Ur bag is gorgeous and such a good buy btw
Wishing you a speedy recovery
Just by reading your posts it's clear that you are having a hard time in several fronts. Stress is one of the worst things for your immune system, so please try to relax and do not forget that happy people fight disease better.
What leather care set would you recommend for calfskin?
I totally second this. Ppl grew up in different times and different places gain different ways to value things in life. Luckily my mom doesn't nag me even though she doesn't justify it, either.Well, there's lots of things to say regarding this. I don't know your background so I don't want to assume. As far as for personal experience, my parents grew up in more difficult times than I did for sure. My mom lived in Asia and was constantly hungry as a child and definitely lived below the poverty level and only received up to 8th grade education. She doesn't understand how we as a society currently treat our pets like our children and splurge on expensive things like Chanel bags. She's never splurged on herself in this manner before. We just went to asia this past fall and I took her with me to get a full body massage. She never had one before. I think it's a generational gap perhaps or just a different perspective how how she grew up vs how you grew up. Her goals back then were different than your goals right now. By the way great news your health is on the upward swing. And hopefully your kidney issues will continue to get better. I think in your instance I would splurge as well, you prob been couped up dealing with your health for so long that its time to do something positive for yourself. I know it's hard to deal w your mom saying those things and also living w her as well but at the same time I would look at it as just her opinion as you also have yours. You guys can agree to disagree.... Cheers to your health! Keep it up!!
What really struck me most was her saying, "You're acting like you're rich but you're not! YOU'RE POOR NOW, YOU CAN'T AFFORD NAME BRANDS ANYMORE!"
Are poor people not allowed to have nice things even if they're careful to get the best deals possible (i.e. consignment shopping)?
Firstly congratulations on your improving health! This such a huge blessing. My DH also has continuing issues with his kidneys & it is amazing how medical technology has dramatically improved in five years. Hang in there and concentrate on staying as healthy and stress free as possible.
Regarding your mum's attitude to your new bags. It's tough and hard to keep calm when she just doesn't understand what you are doing. Can you educate her on your thrifty shopping strategy? Does she know your bags may hold most of their value and possibly be sold for more than you paid?
I would draw a respectful line: "we cant talk about handbags, so I won't bring it up, and you, in turn, do not either. We have plenty else to discuss. They are paid for, so we need to move on".
You can enjoy them, talk about them and have fun with handbag discussions with us!
Chanel is an intimidating brand. She is probably a proud, modest woman who doesn't spend a lit on herself, so cannot relate on any label. I had a Coworker who assumed I was a snob with my bags and commented on them a lot. I finally said "I'm not carrying these for you or anyone else. Love The House of Chanel- you don't have to. I'm not judging what you carry- why are you judging my choice?!"
If you dont claim me on your taxes or pay my bills, commentary not welcome!
Be well and love those bags!!!!!
I hope that the many wonderful women on TPF have given you some much needed encouragement, affirmation, and understanding. I am in awe of your strength!
I can understand your mother's position but I can't understand why she won't give it a rest. Can you tell her how much her comments are hurting you? I'm not sure what method is best here (gentle explanation, forceful rebuttal, etc) but somehow you need to make it clear that she needs to stop already. You are a grown woman who has been through a lot and regardless of her views, you have a right to do with your money as you see fit. The line must be drawn somehow.
If she can't be convinced, then try at least to enjoy your bags. They should be a reminder of how far you've come.
True. I'm disabled now, though, and she's worried I won't have enough money to make it once they're gone. I understand that, but I'm not foolish! I feel like I did it in a responsible manner!
I pay for all my own stuff and also pay rent. I also save a chunk each month. I'm careful with my money, but dang it, I've spent the past five years in a miserable funk. I don't want to spend however much time I have left on this earth the same way.
I would draw a respectful line: "we cant talk about handbags, so I won't bring it up, and you, in turn, do not either. We have plenty else to discuss. They are paid for, so we need to move on".
You can enjoy them, talk about them and have fun with handbag discussions with us!
Chanel is an intimidating brand. She is probably a proud, modest woman who doesn't spend a lit on herself, so cannot relate on any label. I had a Coworker who assumed I was a snob with my bags and commented on them a lot. I finally said "I'm not carrying these for you or anyone else. Love The House of Chanel- you don't have to. I'm not judging what you carry- why are you judging my choice?!"
If you dont claim me on your taxes or pay my bills, commentary not welcome!
Be well and love those bags!!!!!