I would not tell my so what to get in terms of carat size etc......... unless you future husband is well off( which I think I still wouldn't bring it up)and can drop 20-30k without it being a heavy burden(that's what it cost these days for a decent 1 carat ring) maybe I would steer him in the direction of style but not carat size. You don't want to make him feel bad if he can't afford what you want exactly. I was with my husband many years without an engagement ring cause it was too expensive and for me having that money in the bank was more important for us. It was costing around 20-25k for a decent 1 carat in 2013 in New York and a Tiffany or Cartier was way more. We were on vacation in st. Maarten in 2013 and I ended up getting it there spur of the moment and we spent 10k total for a 1.25 carat stone vs2 color g excellent cut with a 3 stone diamond tacori halo setting. The setting alone in ny was 5k, the stone 16k. In st. Maarten the setting was 2500 the stone 7500 gia certified. I had given up on ever having an engagement ring cause it wasn't a priority but when we saw the prices in st Maarten we decided to get it, also no tax.Hi ladies, My s/o and I have been talking about marriage lately and I specifically told him what I wanted, karat size (i asked for 1 as i dont expect more, if I get more great, but I would never make him go broke over it) and I got a mixed reaction of feedback from my friends. Now i sort of feel bad about it? its not like i said you HAVE TO GET ME THIS or was rude about it. he simply asked what style and I specifically told him. but now my girlfriends are saying it was wrong of me to bring up karat size? so my question is
did you discuss with your s/o / partner about what type of ring you wanted? or was it a surprise? Do you find it wrong to tell the person you are with specifically what you want?
Thank you!