Chanel on dates

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#16
Where the bag. Would you want to spend your time let alone your life with someone that would judge you over something so superficial? We all have things we are into and vices. Although his may not be luxury items or handbags obviously, I’m sure it is something else. Besides, it’ll show him what type of quality gifts you like without saying a word.
 
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#17
When you go on dates, does he pay, or do you go Dutch? Do you get the vibe that he's very conscientious about money, or he doesn't make enough, therefore he might frown upon your hobby?

I'd try to get to know the guy first. Then slowly introduce your Chanels, there's no need to have a lengthy convo about luxury shopping, most guys won't even understand what the hell you're carrying/ talking about.

Funny story to share: 10 years ago, I went on a first date with this guy and carried a 30 Birkin. Guy had absolutely no clue the whole day, it wasn't until dinnertime we were at a restaurant, the waiter (who was obviously gay and super into fashion) screamed that it's an Hermes birkin, 10,000 dollars, gesturing wild like he just won the lottery, and wanted to take a picture. Then my guy choked on his drink. Hahaha.
 
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Tahoe10 said:
When I dated four years ago (which led me to the guy I’m with now), I’d bring a low key bag on my first date. This is because the first date should not have unnecessary distractions (in my opinion). I didn’t want a guy to think that I expected him to buy me nice things (I buy all of my luxury items myself). After a few dates with the same guy (who is still my boyfriend four years later), the Chanels started to make their appearances. There is no reason to hide who you really are and the best part of dating is letting someone really get to know you! In retrospect, I am glad I waited a few dates because it did start conversations about money, which isn’t something I would want to do on a first date.
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That is also another reason I tried to avoid it... I didn't want him to think I expect him to buy me nice things. I definitely find joy in purchasing items on my own through saving up. :P
 
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Grande Latte said:
When you go on dates, does he pay, or do you go Dutch? Do you get the vibe that he's very conscientious about money, or he doesn't make enough, therefore he might frown upon your hobby?

I'd try to get to know the guy first. Then slowly introduce your Chanels, there's no need to have a lengthy convo about luxury shopping, most guys won't even understand what the hell you're carrying/ talking about.

Funny story to share: 10 years ago, I went on a first date with this guy and carried a 30 Birkin. Guy had absolutely no clue the whole day, it wasn't until dinnertime we were at a restaurant, the waiter (who was obviously gay and super into fashion) screamed that it's an Hermes birkin, 10,000 dollars, gesturing wild like he just won the lottery, and wanted to take a picture. Then my guy choked on his drink. Hahaha.
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He is rather generous and doesn't mind spending on others, but frugal on himself it seems.
I do not get those vibes, but I have dated guys in the past who started expecting me to pay for things because of car I drive and purses I wore... YIKES. ugh. (bye Felicia)

I did wear a Dior cannage pochette and he commented it looked really nice.
Thank you everyone for replying to this thread, I feel a lot better about wearing items I love because that is who I am.
The bags will slowly make its showings! haha
 
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#22
When I was dating, I definitely wore Chanel on most of my first dates because those little bags were perfect for the occasion. Most guys either had no idea or just didn't say anything about my bag. Guys don't care. If you enter the relationship with these items, it stands to reason that you won't be expecting him to provide them for you. I certainly did not and still do not.

Of course, I wore a North Face backpack on my first date with my now-almost-husband (thanks, COVID-19). I had been studying in the library for probably 12 hours and nearly cancelled our date because of the midterm I had the next day. I still got an A on the midterm and had the last best first date ever.

It took about a year and a half to gently reveal the breadth and depth of my collection to him. He might not even fully appreciate it even now, but that's fine. Again, this has always been and will always be my thing.
 
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It is so important to be able to be yourself in a relationship. Don't start it off by hiding something about yourself or pretending to be someone you're not. If he is put off by the bag you carry, he isn't the right person for you.
 
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I say wear it right away. These days people are always trying to 'mask' and show their best self. It's exhausting and in the long run true behaviors start to creep in. If you feel like you have to hide something from a potential partner, is the said potential partner even worth pursuing? I mean when I was dating, I always laid the cards on the table. You want a woman who cooks? Not gonna be me. You want a stay at home wife? Not gonna be me. If you have fundamental differences with regard to money and what you find to be acceptable spending habits, then why waste your time. I don't think you should start talking about these things right away, but wear the bag!!
 
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#26
My boyfriend didn’t know much about designer bags and doesn’t pry. However there was one time I had just gotten a red Chanel bag — he googled “red Chanel” out of curiosity and was shocked by the price.

He doesn’t mind the purchases because I manage my own money and am thoughtful/responsible (for example I try to buy secondhand and resell the bag myself so I don’t lose too much, if at all). Like others have already said, it’s a problem only if you’re acting irresponsibly.
 
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#27
How I see it is, you bought them with your money and you should wear it. It's not his money. I went out with a guy for a couple of months a while ago and he made many comments about my Chanels and me buying designer RTW, he did not understand why I spent so much money when I didn't go to all these fabulous parties. I looked at him and said " Don't worry about how I spend MY Money. Just because I am not going to any fabulous party right now doesnt mean I won't in the future." I kid you not we broke up over a Dolce and Gabbana dress I had purchased with MY money and he didn't like, he said "you are not going out with that old lady dress" I kept the dress and got rid of him.
 
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Coco.lover said:
How I see it is, you bought them with your money and you should wear it. It's not his money. I went out with a guy for a couple of months a while ago and he made many comments about my Chanels and me buying designer RTW, he did not understand why I spent so much money when I didn't go to all these fabulous parties. I looked at him and said " Don't worry about how I spend MY Money. Just because I am not going to any fabulous party right now doesnt mean I won't in the future." I kid you not we broke up over a Dolce and Gabbana dress I had purchased with MY money and he didn't like, he said "you are not going out with that old lady dress" I kept the dress and got rid of him.
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Wow thats incredibly rude, to call your dress a 'old lady dress' or insult the things you love. Good riddance.
 
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Lol I commented earlier on a different thread about Chanel at work. I definitely was in the camp of “reconsider” since it may convey a message you don’t want.

And here I am on this thread saying “go balls the the walls sister” with the Chanel bags on dates. Look your most fabulous! Turn those heads! Make them jealous! Jealousy from random strangers is great (probably not so great from coworkers).

I’ll take it a point to consider on wearing something more “muted” on the first date. But he really needs to know you for you. Bad idea to date someone who thinks you want a target bag for Christmas or doesn’t know where your “level” of taste is (god forbid you have a joint account and he is like no I don’t get it so no) If you like brands you like brands. If you like target for everything, you like target for everything. No big, but no need to “hide” this factor of your life :)
 
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