a very close friend is getting married this summer and it is time to start thinking about gifts. i usually give fun/decorative but not terribly practical shower gifts and cash/GCs/etc for the wedding. i'm kind of known for this actually. i was in tiffany's the other day getting my own anniversary present from my DH and got sidetracked into looking at their home stuff. most of it was very old person house looking (maybe it was just all the crystal and china together like it was) but some of the pieces were really beautiful and i could totally see them in the house of someone my age. my friend adores tiffany's and she is the type of friend that i don't mind spending money on. if i decided to go the tiffany's route, it would effectively switch my gift giving strategy. i wouldn't feel comfortrable bringing that tell tale blue box to the shower, so i would make a smaller GC plus something something small be the shower gift (i am also co-hosting the shower) and drop the wedding gift at her house at some point later. or should i get her something engraved with her new initials as a fun shower gift (and give it to her before hand if i go with something from tiffany's) and stick with my normal GC option for the wedding. or just buy off the registry like a normal person, knowing that she doesn't like to cook and will be a busy law/mba student for the next four years and won't even have time to eat. i attached the stuff i'm looking at getting her. feel free to tell me i'm crazy and that those things are ugly/boring. imagine it is your first wedding. you have almost all the house keeping stuff you need and most of the stuff on your registry is electronics, tools, new kitchen stuff that's nicer than what you have, and getting all your bathroom/kitchen accessories to match. you have plenty of distant relatives who will buy from the registry or give you money. what would you want or do?