Well,
honey88, you encounter much more polite people than I do! I have the black and was wearing it S'Mom fashion as shown in the TB shawl thread and one of my colleagues asked me if it was a bib!
Actually, I think she enjoyed getting the chance to say something rude and pretend it was a joke!
I wear my black TB often folded lengthwise and worn "bib" style. I worried about the target effect at first, but not anymore.
But my new rule - that I will impart to everyone - is that I am not to keep any more scarves/shawls that I don't just love, love, love and most of all WEAR! If it is not making your heart sing, take it back and wait for the one that does. It will come along! I really wanted a new shawl this season but so far nothing is really doing it for me, so I am just going to have to wait it out until next season!!