I've never been married and I've only been to two weddings but isn't it pretty normal to buy the couple a wedding gift?
If someone is having a large wedding with many guest there's the possibility that some guest might bring the same type of gift. Who needs two blenders? So the point of registering is to make a list of items that the couple could use, and instead of telling everyone individually, just make a list of useful items and once someone gets it, it goes off the list.
It save times, money and it saves the couple from getting things they don't need and the guest from wasting their money on things that will get returned or never used / re-gifted.
I know most people don't feel this way but I agree, registries are totally tacky. Begging for gifts is so unattractive.
Since I got engaged I started reading a bunch of wedding etiquette sites and apparently it is now okay not only to say "we're registered at _____, ___________, and _______" but to register for things like ipods, computers, and other toys. Also, one column I read stated it was okay to print on the invitation a line about needing college tuition! Tacky!
I believe, from what I have learned, that now the proper way of going about it is putting your website on your invitation, and putting where you are registered there. That way if people visit your site they can see where you are registered, and of course, they can ask.
It is quite tacky to put it in an invitation or save the date. We will be putting where we are registered on our wedding website.
So how do suggest should people that are not so computer savvy ask for money or specific things ?That's a cool idea. No one I know is computer savy enough to have their won website though LOL.
I've seen that done at a lot of showers. Maybe I just don't care about what's tacky or not, but I think it's great to make sure everyone gets a thank you and no one is missing (and they usually also use them to draw door prizes). Maybe my family is just more casual or something, but they all seem to do this. Or maybe I'm just used to it because I've gone to so many showers.I once went to a wedding where towards the end of the reception/dinner..they went around & actually handed EVERYONE a empty fresh envelope.
I thought tthat was kinda tacky.