A brother of my boyfriends friend passed away, I don't know how long they'd been out of touch but had been close growing up.
I feel so terrible because I asked him if I'd be coming along. Thank God I've not had many funerals in my life, just a FEW. So I don't know the etiquette about funerals. But his dad goes to funerals a lot without his mom and his parents are VERY close... but I didn't -know-. He took it the wrong way and felt like I was just trying to spend time with him.
I explained it to him that I don't actually know how people are at funerals and if anyone brings someone with them who doesn't know the person, and he was perfectly fine with it. I'm glad he understood. I'm sure people do but he is one who feels that way.
But then today I asked him, so... when is the funeral? And he told me, he was fine with it, and I dropped the subject. I asked him before he left my house, are you going to work after the funeral? And he was so mad at me, he wouldn't answer!
He has seemed like himself, not quiet and not upset, but I'm sure he is upset. But because everythings like it always is I was just comfortable to ask him, not realizing it's actually a sensitive subject.
Now I feel rotten and I won't feel any better until I talk to him again. I don't know if I will tonight and I'm feeling so down I can't relax. I feel terrible and stupid, like I should have been more sensitive.
I feel so terrible because I asked him if I'd be coming along. Thank God I've not had many funerals in my life, just a FEW. So I don't know the etiquette about funerals. But his dad goes to funerals a lot without his mom and his parents are VERY close... but I didn't -know-. He took it the wrong way and felt like I was just trying to spend time with him.
I explained it to him that I don't actually know how people are at funerals and if anyone brings someone with them who doesn't know the person, and he was perfectly fine with it. I'm glad he understood. I'm sure people do but he is one who feels that way.
But then today I asked him, so... when is the funeral? And he told me, he was fine with it, and I dropped the subject. I asked him before he left my house, are you going to work after the funeral? And he was so mad at me, he wouldn't answer!
He has seemed like himself, not quiet and not upset, but I'm sure he is upset. But because everythings like it always is I was just comfortable to ask him, not realizing it's actually a sensitive subject.
Now I feel rotten and I won't feel any better until I talk to him again. I don't know if I will tonight and I'm feeling so down I can't relax. I feel terrible and stupid, like I should have been more sensitive.