I have a girlfriend who is very, very close to me. I've known her a long time, we lived together, and she's like a sister. However, she makes really poor decisions that really screw up her life. It's none of my business except that I have her best interests at heart, but she's constantly complaining about a lack of money, her horrible boyfriend, etc. What do you say to this? Money causes huge issues for her because she clearly can't manage it. She pays $100 a month for tanning... I didn't even know it could get that expensive. She pays $80 a month for a gym she doesn't go to. She took out a massive loan for a new car, and she took out loans for college but is taking her sweet time finishing. However, when she's venting about all this stuff to me, which is frequent, I do suggest she cut back. She never does. I don't mind hearing her complain, we all need somebody to vent to. I'm not into being pushy but I wish I could make her see her situation a little more reasonably... but there's no way to remedy this, right? Or is there?