My BF and I have been together for about 2 years now and we had a stupid fight tonight about a male friend that I have known for about 9-10 years who recently got married.... So, this male friend of mine is having a party and he sent me a text today inviting both my BF and I to attend I told my BF about it and as I was doing that he made a comment like "ha, I guess we won't go" and i said "why not? we have no reason not to" and I went on to say that when we go I expect my BF to be on his best behavior and not to cause any drama I said that because he feels kinda awkward about my relationships with this male friend...but i've assured him numerous times that he has absolutely nothing to worry about because I've known this guy for like 9-10 years and NOTHING has happened (I spared him the little making out/hanging out details from 5+ years ago when we were both in HS) My BF started to feel really annoyed with my relationship with this guy when my friend sent me flowers for my birthday (they were gorgeous!) this year (last year he brought me champagne). My BF seems to think that my friend's wife doesn't know about it and that my friend has no right sending me flowers and should be taking care of his wife instead of butting into our relationship. Frankly, I don't think my friend's wife knows about it either but to me it doesn't matter - that's between them. IMHO i'm not interfering in their relationship because I'm not taking the flowers or any contact my friend makes with me (phone, texting, etc) as anything more than FRIENDSHIP. So yeah, back to topic. I asked him to be on his best behavior at my friend's party and not to cause any drama by mentioning the flower thing or the fact that him and I exchange text messages or phone calls periodically. (He has mentioned in the past that he would ask her if her ran into her or met her, my BF has not met either one yet). The BF kept insisting that he would ask my friend's wife whether she knows about it just so that he can find out whether he can trust my friend or not. So i made it quite clear that this guy is a friend, but certainlly not one that I would trust with much (this lack of trust is for various reasons). Now it seems as if he wants me to choose between my male friends and him. Which i just find so annoying that he would even ask me to do that and I told him i will absolutely NOT choose. Not because I have feelings for my friend, but because I have no feelings besides friendship for him and because my BF should really know better. He should know that my heart is his, that he is a priority in my life, that he should trust me, and that our relationship means a lot more to me than my friendship with this guy. He said he knows that, but still had this cocky sound in his voice as if he was out to prove something... So what do I do? If I let this go and tell him that I will let go of my friendships that means I'm letting him control me and my life (he doesn't see it that way) If we end up going to this party I'm afraid that he'll mention something stupid and cause drama between my friend and his wife just to mess up my friendship with this guy.... I don't want to end my relationship with my friend (even though he's not THAT good of a friend I still feel some type of loyalty due to how long we've known each other and our history together)...but I tried explaining all this to the BF and he just seems so stubborn about this topic and I just end up getting angry because he really doesn't see it my way ... I would like to think that if he had a female friend in his life that he's known for as long as i've known my friend I'd be understanding, but I don't know whether i would be or not Sorry for the rant, I'm just upset right now... Anyone have any advice?