I don't find it that surprising. But I guess it depends on what you're used to and what kind of family you have. I'm not sure my family would rush to be by my side no matter what happened. I can imagine them calling me and asking me if there was anything they could do and ask me if I wanted them to come visit me or if I wanted to fly to them and stay at their house etc. I live in another country now but even if I didn't, I can't imagine them rushing to be at my home.
Also, I do understand what it means to be part of a family with obligations, appearances and traditions. I guess you can call it stiff upper lip although I am not British. No matter what, we go on with life even when our heart is breaking and we try to maintain a calm facade. Sounds terrible I know! If there was an event that had been agreed months in advance, there would be a high threshold in canceling attendance. I can imagine the Kents felt it would be impolite towards the Greek family not to be there and did not want to draw attention to their private sorrow on that moment which in fact was their daughter's sorrow. Maybe Gabriella didn't want them to announce it at that event because it would take the attention away from the celebration of the memory of her godfather, maybe she wanted them to attend. But then, I guess I come from a strange background. My mother is not the warmest of mothers and I'm not used to having my hand held by family members even at a time of great sorrow (only my husband).
Such terrible news! BBC writes about it in such a cryptic way that it takes a while to decipher what happened. I imagine Thomas must have been suffering terribly from war traumas. That's my theory anyway. Poor Ella!
Prince Michael of Kent's son-in-law was found dead at his parents' home with gun nearby, an inquest hears.
www.bbc.com
A couple of other things that might have been weighing his mind that I can think of is maybe his company was in trouble. Not sure but that might be a big burden. I've also heard a rumour they tried to have a baby but Ella suffered several miscarriages. All that is enough to make him feel desperately depressed, even without war trauma.