My cousin is getting married in the first week of June, which is just over a month away. We're kind of closely related -- our mothers are first cousins -- but we were never really close until last month, when her mom came to my mom for help with the wedding. This wedding, by the way, is taking place in Malaysia, because that's where I'm from, and I think I'm doomed to go back home for it :evil:. When my family came to NY to visit me during winter break, my prenuptial cousin and her parents came along too. They stayed at a hotel, because my apartment is too small to fit them all, and when they I brought them over to see my apartment my mom, my cousin and her mom started going through my entire wardrobe, bags, shoes and all. While they were looking at my things, my cousin came across my favorite pair of Manolo Blahnik shoes... ... yes, the same pair that got stolen in Sex & The City. And she freaked out and begged me to lend them to her for her wedding :cry:. Unfortunately, we wear the same size. I didn't agree or refuse; I just kind of went, "Well...we'll see..." because I couldn't really say NO in front of both our moms. The thing is, I had planned to wear them to her wedding too :evil:. And now I wish I'd said something then, because when my mom called me this morning she said, "You'd better come up with a good excuse for not bringing your Manolos home for the wedding. She's banking on wearing them on that day." I don't know how to get out of this, because first of all I'd been so vague about lending her my shoes; secondly, I don't lend my shoes out, not to anybody, because they cost so much; thirdly, I can't stand my cousin, or her mother ! All they do is compare themselves and their possessions to what my mom and I have -- and I'm pretty sure she'll conveniently forget that they're my shoes when people compliment her on them. But if I don't lend her the shoes, and wear them to the wedding, she and her mom are going to make a huge deal out of it, especially to the elders of the family :worried:. So what should I do? Grit my teeth and let her wear the shoes, or stand my ground with both shoes on my feet and anticipate the storm warning?