Ooohmigoodness! Lol! I’m curious what crowd you are hanging with that thinks your loafers are too extra and only want to drink?? My DS is 26 and my DD is 23. We have been lucky to launch them well so they have nice things. Some gifted but most from them working hard within great careers.
My DD is a consultant at a top firm who loves fashion and dressing well. I haven’t bought any of her clothes since she was perhaps 20 but I have bought her a few bags - all premier designer. And, she happily raids my collection. So, on any given day she’s rocking her own Chanel or perhaps one of my Diors or some other amazing bag.
She’s only 5’ so she mostly wears heels and would think loafers were pretty causal. She isn’t much of a drinker, doesn’t smoke, doesn’t do drugs. Her social media is full of her doing fun things with her friends like cooking classes, working out, going to the spa and lots of travel. Seriously, these girls will go on a spa / beach / museum trip in a minute. And they save up their money to do so.
I’m a proud mom but, my point isn’t to brag. She’s not perfect and she’s still growing as a person. My point is to say that in these ways she’s not special. She is but one of the large group of young women in her various social circles who do this (college days, sorority, work, church, etc.) They are all having a lot of fun with each other and all look really gorgeous doing it.
So, again, I’d ask what pool are you swimming in? Are these college degreed women and men? Ones from solid families (economic level irrelevant)? Are they goal oriented? Do they have relatively demanding careers? People who are working hard and looking forward aren’t usually the ones to even be able to hang out drinking all the time. They have to get up and go to work, get to the gym, study for a grad school exam, etc. Lol!
Like finds like. You won’t find friends taking selfies because you will just be looking at yourself. Get active in the higher level activities you want to do and you’ll find friends there. Trust me. Unless you are Jr. royalty, the child of the uber wealthy or a Silicon Valley self made millionaire there are a LOT of people who would look at what you are doing and be less than impressed. Which is actually a good thing. In your 20’s, it’s good to learn a little humility. It will help when life inevitably hands you a curve ball down the road.
