...And he didn't say "This is where I will work and this is where you will stay while having my babies."
Well, neither does Duggar. Obviously, I cannot claim to be a big fan of the man, nor do I share his beliefs, but every conversation I have heard him had on the subject, he has been very clear that having each baby was up to Michelle.
Now, obviously we don't know if he tells her that having a baby is up to her but of course their beliefs would not permit any kind of contraception, so if she don't want baby, she don't get no Duggar. And yes. EW.
But I digress.
My point is that because Anna does share these beliefs, Josh does not need to tell her this is where you will stay and have the babies. I imagine that as Michelle says of her own daughters, they do not tell them that the MUST live that lifestyle, to dedicate themselves to home and children, but that this is what all of her daughters just happen to want.
We will all have to wait until the girls get a little older before we know if this is really the case, but I believe her.
This is a culture thing, it is what they believe, it is how they see themselves, their purpose in life, their destiny.
While their contact with the outside world is very strictly limited, it is not totally forbidden, they are not entirely aware of other lifestyles, other belief systems, just as you are not.
Yet you would probably not have high level of interest in marrying a Duggar son and cranking out product till the machine broke. Not because you don't realize you have that option, but because your own culture, and your own beliefs about your purpose and your value are just - different.
You could walk into just about any little village in the Hindu Kush and find nothing but Duggars, just a different cultural context, tied to a different faith tradition. And I can promise you, if you said to any of those girls, yo, come on with me back to the big city and go on dates by yourself with boys, maybe have a boyfriend, kiss him, sleep with him, maybe marry him, maybe marry somebody else, and then every day you will get up and go to your office and he will get up and go to his office, and some days you will meet him for lunch, where you will sit out on the street and drink white wine with your hair and your knees on display, you would not get a whole lot of takers.
Now what we don't know is, what if we went over there as a camera crew, and set up behind the mud walls and lived there for a few months, during which time the girls got to know us, and learned about our lifestyles and beliefs in THAT context - that's anybody's guess.
And so it will be with the Duggar girls. Who knows? One or more of them might decide she wants to grow up and wear a down vest with a whole mess of pockets and hold a boom all day - and then go have that white wine with her boyfriend and no chaperone!
