Can’t decide: K25 Barenia, yes or no?

[missfaraday]

I'm a bit of a collector as well but at that price point, I definitely understand your hesitation.
Since you already feel guilty about the price, would you feel worse seeing it unused on your shelf day after day?

That’s really sweet, thank you! ❤️ And SO true in my case… I would definitely feel guilty seeing it unused, when I could have saved this money for my retirement / baby (if it comes one day…). On the other hand, it is such a beautiful and unique bag that I think it would work as a piece of art for me, forever ❤️

The ladies have all shared super valid points and I believe your decision has been made.
Good luck on your IVF journey; the money you saved not buying this bag I'm sure will be better channelled and appreciated once your baby comes.

Awww thank you so much! So sweet… You’ve touched my heart ❤️

We all have to accept that from time to time something we thought we wanted just isn't right for us.
You describe how you allowed the idea of this to become a dream because it seemed impossible to realise. Having to face the harsh light of reality, you have identified some seriously valid points for you why this could be an expensive mistake. I don't think it is the bag that, in the future, you will regret letting go; it will be the bag where you learnt to recognise nice ideas that are not quite right.

Love your thoughts, thank you SO much. No words, just thank you from the deep of my heart ❤️

You describe a situation that leads to buying regrets. This is when there is a gulf between your fantasy life and your real life. In your fantasy life barenia is perfect but in reality you have real doubts about its suitability to your life, the cost and your competing priorities. I also think regrets about spending too much are more consequential about than regrets about the H bag that you gave up.

I have a fauve barenia sellier kelly and I love it though I use it infrequently.

Ohhh you’re so right! How many times I’ve bought for my fantasy self in the past…! Thank you dear ❤️❤️

I LOVE Barenia too. Love it. Have a Birkin, two HACs (one I "share" hahahaha), and a bunch of SLGs.
I would LOVE a Barenia Kelly.... in a retourné. Or maybe in PHW. In a style that can be worn and used as Barenia should be.
So I get it.
To kind of reinforce the point, I sold my k25 bag because the price at the time ($12K USD) represented a huge amount of money that I could do other meaningful things with, and I could not afford to have collector's items living in their boxes. I don't regret the decision in itself. If that bag had just sat in the box, maybe I could get the money back today. If I used it, no way. But I would have felt bad about the bag in its box the whole time.

And you've said you don't even wear your current Kelly.

Maybe try a patina'd piece of Barenia in an under the radar bag shape you'd be comfortable wearing every day?

That’s a super clever idea, thank you! why not trying another shape in the same leather? Perhaps a vintage one. Yep. I’ll start searching! ❤️❤️

I also have a Barenia sellier K25, and I echo this sentiment.

For me, it's not suitable for daily use, and it's too small to carry to work IMO. On the flip side, I will say that every time I carry this bag someone stops to tell me how much they like my bag! It's truly stunning.

Best of luck with your decision.

Thank you my dear! I believe you, when you say people stop you every time you wear the bag. It’s SUCH a stunning piece of art! ❤️❤️❤️

 

[missfaraday]

I’m so happy I decided to open this thread…! You have all helped me put my thoughts and feelings in order, I was messed up and after reading all of your comments, now I can tell I feel more confident to make a decision.
Whether it is to take it or leave it behind, I feel it’s going to be for good ❤️

Also, I have just sold my K28, which almost finances this barenia gem, so money is not the biggest dilemma now. I just need to decide whether it makes sense to have a piece of art or not. This won’t probably be my most used bag. I would have it as a Picasso. But… sometimes bags are not just for a practical use, right? Bags like this one are for a delightful moment, just for the pleasure of senses.

Let’s see how this ends… but for now, thank you, for your kindness and generosity. I’ve felt like speaking to beloved friends and that’s now also part of the story of this bag for me ❤️

 

[Veritybelle]

This thread should be recommended reading for anyone trying to work out whether to make a very large discretionary purchase - you've approached the decision carefully and been alert to the siren call of SM influence. Please come back and let us know what you decide in the end (I feel like I know which way you might go...). And best of luck with your IVF treatment.

 

[A bottle of Red]

The most important thing is to be at peace with whatever way you choose to go!
Wishing much success with your ivf journey as well!

 

[BreezyE]

Thank you! ❤️
Yes… that’s exactly why I’m hesitating a lot. I love Barenia leather (it is fauve Barenia), I love imagining how it would age and get patina with time, I love how it looks by itself… I would put it on a shelve and look at it all day. But… would I grab it and use it in the streets without fearing that I might get robbed? Would I bring it to work, and get all comments from my colleagues? (They already know I’m crazy about Hermès but I don’t like to be judged so I prefer to keep a low profile at the office).

Plus… I’m going through IVF and it’s being such a hard time that I don’t want to add mental pressure to the whole process.
I know. Hormones shouldn’t decide for me… so here I am, trying to keep reasonable and understand my feelings.

I live in a higher crime area and bring my birkin everywhere including on transit. I don't think most people know what an Hermes bag is (contrary to what we see on the forums). If I was ever concerned I just flip the bag to face me so you can't see the front.

