This incident happened 6 months ago actually, but I remember it now cause my cpa just sent me an e-mail asking me to update my personal info for his address book service thingie and I just feel like telling him off... He only did my taxes once so it's not like we have a real tight business relationship.
What happened was that he did taxes for my business and he's also a certified financial planner. So we started talking about my SEP plan and about investing and things like that, and I was just asking him a few questions like "What do you think about REIT's", that's all I said, and then he replied "Noooooo nooo REIT'S at this time. It's cause you're uneducated. You're ignorant". He really told me I was uneducated and ignorant to my face, am I over-exaggerating about this? Could it be that he just meant that I'm uneducated regarding financial matters but perhaps he phrased it "harsh" by using those terms? Am I making a big deal by thinking he was rude for saying that? He said that he is knowledgeable about those things because he is constantly reading financial books/magazines, keeping current with the financial trends, and obviously has a degree for his type of work. I still don't think he should be calling paying clients "ignorant", isn't that kind of unprofessional? At least wait till I'm out of the office to call me that, but to my face?
I also wonder if he would call me "ignorant" and "uneducated" if I were a man?? Would he still dare to say that to a man, or is it because I'm a woman? I have a hard time believing a man would let another man get away with calling them "ignorant" in a professional setting. WTF?
I'm a passive person so at the point it happened I didn't act like I heard anything and played stupid, I just pretended I didn't hear what happened. I was also in a rush because I waited until the last minute to do my taxes so I couldn't just walk out of there. I'm passive-agressive, when things bother me I don't speak up in real life because I guess I am "too timid" in real life, but I'm aggressive on the inside and I have NO problem being assertive on-line (its only the internet) so that's why I want to tell him off by emailing him back.
Am I over-exaggerating by being pissy about it? I want to email him back and tell him that I found his behavior unprofessional and for him to delete my address period.
What happened was that he did taxes for my business and he's also a certified financial planner. So we started talking about my SEP plan and about investing and things like that, and I was just asking him a few questions like "What do you think about REIT's", that's all I said, and then he replied "Noooooo nooo REIT'S at this time. It's cause you're uneducated. You're ignorant". He really told me I was uneducated and ignorant to my face, am I over-exaggerating about this? Could it be that he just meant that I'm uneducated regarding financial matters but perhaps he phrased it "harsh" by using those terms? Am I making a big deal by thinking he was rude for saying that? He said that he is knowledgeable about those things because he is constantly reading financial books/magazines, keeping current with the financial trends, and obviously has a degree for his type of work. I still don't think he should be calling paying clients "ignorant", isn't that kind of unprofessional? At least wait till I'm out of the office to call me that, but to my face?
I also wonder if he would call me "ignorant" and "uneducated" if I were a man?? Would he still dare to say that to a man, or is it because I'm a woman? I have a hard time believing a man would let another man get away with calling them "ignorant" in a professional setting. WTF?
I'm a passive person so at the point it happened I didn't act like I heard anything and played stupid, I just pretended I didn't hear what happened. I was also in a rush because I waited until the last minute to do my taxes so I couldn't just walk out of there. I'm passive-agressive, when things bother me I don't speak up in real life because I guess I am "too timid" in real life, but I'm aggressive on the inside and I have NO problem being assertive on-line (its only the internet) so that's why I want to tell him off by emailing him back.
Am I over-exaggerating by being pissy about it? I want to email him back and tell him that I found his behavior unprofessional and for him to delete my address period.