which one of these will u choose

Depends on which version. I would pick the East West Hamilton in luggage over the Grayson. However, the north-south just appears to be too big as an everyday bag.

But, I really like the Grayson.....
 
Where do you buy the purse stiffeners? I have a couple of Graysons (pink and turquoise from last summer) and although I don't mind the slouch look on them, sometimes I'd like them to keep their shape.

Definitely from Divide and Conquer on Etsy. Her purse stiffeners are a little pricey but worth it. The quality is excellent! She makes a lot of them for the LV Speedy which has a similar size and shape. She will make any size for you.

https://www.etsy.com/shop/DivideAndConquer