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I recently moved into a loft with my partner and we are in our nesting phase. Both of us grew up using a basic five piece flatware place setting (dinner fork, salad fork, tablespoon, teaspoon, dinner/"butter" knife) at home and other utensils (i.e. steak knife, lobster/nutcracker, etc.) as needed. We both enjoy fine dining and the ease of use of proper flatware and tableware when available, but most of the people we know use basic five piece flatware at home and have their formal dinners catered at venues as opposed to their own homes.
My goal is that even the informal dinners we may host for parties of 4 - 6 people at our loft allow for guests to use flatware in an easy and graceful manner, and that we grow accustomed to using proper dining etiquette so that it becomes second nature instead of a "performance" on special occasions. We recently purchased a white china set and flatware service for 12 that includes most pieces of flatware that we've been missing, such as dessert, bouillon, and iced tea spoons, but I have some questions about the pieces we do and don't have.
First, we elected to to purchase our dinner knives and forks in the American size rather than the larger European size. I assume that this should be adequate for the informal and semi-formal dinners we plan to host, but does anyone here take objection to this?
Second, as we keep a vegan household, we decided to forego the oyster fork and fish knife (which as far as I know is a Victorian-era middle class affectation that the bourgeoisie of that time mocked people for using). Even in the highly unlikely chance we decide to serve shrimp cocktail or clams on the half shell we would serve the shrimp with the tail on, and I've seen very few people eat clams on the half shell with utensils these days. Are there other uses for oyster forks I'm not anticipating or are we fine without them?
Third, we elected not to purchase demitasse spoons because we don't have an espresso machine and we drink either water or tisane after our evening meals. Does anyone use demitasse spoons for something other than espresso on a regular basis?
Fourth, the flatware service we chose only offered one soup spoon and it is a "bouillon spoon." To my knowledge it was once common for flatware services to include two soup spoons, a larger one for heartier meat-based soups and stews and a smaller "bouillon spoon" for broth-based soups. I'm sure the bouillon spoon will rise to the challenge of any vegan lentil, minestrone, or tomato rice soup we throw at it, but do you think most guests will be fine using bouillon spoons for things like a heartier potato or vegetable soup?
Fifth, our service didn't offer a dessert fork. I have no qualms about placing a salad fork above a dessert spoon while serving something like pie a l mode, but will it suffice?
Finally, in the name of promoting proper everyday portions we decided to use rimmed 9" buffet/luncheon plates as dinner plates and then scaled down the rest of the dishes appropriately, so that we have 7" salad plates, 6" bread and dessert plates, and 6" coupe soup bowls. I originally wanted proper rimmed soup bowls but 6" to 7" rimmed soup bowls don't hold very many ounces of soup. We didn't purchase charger plates, as most are about 13" and would overwhelm a 9" plate, so I've decided to hunt for 10" to 11" pattern-rimmed china to serve that purpose. Historically standard dinner plates were 9" but recently they've grown anywhere from 10.5" to 12", which I find a little ridiculous, so we had to make some concessions in order to approximate the size of a vintage dinnerware service using modern china. Am I crazy or has anyone else done this?
Thank you for any and all comments and advice! I am eagerly awaiting responses, and I'll be sure to post our experiences using this dinnerware and flatware, as well as guests' reactions, in the coming months
I recently moved into a loft with my partner and we are in our nesting phase. Both of us grew up using a basic five piece flatware place setting (dinner fork, salad fork, tablespoon, teaspoon, dinner/"butter" knife) at home and other utensils (i.e. steak knife, lobster/nutcracker, etc.) as needed. We both enjoy fine dining and the ease of use of proper flatware and tableware when available, but most of the people we know use basic five piece flatware at home and have their formal dinners catered at venues as opposed to their own homes.
My goal is that even the informal dinners we may host for parties of 4 - 6 people at our loft allow for guests to use flatware in an easy and graceful manner, and that we grow accustomed to using proper dining etiquette so that it becomes second nature instead of a "performance" on special occasions. We recently purchased a white china set and flatware service for 12 that includes most pieces of flatware that we've been missing, such as dessert, bouillon, and iced tea spoons, but I have some questions about the pieces we do and don't have.
First, we elected to to purchase our dinner knives and forks in the American size rather than the larger European size. I assume that this should be adequate for the informal and semi-formal dinners we plan to host, but does anyone here take objection to this?
Second, as we keep a vegan household, we decided to forego the oyster fork and fish knife (which as far as I know is a Victorian-era middle class affectation that the bourgeoisie of that time mocked people for using). Even in the highly unlikely chance we decide to serve shrimp cocktail or clams on the half shell we would serve the shrimp with the tail on, and I've seen very few people eat clams on the half shell with utensils these days. Are there other uses for oyster forks I'm not anticipating or are we fine without them?
Third, we elected not to purchase demitasse spoons because we don't have an espresso machine and we drink either water or tisane after our evening meals. Does anyone use demitasse spoons for something other than espresso on a regular basis?
Fourth, the flatware service we chose only offered one soup spoon and it is a "bouillon spoon." To my knowledge it was once common for flatware services to include two soup spoons, a larger one for heartier meat-based soups and stews and a smaller "bouillon spoon" for broth-based soups. I'm sure the bouillon spoon will rise to the challenge of any vegan lentil, minestrone, or tomato rice soup we throw at it, but do you think most guests will be fine using bouillon spoons for things like a heartier potato or vegetable soup?
Fifth, our service didn't offer a dessert fork. I have no qualms about placing a salad fork above a dessert spoon while serving something like pie a l mode, but will it suffice?
Finally, in the name of promoting proper everyday portions we decided to use rimmed 9" buffet/luncheon plates as dinner plates and then scaled down the rest of the dishes appropriately, so that we have 7" salad plates, 6" bread and dessert plates, and 6" coupe soup bowls. I originally wanted proper rimmed soup bowls but 6" to 7" rimmed soup bowls don't hold very many ounces of soup. We didn't purchase charger plates, as most are about 13" and would overwhelm a 9" plate, so I've decided to hunt for 10" to 11" pattern-rimmed china to serve that purpose. Historically standard dinner plates were 9" but recently they've grown anywhere from 10.5" to 12", which I find a little ridiculous, so we had to make some concessions in order to approximate the size of a vintage dinnerware service using modern china. Am I crazy or has anyone else done this?
Thank you for any and all comments and advice! I am eagerly awaiting responses, and I'll be sure to post our experiences using this dinnerware and flatware, as well as guests' reactions, in the coming months
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