 

[marbella8]

I have a mini Lindy in Togo and I have a Kelly-Sellier 25 in Togo, both are the same color and HW, and since getting the mini Lindy, I don’t use the Kelly 25. I am Not a sellier girl. So, like @QuelleFromage I wouldn’t find a use from it, but I have really wanted a Kelly in Barenia, so I think I’d buy it since you sold your K28. However, if you’re not going to use it, is it worth that much $? Sellier corners are so sensitive and in Barenia not much can be done to touch up the corners. Gosh- I’m no help! Sorry! Tough decision, but in the end, it’s just a bag, just a material thing. Who cares if it’s rare and just sits in your closet if you don’t use it. Maybe tell your SA you want to wait for one in retourne? Btw- I am assuming you mean smooth Barenia not the BF. If it’s BF, I’d definitely pass.

 

[missmythology]

I didn’t know it’s over 10k already , that’s a lot for sure, however I think that bag in this size and leather is one of the most beautiful Hermes bags out there.

 

[Txoceangirl]

When in doubt, pass!

 

[horselove]

I don’t know if you have decided, but l say ‘BUY IT!’ Barenia in K25 is a unicorn, if you love barenia and have considered it previously, buy it! Even if you have remorse later, it’s not like you are going to lose money (ok l don’t endorse this but there is always the option of selling). Seriously l were you l will grab it, and make myself use it. Frequency of use is a choice
Ps: l presume this is smooth barenia, since it’s sellier?

 

[kellylindy]

I think if you have the doubt at first, it is hard to fall in love with it. You will keep looking at its cons. If I were you I will pass and wait for another offer. It’s true that you can accept and if don’t like it you may resell it, but in this way you waste this opportunity and you’ll have to prespend again to get the next offer.

 

[missfaraday]

Hello ladies, I wanted to share an update with you ❤️
After much internal debate, reading your comments helped me look deeply inside and understand what was my main blocker: guilt, for spending so much money in “just” one thing, that wasn’t at all a real need in life.
I wasn’t sure about selling my K28, but once I sold it (that was fast - less than 24 hours!), I felt more confident and… yes! I went to the store and brought my new bag home
And I can’t be happier about my decision! I have used it since (five days already in a row!), and enjoyed every bit of it. With its original strap, and also with the Sangle strap I had for my K28. Here’s a picture from the day I saw it for the first time, and another one from this morning.
All of you were right, and I want to thank you, once again, for your time and generosity sharing your thoughts and advice. A decision like this one cannot be made in a second, it needs reflection and sometimes Hermès doesn’t allow to think too long. But this time I was lucky that my wonderful SA didn’t show the bag to anyone else while I was making a decision ❤️.
Not sure what the future will bring… but I hope and pray that my future son or daughter will have this bag one day, with its patina and scratches. For me, it’s a symbol of some dreams coming true, after a long time working very hard towards them. Again, thank you, all! You are now part of this story as well, and that makes it even more special

 

[periogirl28]

Congrats!

 

[textilegirl]

Absolutely thrilled for you!!!

 

[doloresmia]

Hello ladies, I wanted to share an update with you ❤️
After much internal debate, reading your comments helped me look deeply inside and understand what was my main blocker: guilt, for spending so much money in “just” one thing, that wasn’t at all a real need in life.
I wasn’t sure about selling my K28, but once I sold it (that was fast - less than 24 hours!), I felt more confident and… yes! I went to the store and brought my new bag home
And I can’t be happier about my decision! I have used it since (five days already in a row!), and enjoyed every bit of it. With its original strap, and also with the Sangle strap I had for my K28. Here’s a picture from the day I saw it for the first time, and another one from this morning.
All of you were right, and I want to thank you, once again, for your time and generosity sharing your thoughts and advice. A decision like this one cannot be made in a second, it needs reflection and sometimes Hermès doesn’t allow to think too long. But this time I was lucky that my wonderful SA didn’t show the bag to anyone else while I was making a decision ❤️.
Not sure what the future will bring… but I hope and pray that my future son or daughter will have this bag one day, with its patina and scratches. For me, it’s a symbol of some dreams coming true, after a long time working very hard towards them. Again, thank you, all! You are now part of this story as well, and that makes it even more special

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Sooooo beautiful!

 

[maxroxxherhandbags]

Hello ladies, I wanted to share an update with you ❤️
After much internal debate, reading your comments helped me look deeply inside and understand what was my main blocker: guilt, for spending so much money in “just” one thing, that wasn’t at all a real need in life.
I wasn’t sure about selling my K28, but once I sold it (that was fast - less than 24 hours!), I felt more confident and… yes! I went to the store and brought my new bag home
And I can’t be happier about my decision! I have used it since (five days already in a row!), and enjoyed every bit of it. With its original strap, and also with the Sangle strap I had for my K28. Here’s a picture from the day I saw it for the first time, and another one from this morning.
All of you were right, and I want to thank you, once again, for your time and generosity sharing your thoughts and advice. A decision like this one cannot be made in a second, it needs reflection and sometimes Hermès doesn’t allow to think too long. But this time I was lucky that my wonderful SA didn’t show the bag to anyone else while I was making a decision ❤️.
Not sure what the future will bring… but I hope and pray that my future son or daughter will have this bag one day, with its patina and scratches. For me, it’s a symbol of some dreams coming true, after a long time working very hard towards them. Again, thank you, all! You are now part of this story as well, and that makes it even more special

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awwww!
God bless you!
Such a lovely update and a truly beautiful bag.
I personally understand all the emotions involved in making this purchase but I feel the universe wanted you to have it.
Your lovely SA held it, and you sold your K28 so quickly.
I wish you many blessings and hopefully we will at some point see an update from you wearing it across a very big baby bump.
Wishing you and your beautiful bag lots of joyful times for many years ahead

PS: So very happy to hear you've been using it non stop!