I'm sorry if my reply does not make sense...but I am incredibly tired right now, so my argumentative skills are lacking. I just had to post to say this (please don't flame me): The quotes above simply scream horrid sexism to me. I usually respect your well-thought out views, Shimma, but on this one...your blatant predisposition to distrust men is obvious and unfair. It's as though you don't see any horrible abusive single mothers out there. You seem awfully afraid of the fathers treating the child like an obligation, when (in my experience at least) it has been equal as far as which parent steps up to the plate. I have seen horrible single mothers who blame their child for ruining their futures, but did not terminate the pregnancy because of religion. I have seen wonderful single fathers who spend time/money/love/care on the children whose mothers did not care to expend the same amount of energy. It goes both ways for both genders. I also personally feel that carrying a child to term isn't worth any sort of argument. I find arguments of the man just being "the donor" demeaning to the male gender...as though you mean to make them seem less important because they are not ABLE to go through a pregnancy...I wonder how many would if they could. Not all men are slaves to their penises, and to assume that that is the only reason they have sex is appalling. Men feel emotion too, not only for the woman they are seeing at the time, but many also feel for the child that may come out of said situation. Now, on to the legalities. I think it should be a LEGAL obligation to tell the man you are pregnant. If you do not tell him, he has absolutely no protection from you and the child showing up in 5 years time to collect back child support that he never knew he owed! It is especially important if you choose to carry the child to term, so he has the option to fight for custody. I want to know how many of you would feel if you found out that someone had your child 10 years ago and you missed out on their entire childhood! Mind you, in the case of rape, the man would not even have the chance to have a say, as he would either be hiding from the law or in prison. I have much more to say if anyone cares to hear it. I'm only coming down off my high horse because I have to be up at 4 and must sleep now. I'll be back tomorrow evening to read the flames I expect to get for this.