Thoughts on getting a Love ring for my boyfriend

[Namwan-]

So I've been thinking of buying a Love ring for my boyfriend for Valentine's Day, but I'm reluctant because he doesn't wear any jewelry and he doesn't like expensive things, and I also don't know what his size is. I have a friend who used to buy her husband a ring, and he refused to wear it, so he's just keeping it (which I would not want). I think there are two ways I could do this, but I'm not sure which one is better:

• Ask a SA what size is common for men, get that one, and give it to him on Valentine's Day, and if it doesn't fit, take him to the boutique to replace it with another size. But what if he doesn't want to wear it?
• Ask him if he would wear a ring if I bought him one (also need advice on how I should say it). If he says yes, bring him to the boutique to try it on for correct sizing. But then it wouldn't be a surprise.

Also, we've only been together for a little over a month, and he has never gifted me anything, but I love him very much. Is it too soon to buy him a ring?

Please help!

 

[caruava]

So sweet and thoughtful of you. You could guess a size but you'll most likely need to get him in to swap it for the right size... If he is comfortable with wearing a ring. If he doesn't wear jewellery now, he might be reluctant.

If you want to surprise him, maybe you might need to be prepared that he might reject it and you may have swap it for something for yourself as a last resort.

It would be a good idea to ask him, but you know him best. All the best with what you decide.

 

[Kabuki]

No, no and no. Way too soon, much too expensive, and too, too much.

 

[Prada Prince]

It's very kind of you, but after a month, that is much too soon for sure!

 

[MiniMabel]

You're heading for disappointment, I think, if you buy such an expensive gift which he's unlikely to wear.

It's far too soon to give such a costly gift after only a month. That may put pressure on which disturbs the balance/path of your growing relationship. Wait, be patient, and the right time will reveal itself but keep in mind that jewellery may not be the right gift, it may be something else.

 

[leechiyong]

I would recommend putting the effort towards finding something else instead. A truly thoughtful gift is one that focuses on the recipient's preferences, not the giver's. DH would love to gift me a set of golf clubs and spend time with me golfing, but that's not me which he knows. Instead, listen to see if there's something he says he wants and choose that for him.

 

[Annawakes]

^^Excellent advice. Regarding the ring, I agree with others, it is too much, too soon.

 

[Namwan-]

I would recommend putting the effort towards finding something else instead. A truly thoughtful gift is one that focuses on the recipient's preferences, not the giver's. DH would love to gift me a set of golf clubs and spend time with me golfing, but that's not me which he knows. Instead, listen to see if there's something he says he wants and choose that for him.

Wow. He actually told me this some time last week: "If you were to buy me a $2,800 watch, I would be happier if the same amount of money was spent on a trip (together) instead".

 

[Pop Art Suzy]

Wow. He actually told me this some time last week: "If you were to buy me a $2,800 watch, I would be happier if the same amount of money was spent on a trip (together) instead".

I think that should answer your question right there. And I agree, buying something so personal and expensive after dating for only a month is just too soon. Especially since he's never gifted you anything. It could really send the wrong message. Men are weird about stuff like that. I say wait until you guys get more serious and feel him out for whether or not he would wear a ring. I'd hate for you to spend that much money and then he doesn't like jewelry to begin with. I was lucky my husband wore his wedding ring. He hated jewelry and when I bought him a watch, he never wore it.

 

[Louboutin329]

I got my husband a white gold love ring for our 10th wedding anniversary because he wanted a simple band (his original was black titanium eternity with black diamonds) and he also already had a few Cartier pieces. So to answer part of your question, yes it's ok to buy a man a love ring. Part two, I agree with all the other commenters, that one month is dating is way too soon to buy anything that expensive, especially a ring with such a significant meaning/history behind it.

 

[leechiyong]

Wow. He actually told me this some time last week: "If you were to buy me a $2,800 watch, I would be happier if the same amount of money was spent on a trip (together) instead".

In that case, I highly recommend planning a trip albeit not quite so much as you're only a month in, but a weekend getaway would be nice.

Buying the ring would be like me getting golf shoes because I said I didn't want clubs. It would make me feel like my wants weren't important, especially if I'd suggested something else.

 

[Namwan-]

In that case, I highly recommend planning a trip albeit not quite so much as you're only a month in, but a weekend getaway would be nice.

Buying the ring would be like me getting golf shoes because I said I didn't want clubs. It would make me feel like my wants weren't important, especially if I suggested something else.

That totally makes sense, thanks so much!

 

[jellyv]

Surely not.

 

[lorihmatthews]

Absolutely not. Especially since you've only been dating a month and he has not gotten to the gift-giving stage yet.

 

[Namwan-]

So yesterday I asked him directly - "If I bought you a ring, would you wear it?" and he said no. He said he would prefer if I use the money to pay for a trip to another country instead. Good thing I asked him first.