Sometimes, I Feel Bad...

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darkangel07760

darkangel07760

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#1
I have a good deal of money in investments, and even though I have a simple job (due to the economy, I would like a better job sigh...) I am able to pay my property taxes, and oh ya know... a Cartier love bracelet (it's on its way! when I get it I will post pics... I saved like... $2000 by getting it used!)!
But my SO doesn't have that kind of money, and may never have it (he has bought me a couple of Tiffany pieces, and that is pretty awesome in my opinion! such as the bean that I am wearing in my avatar!)... I personally don't care, as long as he can take care of himself, but... sometimes I wonder if it makes him feel bad...
Anyone else in a similar situation?
I was thinking about getting my bracelet (once I get it officially authenticated by Cartier) engraved with a special message for him (I am buying this love bracelet as a symbol of how much I love him and how I want our love to be forever). He is planning on getting one as well, so he is saving and saving (i got mine early because it was on ebay, and ya gotta strike while the iron is hot, right?) until we find the one he wants.
I guess I won't feel better until he has one too.
 
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#3
When I met my husband I owned my own home and car and was doing just fine getting little pretties for myself. He was car-less, in a job that barely paid, and sleeping on the floor in someone elses apartment. But I had just gone through a string of guys with lots of money but very little more than that. My husband was kind and good and funny and treated me right. I didn't need someone to take care of me financially, I need someone to take care of me emotionally. Did it bother him..the financial part? Maybe a little, but time changes things. 10 years later he owns a commercial excavating company and takes good care of his family financially. I stay at home raising the kids and my photography has taken more of a very part-time turn as opposed to a career.
I love the idea of you both having the bracelets, but in my opinion I wouldn't get it engraved. I'd engrave something silver from Tiffany's, but not an expensive and prized thing such as a love bracelet.
Don't feel bad. Focus on how special your love is. Thats what life's really about.
 
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skphotoimages said:
When I met my husband I owned my own home and car and was doing just fine getting little pretties for myself. He was car-less, in a job that barely paid, and sleeping on the floor in someone elses apartment. But I had just gone through a string of guys with lots of money but very little more than that. My husband was kind and good and funny and treated me right. I didn't need someone to take care of me financially, I need someone to take care of me emotionally. Did it bother him..the financial part? Maybe a little, but time changes things. 10 years later he owns a commercial excavating company and takes good care of his family financially. I stay at home raising the kids and my photography has taken more of a very part-time turn as opposed to a career.
I love the idea of you both having the bracelets, but in my opinion I wouldn't get it engraved. I'd engrave something silver from Tiffany's, but not an expensive and prized thing such as a love bracelet.
Don't feel bad. Focus on how special your love is. Thats what life's really about.
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Thank you!
 
#6
If you never plan on re-selling the bracelet, why not get it engraved?

You should reassure him if he reacts sensitively to the issue, but that shouldn't stop you from buying items you enjoy and can afford, and he should learn to respect that if he doesn't already. Getting one used was very smart and you should also drive in the point that he doesn't need a matching bracelet if he does not want one, and that even if he can afford one, he should feel free to invest his money elsewhere. He could always wear a less expensive piece from the LOVE collection, a ring or a screw pendant, particularly.
 
#7
darkangel we're in the same boat. :) Almost exactly the same boat, i.e. he buys me Tiffany (or even Hermes) pieces which I'm always thankful for, but otherwise financially I am actually better off currently. We ALSO thought about getting matching (Hermes) bracelets. I feel bad too man ... he has no qualms about me buying my bags & jewellery because it is my own money, but I can't help but feel bad. Which is why I then reevaluated my lifestyle and decided that I'm not going to get any unless I really, really like them, in an effort to be more thrifty. And hopefully save for more important things like a house!
 
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tiffanysilver said:
If you never plan on re-selling the bracelet, why not get it engraved?

You should reassure him if he reacts sensitively to the issue, but that shouldn't stop you from buying items you enjoy and can afford, and he should learn to respect that if he doesn't already. Getting one used was very smart and you should also drive in the point that he doesn't need a matching bracelet if he does not want one, and that even if he can afford one, he should feel free to invest his money elsewhere. He could always wear a less expensive piece from the LOVE collection, a ring or a screw pendant, particularly.
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I might get it engraved, I am still on the fence about it! He never complains, he has never said anything about it, I guess it is just me overthinking things.
He and I both like having nice things, and he is the first person I have ever been with that appreciates and takes excellent care of everything he holds dear. I think that would be a great idea to get him something else from the LOVE collection. He actually surprised me by saying that he likes the LOVE bracelet and would wear one as well. Made me want one all the more! :)
 
#9
claypot said:
darkangel we're in the same boat. :) Almost exactly the same boat, i.e. he buys me Tiffany (or even Hermes) pieces which I'm always thankful for, but otherwise financially I am actually better off currently. We ALSO thought about getting matching (Hermes) bracelets. I feel bad too man ... he has no qualms about me buying my bags & jewellery because it is my own money, but I can't help but feel bad. Which is why I then reevaluated my lifestyle and decided that I'm not going to get any unless I really, really like them, in an effort to be more thrifty. And hopefully save for more important things like a house!
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I find it hilarious that 10 days into my "no frivolous spending" ban I find the LOVE bracelet that I had been looking for on Ebay and other similar sites for two years.
Ha!
Now my ban can continue. :)
 
#10
If he appreciates luxury and said he wants a Love bracelet, by all means make sure that man gets his bracelet! LOL. When he's saved enough help him scout ebay. You can suggest more affordable pieces in a tactful way ("Wouldn't it be romantic if you wore the instrument to open my bracelet? The symbolism is so beautiful.") But if he insists on the bracelet make sure he gets one.
 
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I'm in a pretty similar situation to you. I come from a significantly better-off background than my SO, and sometimes it does get to him. He worries that he will never be able to provide the life I am accustomed to, and truth me told, I suppose I do worry a bit too. Not because I worry about the "things", but simply because I don't want something as ugly as money to ever come between us. I have a lot of beautiful things, but I've unfortunately experienced a lot of ugliness in life.

I don't really have a solution to this problem other than to say make sure you both always remember that your relationship is the most important thing. I know it's a cliche, but money comes and goes; whereas love, if you nourish it, can last a lifetime!

Enjoy your Love bracelet :smile1:
 
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