I don't really think it's like...wrong. She's doing her job and getting paid! I mean...if you feel really bad while your tPFing you could always help her? Or offer her something to eat/drink? I dunno lol I don't really mind cleaning too much it helps me relieve stress (don't ask. lol)
Speaking of House Cleaning.....
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I don't think its wrong at all, you have the money and you're paying her which i'm sure she needs 
I guess I'm lucky: my DH likes having a cleaner as much as I do.
We're both working full time currently, and have no problem paying the cleaner £20 a week to be free during the weekend.
We never go out to dinner or drinks anyway, and even if we did, I'd give up an evening of overpriced drinks for peace of mind in a minute.
If my DH told me to get rid of her, I'd just tell him to start cleaning the house when I'm stuck in traffic at 6 pm
We're both working full time currently, and have no problem paying the cleaner £20 a week to be free during the weekend.
We never go out to dinner or drinks anyway, and even if we did, I'd give up an evening of overpriced drinks for peace of mind in a minute.
If my DH told me to get rid of her, I'd just tell him to start cleaning the house when I'm stuck in traffic at 6 pm
I'm kind of the same way as the OP - when the ladies (team of 2) come to clean every other week, I feel lazy drinking my tea and maybe being on the computer. I try to schedule doing the laundy then so I look a little busy!
I trust them completely, but I prefer to be here when they come, because I have quite a few dogs, and even though they are confined to their crates while the house is being cleaned, I feel worried if something should happen and I'm not here (several of the dogs are very watchdoggy and still are leery of the women).
I don't feel too guilty, cuz for one of the ladies, I board her steer
in exchange for her cleaning. And the other lady is retired otherwise and likes to make pocket money to go to the casino
So I guess we're all happy!
I trust them completely, but I prefer to be here when they come, because I have quite a few dogs, and even though they are confined to their crates while the house is being cleaned, I feel worried if something should happen and I'm not here (several of the dogs are very watchdoggy and still are leery of the women).
I don't feel too guilty, cuz for one of the ladies, I board her steer
in exchange for her cleaning. And the other lady is retired otherwise and likes to make pocket money to go to the casino So I guess we're all happy!
My housekeeper is here now. She comes once a week, and honestly, I prefer every other week, but i know she needs the money. I do pay her a little extra on every check and I haven given her and her family LOTS of clothes, and a few home decorations that I don't use any longer.
Today I have a cold and feel like crap and would much prefer to be in my bed, but won't because I feel guilty.
I do sometimes run errands while she is here, but not at least for an hour and half after she arrives.
Because my husband is very anal about how clean a house should be, he usually finds something to nitpik about; usually his shower; and I agree in part because she NEVER puts my sheets on correctly. they are usually put on upside down. I've mentioned it to her but I really don't think she gets it, so I just switch it once she leaves. We can't communicate well because she is hispanic and knows very little english.
thanks for your comments.
Today I have a cold and feel like crap and would much prefer to be in my bed, but won't because I feel guilty.
I do sometimes run errands while she is here, but not at least for an hour and half after she arrives.
Because my husband is very anal about how clean a house should be, he usually finds something to nitpik about; usually his shower; and I agree in part because she NEVER puts my sheets on correctly. they are usually put on upside down. I've mentioned it to her but I really don't think she gets it, so I just switch it once she leaves. We can't communicate well because she is hispanic and knows very little english.
thanks for your comments.
I don't work outside the home. My husband does. We have a 4,400 sf house and I have a 2 and a 4 year old. We have a house cleaner once a week. Every other week they do the whole house and every alternate week they do everything but the living/dining, laundry room, den and two bedrooms and a bath. I am lucky that my husband realizes that it is a huge job to take care of the kids AND clean all the time. We used to have it cleaned every two weeks but when my husband got promoted, we added the second cleaning.
Do I feel guilty? Nope. Not a bit. I think I used to in the beginning but I got over it.
I do a lot of other stuff that takes a lot of time....like keeping the clutter under control. Seems like our house would be perfect, doesn't it? (But it's not).
Do I feel guilty? Nope. Not a bit. I think I used to in the beginning but I got over it.
I do a lot of other stuff that takes a lot of time....like keeping the clutter under control. Seems like our house would be perfect, doesn't it? (But it's not).
We had a housekeeper because I was underway ALOT.So we hired a nice lady who came in once a week to help DH with cleaning,laundry,etc..Helped a great deal with 2 kids.She was a godsend while I was on deployment.
when I came home I still used her,once every 2 weeks. no guilt.
when I came home I still used her,once every 2 weeks. no guilt.
I have had help cleaning the house before. Agreed, I felt uncomfortable if I was here while they were here. I felt like I should be doing something 'useful'. But you are employing someone, and in this economy that is something that they should be grateful for.
I see nothing wrong with if it if you can afford it.
Oh that note, i'd like to spend that money else where.... bags perhaps
Oh that note, i'd like to spend that money else where.... bags perhaps
That's really neat! I was able to find a co-op (who also use environmentally friendly cleaning supplies), and I feel better knowing that the woman who cleans my house is paid a decent wage. She's great. I have to admit that it makes me uncomfortable to be there while she cleans (and it actually doesn't really happen for any more than a few minutes, and only if I'm running late to work). However, part of me doesn't think it should make me uncomfortable -- she's doing a job and it's a perfectly respectable job and we all work for someone. We treat each other with respect.
I hate ironing too, alone with cleaning. I hate ironing so much that I have things I haven't worn in over a year because I keep putting off ironing them.
I WISH my parents would get a housekeeper because they both work a lot and my mom has a bad back. I have a cleaning lady that comes to clean my apartment at school once a week and I LOVE it. Well it's included in my tuition so I'm sure I'm paying an arm and a leg for her, but she's great. If it was my house, I would feel awkward sitting on the couch and relaxing while she cleaned. I think you should just go on your computer the whole time. That way you're doing something. I would be afraid that she may think I'm rubbing it in her face that she's cleaning my house while I'm being a lazy bum, but I'm weird and I think about stuff like that.