I'm young (23) and in a serious relationship that is in talks of engagement. My bf has a great job as do I, but he lives modestly and hates my materialism in purses and shopping. He's from a small European country literally in a farm. It made me start to see how the desire for material things may not make me a better person even if I may look better having it. So when I hear the costs for engagement rings, I get scared. A part of me wants the beautiful ring, but another part feels bad accepting something so expensive from someone who doesn't believe in spending so much. Why have a ring when you can invest in a house? To you ladies, what does the engagement ring mean to you? What do you expect (or have) in quality, size, and price (please be honest)? I don't even know what I like, but looking at the websites and talking to friends, expectations are HIGH. my bf can easily afford a GORGEOUS HUGE ring, but I feel bad if he does! Should I? I'm sorry if I don't make sense or sound immature. What matters is the relationship, so why the big fuss?