Hi TPFers! It's been a little bit since I've posted on here... I have been so busy since fall semester started! Huge workload this semester, I hope I can make it. Anyway, I kind of just needed somewhere to vent about some comments that my coworkers made recently, and I figured everyone here of all people would probably understand the best.
Some background info: I've actually resorted to just telling these girls I work with that my aunt who is very well off and gifts me with my LVs or that my boyfriend bought something for me, when in fact I've purchased almost all of them on my own. My coworkers and I don't make much income, but unlike them, I am really good with budgeting my money to the point where I can afford the nicer things. It's not like I walk into work bragging about the nice things I have. I simply use these items like any regular bag or SLG.
"Why don't you sell a bag to buy your own engagement ring?"
Some of the girls and I were talking last night about our living situations with our respective boyfriends. Out of all of us, I have been living with mine the longest and we share an apartment. One of them is about to move into her boyfriend's house so we got on the subject of her situation. I mentioned that my boyfriend prefers to buy as opposed to renting (feels it's throwing away money), but I said I don't want to move into a house that he buys unless we are married. While he understood why, he didn't like that... but he asked me, "What if we just got engaged first? Would you be willing to move into a house I buy?" After thinking about it, I agreed that would be something I would do.
One of the girls (I'll call her "D") made a comment: "Why don't you just sell one of your nice *** bags and buy your own engagement ring? Problem solved."
My automatic response to that was, "Regardless of how I get my money, buying my own engagement ring sort of defeats the purpose of it!" I mean honestly. I have heard of couples going dutch on the engagement rings nowadays, but to go as far as buying your own ring? I am in no way trying to say that women can't buy themselves nice things, but I just don't think we should be buying our own (not paying 100% for it anyway). Just because I have LVs, these girls think that they can make comments like these.
I think this one made me even more mad because this is coming from a girl who cannot go an hour without smoking cigarettes or weed. She even admitted to me that she can't remember the last time she was actually completely sober. Maybe if she stopped spending money on weed and cigarettes, she could actually pay her rent on time or afford to pay her water bill so she can bathe for once...
"Tell me why your little key thing cost you $250."
I bought a mono 6-key holder with mimosa interior as a small birthday treat last month. Our incompetent joke of a manager, "J", asked me last night why it cost me $250. Automatically I asked, "You actually went on the Louis website and looked it up?" She answered yes, because after seeing mine she suddenly wanted one and checked to see if she could afford it. J has a habit of copying from me. She thought Michael Kors was ridiculously expensive when we first met and I was obsessed at the time. A couple months later she was texting me, asking for my opinion on some MK bags she was looking at. When I said, "I thought you said MK was ridiculous" she said that I sparked her interest. I have a Tiffany necklace my boyfriend had given me for a past birthday (Elsa Peretti heart), and next thing I know she's sending me texts asking what I thought about a Tiffany necklace she wanted to buy for herself (Elsa Peretti bean--the most similar to the EP heart). Most recently, I bought a Lilly Pulitzer agenda and even though she already had an agenda from a different company, she went and bought the same agenda on the day she saw mine.
I have a problem with her thinking it's ridiculous for me to spend $250 on an SLG because this is the same girl who gets her hair done RELIGIOUSLY at the most expensive salon in town every 4-6 weeks (cut AND color), gets her nails AND toes done RELIGIOUSLY every two weeks with the pricier gel options, is always buying new clothes or shoes or make-up, etc. I don't do ANY of that, yet I'm being scrutinized for spending less money on one item that is going to last me forever.
Sorry for writing a novel here, but these comments aren't the first and won't be the last. I'm just getting tired of it and wanted to vent. I know I shouldn't let others opinions or comments bother me, and for the most part I don't. The engagement ring comment really ticked me off though.
Some background info: I've actually resorted to just telling these girls I work with that my aunt who is very well off and gifts me with my LVs or that my boyfriend bought something for me, when in fact I've purchased almost all of them on my own. My coworkers and I don't make much income, but unlike them, I am really good with budgeting my money to the point where I can afford the nicer things. It's not like I walk into work bragging about the nice things I have. I simply use these items like any regular bag or SLG.
"Why don't you sell a bag to buy your own engagement ring?"
Some of the girls and I were talking last night about our living situations with our respective boyfriends. Out of all of us, I have been living with mine the longest and we share an apartment. One of them is about to move into her boyfriend's house so we got on the subject of her situation. I mentioned that my boyfriend prefers to buy as opposed to renting (feels it's throwing away money), but I said I don't want to move into a house that he buys unless we are married. While he understood why, he didn't like that... but he asked me, "What if we just got engaged first? Would you be willing to move into a house I buy?" After thinking about it, I agreed that would be something I would do.
One of the girls (I'll call her "D") made a comment: "Why don't you just sell one of your nice *** bags and buy your own engagement ring? Problem solved."
My automatic response to that was, "Regardless of how I get my money, buying my own engagement ring sort of defeats the purpose of it!" I mean honestly. I have heard of couples going dutch on the engagement rings nowadays, but to go as far as buying your own ring? I am in no way trying to say that women can't buy themselves nice things, but I just don't think we should be buying our own (not paying 100% for it anyway). Just because I have LVs, these girls think that they can make comments like these.
I think this one made me even more mad because this is coming from a girl who cannot go an hour without smoking cigarettes or weed. She even admitted to me that she can't remember the last time she was actually completely sober. Maybe if she stopped spending money on weed and cigarettes, she could actually pay her rent on time or afford to pay her water bill so she can bathe for once...
"Tell me why your little key thing cost you $250."
I bought a mono 6-key holder with mimosa interior as a small birthday treat last month. Our incompetent joke of a manager, "J", asked me last night why it cost me $250. Automatically I asked, "You actually went on the Louis website and looked it up?" She answered yes, because after seeing mine she suddenly wanted one and checked to see if she could afford it. J has a habit of copying from me. She thought Michael Kors was ridiculously expensive when we first met and I was obsessed at the time. A couple months later she was texting me, asking for my opinion on some MK bags she was looking at. When I said, "I thought you said MK was ridiculous" she said that I sparked her interest. I have a Tiffany necklace my boyfriend had given me for a past birthday (Elsa Peretti heart), and next thing I know she's sending me texts asking what I thought about a Tiffany necklace she wanted to buy for herself (Elsa Peretti bean--the most similar to the EP heart). Most recently, I bought a Lilly Pulitzer agenda and even though she already had an agenda from a different company, she went and bought the same agenda on the day she saw mine.
I have a problem with her thinking it's ridiculous for me to spend $250 on an SLG because this is the same girl who gets her hair done RELIGIOUSLY at the most expensive salon in town every 4-6 weeks (cut AND color), gets her nails AND toes done RELIGIOUSLY every two weeks with the pricier gel options, is always buying new clothes or shoes or make-up, etc. I don't do ANY of that, yet I'm being scrutinized for spending less money on one item that is going to last me forever.
Sorry for writing a novel here, but these comments aren't the first and won't be the last. I'm just getting tired of it and wanted to vent. I know I shouldn't let others opinions or comments bother me, and for the most part I don't. The engagement ring comment really ticked me off though.