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The day I became my grandmother: Our writer dons a mask to find out what it's like to be 90 in modern Britain
By TANYA GOLD - More by this author » Last updated at 09:39am on 18th April 2008
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Patronised: Transformed into a 90-year-old woman, Tanya Gold found many people treated her like a child
Three years ago I went to Eastbourne with my 90-year-old grandmother. One morning, as we sunbathed, an unknown woman approached. "Ah, Grandma," she cooed, reaching to stroke my grandmother's cheek. "Isn't it lovely that you're out with your granddaughter?"
My grandmother opened an eye. "Just because I am old," she snapped, "it doesn't mean I am an imbecile."
I often think about this encounter. What it is like to live for nearly a century and yet be patronised by strangers?
My grandmother lived through the Blitz and the General Strike. She remembers the abdication crisis and Winston Churchill.
She knows more British history than most graduates, and yet strangers talk to her as if she were a child.
There are more than 300,000 women over 90 in Britain, and this figure will double in the next 30 years.
New research by the Life Trust Foundation, released yesterday, showed that women aged 55 now have a 25 per cent chance of living until they are 95 - and they will mostly live alone or in care homes, in a lonely waltz from sofa to bed to coffin.
The figures are also a stark warning to those who are ill-prepared to deal with their "extended" lives.
Financial experts claim many face a bleak future of financial deprivation - with rising costs of living, and nursing care, millions may be left with no option but to sell their homes and dip into their savings just to free up cash.
So what is life really like for this increasingly isolated section of society? What is it really like living under my grandmother's skin?
I decide to spend a day impersonating a woman of 90. How will I be treated by other people? And how will I feel?
First, I need to convince the world I am an old woman.
I call Kristyan Mallett, a prosthetics designer. His expertise is creatures, corpses and characters, and he says he can make me a mask that will convince people I am very old indeed.
I meet him in a studio in North London and he takes a cast of my face and shoulders. Two months later the mask is ready.
Kristyan has sculpted huge, sagging cheeks, a swollen nose, hairs poking out of moles and loose rolls of fat about the neck.
He glues it onto my face. My 34-year-old eyes stare into the mirror. The effect is astonishing and utterly authentic. An old woman, ugly and wrinkled, stares back.
At this point the mask does not affect me emotionally. It is a game, a costume, a joke.
I have decided to spend the day touring London, talking to people to gauge their reactions, and doing things not expected of the elderly so I can see what the boundaries of acceptable behaviour are.
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The day I became my grandmother: Our writer dons a mask to find out what it's like to be 90 in modern Britain
By TANYA GOLD - More by this author » Last updated at 09:39am on 18th April 2008
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/li...ticle_id=560372&in_page_id=1879#StartComments
Patronised: Transformed into a 90-year-old woman, Tanya Gold found many people treated her like a child
Three years ago I went to Eastbourne with my 90-year-old grandmother. One morning, as we sunbathed, an unknown woman approached. "Ah, Grandma," she cooed, reaching to stroke my grandmother's cheek. "Isn't it lovely that you're out with your granddaughter?"
My grandmother opened an eye. "Just because I am old," she snapped, "it doesn't mean I am an imbecile."
I often think about this encounter. What it is like to live for nearly a century and yet be patronised by strangers?
My grandmother lived through the Blitz and the General Strike. She remembers the abdication crisis and Winston Churchill.
She knows more British history than most graduates, and yet strangers talk to her as if she were a child.
There are more than 300,000 women over 90 in Britain, and this figure will double in the next 30 years.
New research by the Life Trust Foundation, released yesterday, showed that women aged 55 now have a 25 per cent chance of living until they are 95 - and they will mostly live alone or in care homes, in a lonely waltz from sofa to bed to coffin.
The figures are also a stark warning to those who are ill-prepared to deal with their "extended" lives.
Financial experts claim many face a bleak future of financial deprivation - with rising costs of living, and nursing care, millions may be left with no option but to sell their homes and dip into their savings just to free up cash.
So what is life really like for this increasingly isolated section of society? What is it really like living under my grandmother's skin?
I decide to spend a day impersonating a woman of 90. How will I be treated by other people? And how will I feel?
First, I need to convince the world I am an old woman.
I call Kristyan Mallett, a prosthetics designer. His expertise is creatures, corpses and characters, and he says he can make me a mask that will convince people I am very old indeed.
I meet him in a studio in North London and he takes a cast of my face and shoulders. Two months later the mask is ready.
Kristyan has sculpted huge, sagging cheeks, a swollen nose, hairs poking out of moles and loose rolls of fat about the neck.
He glues it onto my face. My 34-year-old eyes stare into the mirror. The effect is astonishing and utterly authentic. An old woman, ugly and wrinkled, stares back.
At this point the mask does not affect me emotionally. It is a game, a costume, a joke.
I have decided to spend the day touring London, talking to people to gauge their reactions, and doing things not expected of the elderly so I can see what the boundaries of acceptable behaviour are.
More below.....................