I personally would not live with a man who didn't respect me enough to commit and make me his wife.
Well said!
I personally would not live with a man who didn't respect me enough to commit and make me his wife.
Can we please not define feminism as being a stay at home wife? It's a huge pet peeve of mine.
Feminism - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia It's about the right for women to have control of their lives. It's about the ability to *choose* to stay home with the kids. It's being able to protect yourself and your daughters against an abusive spouse, it's about educating young women instead of them never being able to attend school. It's about creating laws to protect rape victims instead of saying "Well she was asking for it."
There's a huge difference between being old fashion and anti-feminism, please don't equate one with the other.
I don't like it PERSONALLY but am not passing judgment.
IMO, she's a kept woman unless there's a reason for her to be home and not working. For example, kids to take care of (true whether married or not!). However, if she's home all day and not doing anything and is using her BF's salary to support herself, I do have a problem with it, for the mere fact that if the unmarried couple splits up, she gets nothing (at least I am pretty sure of this, it may be different in certain states). So, in effect, the girlfriend is at the mercy of her boyfriend to give her money, and she becomes as dependent as a child on him. This would open up the door for the unfortunate situation that if the girlfriend is unhappy, or worst, abused, she will not feel like she can leave the relationship. Also, if the boyfriend decides to end the relationship, she gets nothing, and has no job to go back to or experience to put on her resume. It's 2006, honestly, and women should feel empowered to have a job if there aren't any kids to take care of, instead of being a kept woman. I would hate to be dependent on someone, particularly if there was no marriage certificate to take to court to divvy up the assets in case of a bump in the road!
I have to say though, I am sure everybody's responses/opinions are based on his/her own life. For example, I think most people who are very educated (at least a college degree, most likely a graduate/professional degree) will not settle to stay at home for a boyfriend. I think that perhaps people who do want to stay at home had that same situation in their own lives, growing up, or maybe don't have career aspirations except for getting married and having a family.
I don't think anybody should be taking anything personally, whichever way your opinions cut: we don't know each other, and our opinions are simply that -- our opinions!