Your Hermes & mother-in-laws....;)

#16
My situation is the complete opposite. My MIL is great, it's my own mother who makes the sarcastic comments about how much the bags are and that I should buy fake because no one would know the difference -- except I would know the difference.

I totally understand from where you come from, it isn't a great feeling when family or friends make these comments. They should keep it to themselves. I do agree with xiaoxiao that there is a bit of jealousy involved. I tend to roll my eyes and continue on my way when my Mom makes those comments. In the end V, you just have to take the high road as you don't want to put your SO in a position between you and his Mother.
 
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#17
Oh my, well my DH parents are dead. They were not nice people. His mom loved H scarves, his dad thought they were the best gifts as hostess gifts to strangers.
His mom was on the best dressed lists in her younger days I heard.

But that was for them, no one else should have what they had and any designer stuff was too good for in-laws and very often their own.

I.e., my dh needed a dental specialist. I mentioned this in passing to his mom. her words were and I quote "I have an excellent one but he is too expensive for him" (her own flesh and blood son).

There is no accounting for relatives and I never give advice in marriages, but I feel for all of you who have difficult inlaws. It's not easy. The only thing I can say is everyone has to do what is right for them and their marriage. I wish everyone luck in dealing with family members.

My mom, she is mixed, sometimes she can yell and get on my case for what I spend and sometimes she doesn't give a hoot so I just lie now. Why put myself though any unnecessary grief. Her ideas and mine are different, neither are wrong or right other than I do believe to each his own.

Again good luck to all, holidays are especially hard when having to deal with family
 
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victoriasu said:
Hi everyone,

Just wondering if anyone experience the same thing as i do. Whenever i carry my birkins or kelly, my mil always make it a point to tell me she like or dislike my bag. In the event that she likes it, she will emphasize that it is the perfect size for her and so on. I get uncomfortable when she does it all the time. What do you do if its you? :confused1:
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Sorry, I wanted to be straightforward. The issue was not on your MIL side. You can fix it.

1) Simply don't carry the bag in front of her if you don't plan to purchase one for her
2) Purchase one for her if you care for her.

My M-I-L told DH that a woman was not a real lady if she stopped shopping for 3 months. I laughed out loudly when she said this, and learned the fact that every woman wants to be the master of fashion, young or old!
 
#20
My MIL is not into fashion at all. She knows that I have extravagant taste, and is OK with it. She knows I work hard, and she believes that I should treat myself as I see fit. She is well aware of how much my bags cost.
 
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smokycake said:
My M-I-L told DH that a woman was not a real lady if she stopped shopping for 3 months. I laughed out loudly when she said this, and learned the fact that every woman wants to be the master of fashion, young or old!
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:roflmfao: can we trade MIL until DH is brainwashed enough?
I am 100% sure my MIL is not a master of fashion and is either blind to it, or doesn't care.
 
#22
Can we talk abut Mother's here? Last time I went into Hermes, my Mother, who was on a trip I took her with me, insisted on coming. I was making an exchange, but I leaned over to the SA and said, please do not indicate the price in front of my Mother, I do not want her to know what this cost. And my SA understood completely, and was quite accomodating and gracious.
I offered to buy my Mother something but she would have none of it.
Having her there made me nervous and sort of ruined my Hermes excursion, which I normally look forward to.
BTW I have bought her a stunning scarf for Christmas. One with a historical reference to her life.
She may not wear it but I feel sure she will brag to all her friends about it.
Good enough for me!
 
#23
my MIL is thankfully not into handbags so much...she likes them and always give lovely comments when i use my kelly's. she doesn't know how much they cost, but just loves the style and leather.
 
#24
The problem is that my mother still reminds me how much I spent on something 25 years ago. That's when we shopped together, now I lie, if she asks, I lie, I don't care, it's not worth being yelled at or reminded how bad a daughter I was/and still am for spending XXX on myself amongst other things. I'm married she lives by herself, and it's really not her business. If she asks, I can't say "none of your business" that will cause yet another fight so I just lie. I know how much she will deal with and I just lie.
Sometimes if DH and I are going out, or doing something I will lie and say it's for his client so as not to deal with the "why do you have to go/do/whatever".

Today I'm stuck home, I'm having a new door put in. This was a necessity, major necessity. I could not ask DH to stay home, I don't work and he does.

I told her weeks ago, on this day, I can do your errands the day before/after but not on this day as I have to be home for the door and the door has to come first, there are major leaks etc.

She still says I'm horrible because for one day I said the door has to come first so I don't love her and I'm a horrible person. I should have lied and found some other issue.

I did her errands before going away, she said, well it's not my fault you want to go on vacation, now I have to eat bread that is not fresh.

Sorry I had to get that out.
 
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#25
I feel your pain, lol.... There is nothing worse than a medling family member. My mil and sil are sooooo nosy, not just with material things but with every aspect of my husband's life. I don't go around them much just for that reason. My sil has very expensive tastes, thank goodness,lol, so she never comments on my handbags. My mil would not know one if it bit her, so no worries there. I usually try not to take my really expensive bags to family outings to keep the comments to a minimum. Most people don't understand and sometimes the dense ones tend to make comments that are way out of line. I think people should have every right to spend their money on what they want.
 
#26
MissMargaux said:
The problem is that my mother still reminds me how much I spent on something 25 years ago. That's when we shopped together, now I lie, if she asks, I lie, I don't care, it's not worth being yelled at or reminded how bad a daughter I was/and still am for spending XXX on myself amongst other things. I'm married she lives by herself, and it's really not her business. If she asks, I can't say "none of your business" that will cause yet another fight so I just lie. I know how much she will deal with and I just lie.
Sometimes if DH and I are going out, or doing something I will lie and say it's for his client so as not to deal with the "why do you have to go/do/whatever".

Today I'm stuck home, I'm having a new door put in. This was a necessity, major necessity. I could not ask DH to stay home, I don't work and he does.

I told her weeks ago, on this day, I can do your errands the day before/after but not on this day as I have to be home for the door and the door has to come first, there are major leaks etc.

She still says I'm horrible because for one day I said the door has to come first so I don't love her and I'm a horrible person. I should have lied and found some other issue.

I did her errands before going away, she said, well it's not my fault you want to go on vacation, now I have to eat bread that is not fresh.

Sorry I had to get that out.
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MissM
Your Mom and my Mom should meet! I am saved by the fact she lives in CA and I am in MW and EC. But that does not preclude her multiple daily phone calls. When she comes to stay with me, I actually have to hide things becuase I know she goes through everything. My new DH has helped me moved things into storage before
her visits. I love my Mom but she makes me crazy. I feel your pain.
 
#27
Oh wow, well my mom lives near me, 15 min actually. But she doesn't come to my house and I only go to drop of her groceries and take her to the bank and pick up her meds. I won't stay at her house, she keeps it so hot and no a/c that I can't breathe and she gets mad when I say it's hot.

She won't come to my house anymore because she says we are cheap on heat because it's too cold for her. That's fine, when she did come, she criticized for me putting glasses in the dishwasher and not rinsing them by hand.

I'll stop if she knew I'm writing this she'd hate me more. But sometimes you have to talk.
Trust me I feel your pain, big time. you have no clue.
 
#28
my MIL is sweet, but I always get the feeling her questions are adding up to something I'm not privy too.. Like chats she has with other members of DHs family.

They always seem to know so much about me... LoL
 
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