I'm a matcher. I usually get a bag, and at least a wallet or a mini-skinny.
I made the mistake with my first bag, I didn't buy the wallet, went back to get it a few weeks later and it was gone. I have since learned my lesson. LOL.
So-Femme...I think we might be true purse soul-sisters!
It drives my Mom crazy that I won't use a black wallet in my brown bag, or *gasp* if my hardware doesn't match. All my Soho bags have silver metal, and I will NOT use my Legacy wallets in my Soho bags just for that reason.