do friends let friends unknowingly carry fakes?

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#16
just my 2 cents here -

if she was really close, almost alike best friend status, i wld tell her my concerns abt the bag.

(trust your instincts, if u are hesitating here, it probably means your friendship is not at that 'level' where you can be 100% upfront & there is also 100% faith that she knows you meant no ill intentions).

seriously f i have to ask myself this question, i wld just shut up/let it go & let her enjoy her bag.
 
#18
It is a difficult one and I understand your dilemma.

Maybe taking her with you to an H store would help although then you don't want an SA to tell her and for her to then say "why didn't you notice" and get upset with you that way.

I think whatever you do has consequences but the longer it goes the worse its going to be because if you let her carry the bag around thinking that its real for a long time then she's going to be upset when she finds out that you knew it was a fake all that time and didn't tell her because she's going to feel stupid.

How about if you were to go out with her with one of your Birkins and just say something like - that doesn't look quite the same as mine - and then suggest that maybe its faulty and get her to an H boutique like that.

As lots of people have said, you don't want to cause any problem between your friend and this man but at the same time - you have to ask yourself, who is bothered by this more - you or her? How would she feel if she knew it was fake? Would she still carry it or would she hate it? Is it you that is more bothered?

Just me 2 cents worth!
 
#20
uhh, that's quite tricky.. But if it was my friend I'd tell her my doubts.
This does not mean to blame the man who gave her the bag.

I also think it's a really good idea to take your bag with you the next time you'll meet her.
If she will not notice the difference you can carefully mention it.
 
#21
Hi,This is a very difficult one to answer but on balance unless my friend asked me outright what I thought of it I wouldn't say anything.
After all you said yourself it was not immediately obvious until you looked closely so you always have that to fall back on.

I don't envy you in this situation it is very difficult,I once had a similar situation with a friend over a fendi spy bag.Fortunately she feared hers was fake as soon as she saw my genuine one and actually asked me for a second opinion.
 
#22
thanks everyone for sharing your thoughts with me . . . just thought i'd provide a bit more info, and also share the course of action that i'm considering, with your very helpful input (^(oo)^)v

while the two of us are not "best friends," we have definitely had our share of late-night conversations that lasted 'til the sun came up. normally i would indeed MMOB, but she has made negative remarks about fakes we have seen sometimes while out & about, like fake CL's with red soles, so i'm pretty sure she will be mortified when/if she finds out.

that being said, i think the "bring out my own & let her draw her own conclusions" strategy is probably the prudent way to go. her bag is supposed to be matte croc, but it's vastly different in feel from the real thing, so i'm just going to bring out my matte croc lindy next time we hang out without making any reference to it.

thanks again, everyone, for taking the time to share your excellent suggestions! i really appreciate it (^(oo)^)v
 
#24
It depends on how a good friend she is, but it doesnt sound that she is your closest friend.

I d say, unless asked directly, say nothing because nobody will ever thank you for being the bearer of bad news, especially if they havent asked. Yes, there s a possibility she s testing you because she has her own concerns as to whether it is genuine, but I d find this very remote - if she s testing you she ought to have at least asked you what do you think of this and that regarding the bag.

If I were you, I d just avoid any conversation regarding the bag or admiring it because this would put me in the position where I d have to pretend it s a nice bag - and lie. If she realises you are avoiding these conversations, she will ask you why, and then you can say something doesnt look right and maybe she can take it to H spa herself - and leave it there.
 
#25
Doesn't sound like you are close enough friends to say anything if you have to ask this forum. Stay mute unless she solicits your opinion. Just not worth any potential drama. I like to keep my life drama FREE!!! :amuse:
 
#27
IMO, I would hint very subtly and very gently about the issue. That way, if she does indeed know that it's fake, she won't "lose face" in front of you and other friends, but if she doesn't, then she can start her own "investigations" into it.
 
#28
What a tricky situation!

If I was your friend, and I thought 'my guy' had bought me an authentic bag, I would want to know. The man might not have known either.

The situation could get even more tricky: Can you imagine if she was swinging around her bag in town, perhaps even popping into Hermes with my Hermes loving friends and not knowing her bag was not the real thing?

On the other hand, and others have mentioned, it might be easier to say nothing as though you hadn't noticed.

I agree with others, it depends on how well you know her.
 
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#29
. . . and the plot thickens!! :faint:

this morning, what should be sitting in my email inbox but a message from a mutual friend who was also at drinks, seeking my opinion on the bag's authenticity?!

i'm just going to respond "why do you ask?" and deflect all further inquiries . . . the last thing i want to do is start having discussions about authenticity with someone else, behind my friend's back, as it were . . .

goodness-what has the little piggy done to merit this mess?!? je refuse! aiyo (>(oo)<)`
 
#30
I would not say a word, unless she specifically asked you if her bag is a fake. Many people do not know there are such things as fake bags, replicas of real designer merchandise. They just see a name, and they recognize it. Only people like us Purse Forum members have such a visceral reaction to fake bags.
So you can honestly tell her that her bag is a pretty color, or style, because it probably is.

Oh, I just saw the above post about authenticity. Still, I would stay clear of the subject and say that you really had not examined it closely, and that the only way to really prove it would be to take the bag to an Hermes boutique.
 
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