your friend too.....if she wasn't in the know from the start - poor girl......
 
#84
In cleaning out my mom's closet for a move, I spotted two replica birkins (1 black, 1 brown). My mom's never been into luxury shopping, so it was really weird, and I asked her why (??) she got these (and where??). One of her clients who had a shop in her town said "Belinda, you should buy these". She said she paid $400 each in '03 or '04. That's a lot of $ for my retired Mom, so she thought they were nice bags! (and she likes her black one - another reason I didn't have the heart to say anything about it and accepted her gift of the brown one to me graciously (bc she "knows i love bags").

What was I supposed to say, eeeeeeww, so that she felt embarrassed and ashamed? This is someone who grew up so poor that there was a time where she wore house-slippers to high school. There were a few other shoes, but they were so bad the slippers were actually the best option. (she actually cried after telling me this).

So now I have this bag. I'm wondering what to do. It seems incredibly ... sacrilegious somehow...

Even worse...(holy cow, pls don't judge me too harshly) I like it! It holds things great. The interior has a really functional compartment system. I can knock it around w/o a care in the world. ..ok, I will admit it, I want to make use of this item.

Phew.

I had to get this "confession" off my chest.

Feeling better already. Thanks forum psychotherapists.

Still have not used it, and if I did, it would be backwards (label in). Should I waste it? Use it? So confused.
 
#87
And what's worse is that I have this bag now and...it is pretty functional and stiff..I like the placement of its compartments...it fits everything perfectly....

Counterfeit is just wrong. I am actually experiencing a real moral dilemma.
 
#88
YOU didn't buy these - your mothers did, unknowingly! Carry them and enjoy knowing that giving them to you brought joy to your mothers. No moral conundrum at all...
 
#89
I personally wouldn't feel comfortable carrying a fake. I don't like who profits from it, I don't like hurting the designers who took so much time to design the real thing.. fakes actually upset me a lot. but there are obviously millions of women who don't care and do anyway. I wouldn't destroy them, but maybe use them in another way? Like as a magazine holder, or a cute little bag to throw scrap paper to recycle? When I am scrapbooking I put all my extra scraps in a cute little bag before recycling them. That way they can become home decor. Just a couple ideas.

I wouldn't say anything to your mom, it won't do any good. She already spent the $$, which to her was a huge deal, so there is no reason to make her feel bad about getting duped into a fake. Just thank her, say you love them, and move on! I have a friend who constantly carries fake Chanels and brags about how she drops so much $$ at the boutique, and I just smile and say I am happy she is happy. No need to rain on her parade I think!
 
#90
India said:
YOU didn't buy these - your mothers did, unknowingly! Carry them and enjoy knowing that giving them to you brought joy to your mothers. No moral conundrum at all...
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Alright. Thanks so much for this. I shouldn't be dwelling. You are right. If it is functional, it's there, it suits my purposes, if my very sweet Mom felt joy in giving me the gift, it should be used so as not to insult the spirit of the giving. Especially in this season.

Thank you.
 
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