Would it be weird to wear a rh-ring that's bigger than your e-ring?

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jtc103

jtc103

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Oct 29, 2009
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#1
I'm planning on getting a 1.5-2ct diamond loose stone and have it custom-made into a rhr. I am playing with the idea of a colored diamond but they are $$$$$ for the size I want so my other option is to play with a design that involves small colored diamonds (pink or purple shade small diamonds). I wear a 1ct radiant center stone with small stones around it (eternity ring style).
I've been married only a few months and my e-ring upgrade won't be for another couple of years (maybe our 5 year anniv)...so it will eventually be a bigger e-ring but from now until then, would it be odd if I wear a bigger/more blingy diamond on my right hand? I'm wondering if I should go for a pendant instead so as not to compete with my e-ring?
 
#3
The only time I think any size RHR looks weird is if it looks too much like a e-ring.

I think cocktail, RHR and fashion rings can be bigger than an e-ring.
 
#4
Nope! I've seen people wear earrings bigger than the engagement ring in fact and it doesn't seem weird. though they can probably upgrade or buy a bigger one they choose to keep the original. It's actually really nice to see sentiment like that.

I think vivianyy's new ring is a varna RHR and I think it's bigger than her engagement ring. (iirc).
 
#5
My family has some very strict jewelry traditions - I think that if any of my cousins decided to get an e-ring upgrade, the Aunts would rise up en-masse.
The e-ring reflects who you were when you married - an sometimes, it is a small stone. The RHR is for where you are now - and it is grand, ostentatious, and flashy as all get out.

So, I think it's normal and healthy for the RHR to be bigger than the ering!
 
#6
The idea that the e-ring is meant to be the flashiest piece of jewelry a woman owns and nothing else should be bigger or otherwise outshine it has always made me scratch my head. I mean ... the assumption is that you get engaged when you are young(ish) and that you grow more successful with age, right? So why wouldn't the RHR, earrings, pendant, etc. be bigger with the passage of time? I say go for it.
 
#8
Vintage Leather said:
The RHR is for where you are now - and it is grand, ostentatious, and flashy as all get out.

So, I think it's normal and healthy for the RHR to be bigger than the ering!
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Love this!

I'm thinking of doing the same thing. My ering is dainty by choice. It actually seems pretty cool to wear modest erings and wedding rings because to me it symbolizes that you are glad for the relationship and marriage, and anything else is secondary.

RHR tho! I had the same thought as you... how will that look? In the end, I have limited brainwaves to worry about it b/c they are all tied up in how awesome the RHR is going to be! Will try to post when I finally get it. I'm going for a larger gemstone in my favorite color, thinking of getting something custom made too, just scratching my head at the best place to go in NC.
 
#10
whoops said:
Nope! I've seen people wear earrings bigger than the engagement ring in fact and it doesn't seem weird. though they can probably upgrade or buy a bigger one they choose to keep the original. It's actually really nice to see sentiment like that.
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agreed

Vintage Leather said:
My family has some very strict jewelry traditions - I think that if any of my cousins decided to get an e-ring upgrade, the Aunts would rise up en-masse.
The e-ring reflects who you were when you married - an sometimes, it is a small stone. The RHR is for where you are now - and it is grand, ostentatious, and flashy as all get out.

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Sometimes I wish this forum had a "like" button such as on facebook :smile1:
I love what you said! Kinda makes me want to go back to my original ering (I still have it in tact..I did not trade it in for the upgrade) and wear the bigger diamond on the RH.
 
#12
skphotoimages said:
agreed


Sometimes I wish this forum had a "like" button such as on facebook :smile1:
I love what you said! Kinda makes me want to go back to my original ering (I still have it in tact..I did not trade it in for the upgrade) and wear the bigger diamond on the RH.
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Me too, DH gave me a 'promise ring' years ago and I kept it. Thinking of making a pendant out of the stone. I love love my e-ring so even if I do upgrade I will never sell or trade it in. I plan to pass it on to my future dd :)
 
#13
whoops said:
Nope! I've seen people wear earrings bigger than the engagement ring in fact and it doesn't seem weird. though they can probably upgrade or buy a bigger one they choose to keep the original. It's actually really nice to see sentiment like that.

I think vivianyy's new ring is a varna RHR and I think it's bigger than her engagement ring. (iirc).
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Yup, :tup: Sentiment is the word. I'd never change or upgrade my e-ring but don't mind adding bigger stones to my jewelry collection. Plus I don't always wear my rings together so they don't compete. And even if I do, it's usually for a nice occasion so it won't be too much bling so I say go for it =)
 
#14
I love how you put that Vintage Leather. I was just wondering this very thing the other day about my rhr being bigger but my DH would be hurt if I asked to upgrade my heart shaped diamond (we got married on Valentines Day). My rhr rings are cocktail rings so at least they don't resemble an e-ring.
 
#15
Vintage Leather said:
My family has some very strict jewelry traditions - I think that if any of my cousins decided to get an e-ring upgrade, the Aunts would rise up en-masse.
The e-ring reflects who you were when you married - an sometimes, it is a small stone. The RHR is for where you are now - and it is grand, ostentatious, and flashy as all get out.

So, I think it's normal and healthy for the RHR to be bigger than the ering!
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What a perfect way to put it, I never plan to upgrade my e-ring for the same reason :)
 
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