So..... I know of you lovely PF ladies know my fiance needs a kidney transplant and that we've started the process of getting on 'the list'. Last Friday, he had an angiogram as part of the screening process. He was hugely nervous about this because he had bypass surgery a couple of years ago (the poor dear...he's had some tough breaks). I mean really, really nervous. But I am delighted to report that his angio turned out great! His heart is in great shape and he passed with flying colors! The next step is some routine bloodwork, a chest x-ray, and an appointment with the transplant team urologist. So we are getting closer to getting on the list and we are thrilled and hopeful. And a little nervous. Well....I am. It is becoming more and more 'real' to me. He has been on dialysis since before we met and so that life is "normal" to me. As the transplant becomes more and more of real possibility....I find myself having little bouts of nerves and fears. I have been trying to be very pro-active and it helps somewhat. I journal during procedures and I plan. We're not married yet and are looking into legal concerns surrounding that (I don't EVER want the hospital/medical community shunting me off the side because I am not an 'official' family member).....I am hoarding my vacation time so when the page comes, I can leave work and not return for a few weeks...we've laid plans for notifying family....taken care of the things we don't want to think about (advanced directives, etc)....making arrangements for me to stay close to the hospital immediately following the transplant....and.....I am thinking I better have a plan for a ride to the hospital because I think I am going to be a wee bit nervous when the time actually comes! If anyone has been through a similar situation and has advice/tips for dealing with anything mentioned above or with things I haven't even thought of....I am always open to helpful hints! Oh yeah.....a few prayers wouldn't hurt!