do friends let friends unknowingly carry fakes?

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lvpiggy

lvpiggy

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#1
This little piggy has a moral quandary, and would very much appreciate some advice . . .

Got together with a good friend today for drinks, and she excitedly showed me the 'birkin' her male friend had brought back for her as a gift from his recent travels in Europe. it was clear from her behaviour that she thinks the bag is authentic; she doesn't shop at H, and I had to get pretty close up before I realised it was a fake.

I know she doesn't own other knockoff/fake brand name items. If the situation were reversed, I would want someone to tell me ASAP about the issue so I wouldn't be unknowingly sporting a fake all around town.

Still, I don't want to meddle in her relationship with this guy, and I am wary of becoming the victim of a "shoot the messenger" reaction . . .

What do you think? Am I just being a busypiggy who should MYOB and let her enjoy the gift from her friend?

TIA! I'm really at a loss here . . . *confused* (>(oo)<)`
 
#2
I have no prob about frankness with my very good friends. in this situation, you are not saying bad things about the man. who knows the man might be conned too.

only you know how close you are to your friend.

i always think if a very good friend of so many years doubt me of something so simple and over a man (especially one she just knew), i need to rethink about our friendship.
 
#3
robee, that's an excellent point - i shouldn't have jumped to conclusions about the guy! silly piggy :noggin:

looking at it from that perspective makes me lean towards telling her, and suggesting that her friend may want to discuss the possibility of a chargeback with his CC company, or some other means of getting his money back. . . i hope he didn't pay the full retail price (>(oo)<)`
 
#4
Oh, this is a tricky one. Although it isn't as tough as a question like, "should I tell my friend I saw her BF with another lady?" I think the key question is, 'Does her male friend (you mean BF?) know that the bag is fake? If that guy didn't know that the bag is fake, telling them might be helpful. At least to prevent them from buying another one!! We all know what will happen once we have the first Birkin, right? Let's see what our experienced tpfers think. Good luck with your decision, poor little Piggy!
 
#5
piggy - not all men as savvy as us, especially on such things. must always give the benefit of doubt. My DH knows how "un-savvy" he is... he only buy from the store. and he will tell me, but i can't find birkin in store, so no bag hahahahahahah LOL
 
#6
Wow lvpiggy, It is a difficult dilemma this one!

On the one hand you do want to MYOB and not 1) comment on friends "fashion choice", and 2) don't want to meddle in her relationship with her bf, but then if the guy actually lied to her and pretend he bought her a real one, then here's a very dishonest guy yet you'll be watching your good friend being lied to.

Does your friend know how much a Birkin cost? Perhaps instead of speaking to her directly about the authenticity of the bag, you should subtly mention to her how expensive the bag is, and test the waters with your good friend to see if she truely believe her bf would/could buy her a bag costing that much. You could probably also contrast her bag with your real one and see if she would spot the difference and be curious about it.
 
#9
i would not say anything unless asked specifically about such question. it is none of your business, PERIOD.

however, i would enquire more about the situation under which such bag was purchased and gifted and make suggestions so that the friend can find out the truth him/herself, such as suggesting to bring it to H for spa or others.
 
#10
lvpiggy said:
This little piggy has a moral quandary, and would very much appreciate some advice . . .

Got together with a good friend today for drinks, and she excitedly showed me the 'birkin' her male friend had brought back for her as a gift from his recent travels in Europe. it was clear from her behaviour that she thinks the bag is authentic; she doesn't shop at H, and I had to get pretty close up before I realised it was a fake.

I know she doesn't own other knockoff/fake brand name items. If the situation were reversed, I would want someone to tell me ASAP about the issue so I wouldn't be unknowingly sporting a fake all around town.

Still, I don't want to meddle in her relationship with this guy, and I am wary of becoming the victim of a "shoot the messenger" reaction . . .

What do you think? Am I just being a busypiggy who should MYOB and let her enjoy the gift from her friend?

TIA! I'm really at a loss here . . . *confused* (>(oo)<)`
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Did it come to your mind that this friend was testing you ?
 
#12
Good point, cannot agree more!

robee said:
I have no prob about frankness with my very good friends. in this situation, you are not saying bad things about the man. who knows the man might be conned too.

only you know how close you are to your friend.

i always think if a very good friend of so many years doubt me of something so simple and over a man (especially one she just knew), i need to rethink about our friendship.
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#13
I wouldn't say anything. Or you could suggest bringing it in for spa asap and let the SA tell her. You could find a particularly wrinkly part and say something like... "Hey, this part doesn't look normal, maybe it is spoiled. Let's bring it to spa and let the craftsman take a look at it."
 
#14
I won't tell because (1) maybe she actually knows it is fake, so you should not embarass her, or (2) her BF lets her think it is a genuine bag while his BF knows it is fake then this might ruin their relationship which has nothing to do with you, or (3) even if her BF doesn't know it is fake, how likely that her BF will buy her another birkin from the SAME seller in the future that he will be cheated again?

If I were you I would remain silent not even share this piece of information amongst friends. Because you won't know whether your friends will leak this to her.

This is not similar to the scenario that you saw her BF taking anoter girl. In that case you should tell her to protect her from being cheated.

Just my two cents.
 
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