I wear a 40mm Rolex Daytona and I have a small wrist. I love the look.
In my opinion, what makes that watch look butch is the black dial. It’s a harsh look and in my opinion, a large watch on a lady looks better with a softer light dial such a white. It’s chic and clean looking.
For my Daytona, I tried a black dial and a white dial and for sure the black dial looked butch on me, not elegant at all.
I like the 41mm size on you, but if it were me, I’d get it in a white dial for sure (or any dial except black).
Just my two cents.