Sorry for kind of a long story but here goes: Recently my ex husband has been contacting my mother, wanting to speak with me-- My question is should I contact him? But here is the background: I have not seen nor spoken with this man in almost 12 years, even though we have a son together. He was very abusive and I feel lucky to have escaped with my life. He is a Gulf war veteran and has been on disability for the past few years I'm told-- and has been using the excuse of him wanting to get our son's social security money to him. I hate that he contacts my mom- as she had a debilitating stroke 20 years ago and is confined to a wheelchair. He knows where my parents live (and my dad still works). I have moved across the country and have never let him know where I am. I have since remarried, have a well paying job and certainly am in no need of his or anyone representing his money. My husband (current) wants me to just ignore him but I am afraid. I'm afraid that he may not be as disabled as he says and could go after my mom (although he lives several states away) or look us up and come after my son or me. My dad thinks I should just call him from an unknown untraceable number to find out what he wants once and for all. What do you think?