Thx to all that respond
So funny of the timing of this topic since my son is getting married in July in a small indoor wedding (40 guests), one maid of honor (no bridesmaids) and one best man, one garden brunch for the bride, not a bridal shower (the bride even said we didn't need to bring gifts) and I was thinking how this was not my ideal wedding as I love a big, festive wedding with bridal parties and pre wedding activities. I understand that they don't want that, but a part of me is sad that they will look back and wish they had done the big celebration like I had....sorry I am venting on here but I would never tell them this in person.